Im a 15 yr old female. Im around 5'7" 5'6" and weight about 260-270 lbs! Im a huge ugly girl and I hate it! Ive tried for two years to lose weight. I was thinking about just stop eating or making myself throw up everything! Im tired of being fat! Im deppressed a lot but I have bipolar which makes it worse and I've tried suicide a couple times. Im lost and I need some help! Anybody out there?

Have you been to the doctor lately for a checkup?

Have you been to the doctor lately for a checkup?
Ive been to the doctor about 4 months ago for a sickness. That's it.

The first step would be to see your doctor and figure out if there's a medical reason that you can't lose weight.

If that checkup comes back clean, the next step is seeing a dietician, getting on a good diet, and exercising.

What have you done to lose weight? What sort of foods do you eat? What sort of exercise do you do?

Starving yourself won't work, nor will forcing yourself to throw up. Gaining the weight didn't happen overnight, and you won't lose it overnight either. You have to commit to a proper diet and exercise, and then the weight will come off. But first, see your doctor. You may have a medical problem that's making it hard to lose the weight.

As for the rest of your issues, only a counselor can really help you with that.

Good luck.

What kinds of food are you eating?
Avoid diet foods and drinks they actually trick your body into gaining weight.
Avoid fast foods, junk foods, processed foods,

How do you know you are bipolar? Usually that doesn't manifest itself until the early 20s. You've seen a psychiatrist and been formally diagnosed?

The first step would be to see your doctor and figure out if there's a medical reason that you can't lose weight.

If that checkup comes back clean, the next step is seeing a dietician, getting on a good diet, and exercising.

What have you done to lose weight? What sort of foods do you eat? What sort of exercise do you do?

Starving yourself won't work, nor will forcing yourself to throw up. Gaining the weight didn't happen overnight, and you won't lose it overnight either. You have to commit to a proper diet and exercise, and then the weight will come off. But first, see your doctor. You may have a medical problem that's making it hard to lose the weight.

As for the rest of your issues, only a counselor can really help you with that.

Good luck.

All right. The diets I've tried were cutting out grains like pasta and bread and no red meats... only water and eat a lot of veggies. Then I switched to high protein diet. I would eat protein bars and lots of veggies. Eat a variety of nuts. Then I tried a vegetarian diet. Diets are so easy for me to do and I never eat a lot. Im always outside walking with friends and I exercise a lot. I am very stalky for a girl and then on top of all the muscle I have fat! I just don't understand it.

How do you know you are bipolar? Usually that doesn't manifest itself until the early 20s. You've seen a psychiatrist and been formally diagnosed?
Ive been on medication since 11. They first thought it was anger issues with PTSD and ADHD then I got diagnosed with bipolar manic depressive at age 13.

Ive been on medication since 11. They first thought it was anger issues with PTSD and ADHD then i got diagnosed with bipolar manic depressive at age 13.
Which med? Some of them cause weight gain.

Which med? Some of them cause weight gain.
I don't remember all of them I was taking wellbutrin trazodone tegretol but I don't remember the others

I dont remember all of them i was taking wellbutrin trazodone tegretol but i dont remeber the others
All at once? You don't have prescription bottles?

All at once? You do't have prescription bottles?
No he would make me try them all at different times and yeah I just looked and I was also taking perphenzine at some point at the moment I'm not taking any mesications and just lying to him about ne taking it. Because last time he tried admiting me but I'm afraid so I just tell him I'm fine.

no he would make me try them all at differnt times and yeah i just looked and i was also taking perphenzine at some point at the moment im not taking any mesications and just lying to him about ne taking it. Because last time he tried admiting me but im afraid so i just tell him im fine.

Well, that's a horrible idea. No wonder you're suicidal. You need to take the meds your doctor prescribes. If you won't allow the doctors to help you, then there's no one else that can. You have to help yourself by doing what the doctors say. If you won't do that, there's really nothing anyone else can do. It starts with you.

Doesn't your doctor realize you aren't getting renewals of your current med(s)? Or are you renewing them but not taking them?

One of Tegretol 's side effects is rapid weight gain.

Well, that's a horrible idea. No wonder you're suicidal. You need to take the meds your doctor prescribes. If you won't allow the doctors to help you, then there's no one else that can. You have to help yourself by doing what the doctors say. If you won't do that, there's really nothing anyone else can do. It starts with you.
I know this. But he always tells me I shouldn't worry about any of them making me gain weight and I keep stressing that's PART OF THE REASON IM SO DEPRESSED! They only worry about my phycological issues. Im trying now to help with physical. What's my medicine going to do? Help me with my issues but even in my right state of mind(which even on those medications don't really help) I'm gaining weight. Which is giving me more reasons to be depressed. Eventually ill be a zombie taking meds. I don't like that. I just want to be happy with myself first before I'm"normal" in my mimd set. Do you get what I'm saying?

Doesn't your doctor realize you aren't getting renewals of your current med(s)? Or are you renewing them but not taking them?

One of Tegretol 's side effects is rapid weight gain.

Yeah just renewing them and then flushing them or throwing them away. /:

I just want to be happy with my self first before im"normal" in my mimd set. Do you get what im saying?
It works just the opposite -- you first get normal and then work to solve problems to become the best you can be.

Talk with your psychiatrist about the weight gain. Depression all by itself makes you eat whatever you can get your hands on to fill up the emotional holes..

I get what you are saying. My son was in the same catch 22 you are in. And the meds made him gain weight. Emphasis more to your Dr about your weight being the issue.

I know this. But he always tells me i shouldnt worry about any of them making me gain weight and i keep stressing thats PART OF THE REASON IM SO DEPRESSED! They only worry about my phycological issues. Im trying now to help with physical. Whats my medicine going to do? Help me with my issues but even in my right state of mind(which even on those medications dont really help) im gaining weight. Which is giving me more reasons to be depressed. Eventually ill be a zombie taking meds. I dont like that. I just want to be happy with my self first before im"normal" in my mimd set. Do you get what im saying?

I do understand, but I think you're doing this backwards.

You talk about committing suicide. You talk about depression. You need to deal with the psychological first, then the weight. Losing weight will take time, and a lot of patience. If you're suffering psychologically, trying to take your own life, then it's going to be impossible to succeed.

You need to find the meds that work to balance you out. That can take time. It's hit and miss. But, if you refuse to take the meds your doctor prescribes, you're never going to find what works. Yes, you may gain more weight while on these meds, but weight can be lost. Your life, if you take it, can't be regained. You're not dealing with the right thing right now. Take care of the mental health first, then worry about your weight.

I completely understand what you're going through, I'm not bipolar but I have suffered through depression. I went off my meds many times, thinking I could handle it, not wanting to be dependent on meds. It failed every time.

Deal with your mental health first. Take the meds, figure out what works, then deal with your weight. You're only 15, right now you have to deal with the most important thing. Being skinny won't matter a heck of a lot if you're too depressed to enjoy it.

It works just the opposite -- you first get normal and then work to solve problems to become the best you can be.

Talk with your psychiatrist abut the weight gain. Depression all by itself makes you eat whatever you can get your hands on to fill up the emotional holes..
It can also lead the other way;not eating. But I'm fat and I know but my problem is if my medications keep making me gain weight and they don't even work why should I? Im not worried with anything but losing the weight so I can be first happy with myself that way I won't have to take medication JUST for depression! Just to control my mood swings and issues I have mentaly!

It can also lead the other way;not eating. But im fat and i know but my problem is if my medications keep making me gain weight and they dont even work why should i? Im not worried with anything but losing the weight so i can be first happy with myself that way i wont have to take medication JUST for depression! Just to control my mood swings and issues i have mentaly!
There are meds that DON'T make you gain weight. But continuing to toss them out will not fix the depression that causes you to overeat.

Losing weight will not make you happy if you are depressed. You will find another excuse to avoid the medication you need to get out from under the depression.

I get what you are saying. My son was in the same catch 22 you are in. And the meds made him gain weight. Emphasis more to your Dr about your weight being the issue.
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Like I said earlier he says he not concerned about weight because I'm stalky and all but I keep telling him 260 is pretty freaking big for a 15 yr old that is only 5'6" I just hate myself completely! But no,lets just make you more fat and more depressed. Yeah,no thanks doc.

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Like i said earlier he says he not concerned about weight because im stalky and all but i keep telling him 260 is pretty freaking big for a 15 yr old that is only 5'6" i just hate myself completly! But no,lets just make you more fat and more depressed. Yeah,no thanks doc.
Then go to a different psychiatrist who will understand what you are saying.

It can also lead the other way;not eating. But im fat and i know but my problem is if my medications keep making me gain weight and they dont even work why should i? Im not worried with anything but losing the weight so i can be first happy with myself that way i wont have to take medication JUST for depression! Just to control my mood swings and issues i have mentaly!

If you're not taking your meds, then the meds aren't making you fat. Just saying.

There are meds that DON'Tmake you gain weight. But continuing to toss them out will not fix the depression that causes you to overeat.

Losing weight will not make you happy if you are depressed. You will find another excuse to avoid the medication you need to get out from under the depression.
If there are meds out there that won't why wouldn't he give me those instead of the others. He hasn't gave me any other meds to try besides the others I told you about
My main issue for me is my Weight. Mental issues is second!

If there are meds out there that wont why wouldnt he give me those instead of the others. He hasnt gave me any other meds to try besides the others i told you about
My main issue for me is my Weight. Mental issues is second!
Your depression and eating incorrectly are making you fat. Only one of those you mentioned has a side effect of rapid weight gain.

Did you take the others correctly -- right dose at the right times?

If you're not taking your meds,then the meds aren't making you fat. Just saying.

You would think huh? Im not gaining weight at the moment. Im just staying at the same weight it went down by 13 then up 1 then I just stayed at the same.

Your depression and eating incorrectly are making you fat.

That's why I asked for help. You know that right? Not for people to tell me go exercise. Eat right. Im looking for good answers to help. Not to make me feel worse about myself.

Thats why i asked for help. You know that right? Not for people to tell me go exercise. Eat right. Im looking for good answers to help. Not to make me feel worse about myself.
Everything you are telling us is making ME feel worse about you.

You must get the depression straightened out first. No diet or food change will work for you until then because you won't stick to anything very long.

Everything you are telling us is making ME feel worse about you.

You must get the depression straightened out first. No diet or food change will work for you until then because you won't stick to anything very long.

Okay so what your saying is to just take it. Find the right one. Theb worry about it? It sounds so simple. But it isn't how am I supposed to get better by making one of my issues worse. Ill try and get the ones that won't make me gain but what will I do if I cant? All I'm asking is for someone to please give me a diet and some exercises to help me.

Okay so what your saying is to just take it. Find the right one. Theb worry about it? It sounds so simple. But it isnt how am i supposed to get better by making one of my issues worse. Ill try and get the ones that wont make me gain but what will i do if i cant? All im asking is for someone to please give me a diet and some exercises to help me.
First find a psychiatrist you can work/talk with and get meds without weight-gain side effects.

Does your psychiatrist just hand you a prescription or does he/she meet with you once a week for counseling? If not that, do you see a counselor at least once a week?

(P.S. I'm a counselor and will stick with you on this.)

Okay so what your saying is to just take it. Find the right one. Theb worry about it? It sounds so simple. But it isnt how am i supposed to get better by making one of my issues worse. Ill try and get the ones that wont make me gain but what will i do if i cant? All im asking is for someone to please give me a diet and some exercises to help me.

There's really nothing that will work at this point.

I know it's depressing, but right now you have to get your mental issues under control. Like I said, you're doing this backwards. What's the point in losing a bunch of weight if you still feel crappy about yourself afterwards? Then you start taking meds and gain back all the weight you lost and you're back at square one.

Deal with the psychological first, and ignore the weight (as hard as that may be). When you find the right meds to deal with your mental issues, then we can start to concentrate on your weight.

Not saying that you should binge eat, or eat bad foods, or stop exercising. But, for now, your mental health is top priority. Start taking your meds.

First find a psychiatrist youcan work/talk with and get meds without weight-gain side effects.

Does your psychiatrist just hand you a prescription or does he/she meet with you once a week for counseling? If not that, do you see a counselor at least once a week?

(P.S. I'm a counselor and will stick with you on this.)
I go in once a month and we talk he is a counselor anda psychiatrist that works in hospitals and a place that he has his own work in. Which is where I go. He asks me how I am. I always reply fine. Then he talks to my mom about me then he will ask me the same questions" how are your moods? Are you still seeing things? Are your impulsions getting better?" Same replies fine. No. And a bit
He gives me refills on the pills then my day goes on. Im glad you're a conselor
Could I talk to you about other things to? Or are you just a listener?

I go in once a month and we talk he is a counselor anda psychiatrist that works in hospitals and a place that he has his own work in. Which is where i go. He asks me how i am. I always reply fine. Then he talks to my mom about me then he will ask me the same questions" how are your moods? Are you still seeing things? Are your impulsions getting better?" Same replies fine. No. And a bit
He gives me refills on the pills then my day goes on. Im glad your a conselor
Could i talk to you about other things to? Or are you just a listener?

Your counselor can't help you until you're honest with him. You're not being honest at all. Until you are, you won't ever get the help you need.

There's really nothing that will work at this point.

I know it's depressing, but right now you have to get your mental issues under control. Like I said, you're doing this backwards. What's the point in losing a bunch of weight if you still feel crappy about yourself afterwards? Then you start taking meds and gain back all the weight you lost and you're back at square one.

Deal with the psychological first, and ignore the weight (as hard as that may be). When you find the right meds to deal with your mental issues, then we can start to concentrate on your weight.

Not saying that you should binge eat, or eat bad foods, or stop exercising. But, for now, your mental health is top priority. Start taking your meds.
I know your right. But, I don't know what it is... its hard to explain... I rather be skinny and deal with my bipolar like I am now. Yeah I do get in a lot of trouble because of it but my appearance is too important to me.

I go in once a month and we talk he is a counselor anda psychiatrist that works in hospitals and a place that he has his own work in. Which is where I go. He asks me how I am. I always reply fine. Then he talks to my mom about me then he will ask me the same questions" how are your moods? Are you still seeing things? Are your impulsions getting better?" Same replies fine. No. And a bit
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Im glad you're a conselor Could I talk to you about other things to? Or are you just a listener?
We aren't supposed to take discussions off the boards. Could you start a new thread if they aren't related to this? You are anonymous, you know.

You say FINE????? FINE????? Awkkkkkkkkkkkkkk!!!!!We aren't supposed to take discussions off the boards. Could you start a new thread if they aren't related to this? You are anonymous, you know.
Yeah
I can.