I raised granddaughter from 0-6yrs - parents in last 1.5 years have removed my granddaughter from 4 school, 49 days missed and granddaughter is so behind. PRIOR, she attended a Christian School, no missed days and thriving.

Education is my only goal for my granddaughter. Parents have no clue that granddaughter is missing out on stability, learning & keeping up in schools, friendships, emotional well-being and being prepared for life. She is always behind in homework and they never go to PTA, open house or put her in sports. She is now behind, yet, unlike NoCal, Amador Co. - where you will be kept behind unless being tutored prior to starting next grade, here in SoCal, you take a test - and assigned to a class wherein, as a child, you aware you are in a "dummy" class etc.

This is sickening and my granddaughter is an AMERICAN and has rights to the best education available. I will pay for a private school. I moved to SoCal after spouse died this February and SHOCKED at the lax attitude of education.

I just found out today that bio-mother (parents never lived together or were married) is trying to register granddaughter in 5TH school - it is closer to mothers residence - she moves often and changes schools.

Dad has 2 bedrooms (mom - studio) and close to prior schools. Too dam lazy to care.

2nd issue is medical/dental care. When we let the parents have granddaughter for 3 months in summer as a youngster - she came home to our ranch with BOTTLE ROT - we had to have her put "under" to have silver on teeth to protect them from damaging permanent teeth. They refused to keep up dental and now has a cavity and refuses this basic need.

Please help - I'd like to try for temporary custody or at the very least, have court appoint me to be in charge of education & medical/dental.

I love my granddaughter and it seems these days, children should have more rights. My granddaughter was raised by OLD SCHOOL techniques (no cell, video games, computer, please/thank you and very outspoken and she wants to live with dad - stable - who lives in next apartment complex for families - I live next door in family complex.

Concerned/frustrated grandma
Oceanside, CA

How old is your grand daughter now?

She is 7 years old and will be 8 - Sept. 20 - going into 3rd grade

You have very few, if any, rights here. I would suggest working through the father. Get the father to fight for custody. Make the issues the child's education and development.

" love my granddaughter and it seems these days, children should have more rights. My granddaughter was raised by OLD SCHOOL techniques (no cell, video games, computer, please/thank you and very outspoken and she wants to live with dad - stable - who lives in next apartment complex for families - I live next door in family complex."

So why doesn't the Dad file for custody - what am I not understanding?

I would make this more about the child than the failure of the parents - if you go to Court.

So many issues, first the entire "she is american" I am sorry, what does that suppose to mean, sort of raises racist issues to me somehow. Children in other nations are very well educated.

Next , no children in US have no rights to the best education, many children in inner city in US have some of the poorest education. In the US there is a requirement that a child attend school and be educated, there is no right for a best education

The fact the child is missing so many days, is where I see the only real issue that may work in court. And as for as parents going to PTA, ( most do not in the US) as for as parents being involved in child's education, (most in US do not) So except for the moving and missing so many days, you described an average parent.

In fact, when I was in south Georgia, our school system had to establish a specail program, it had bus drives that had to knock on doors and wake kids up at times, none normally had breakfast, and many were far behind in varoius skills. So for some of the areas of the country, and for perhaps the inner city, you described an average student.

But best if you work though other parent, if you can, but just this, if the child is feed and not abused, will most likely not get any change in custody

On rereading I realized child was in a Christian school but not now. Wonder if this is an issue.

Also - "My granddaughter was raised by OLD SCHOOL techniques (no cell, video games, computer, please/thank you and very outspoken"

No saying anything about cell phones and video games. I my area grammar school children are on computers in the library, at home, doing homework, all the time. Private schools issue computers as early as grammar school.

I'm not saying kids should be playing video games or watching porn, but I don't believe computers are inherently evil.

I also don't know that a 7-year old "outspoken" child is necessarily fun to be around - just sayin'. I'm sure the other 7 year olds are impressed. As an adult I find precocious children rather, umm, trying -I truly don't need advice from a 7 year old.

A week ago you said you 'did your own guardianship and won.' What happened to that, and what are the terms ordered by the court?

Also, which parent is your child, and whose name(s) is/are on the b.c. since they aren't married?

I lost guardianship when she was 6. That case is open and transferred to San Diego County. Son is dad. On birth certificate is dad/son and mother.



A week ago you said you 'did your own guardianship and won.' What happened to that, and what are the terms ordered by the court?

Also, which parent is your child, and whose name(s) is/are on the b.c., since they aren't married?

Is there court ordered custody for the mother? Does your son have partial custody or visitation even if he doesn't use it?

I'm with Joy on this one - what is Court ordered?

Why did you lose custody?