So there's this guy. I met him when we went to a club.
That night we switched number. After tthat night he wouldn't leave me alone, He was practically stalking me.
I liked him for long time before I met him .
After about the month he kept on tryng his a** of to get with me and I have no idea why but I fell for him.
We started going out lat week Tuesday 03.20.07 and he broke up with me last night with over the internet the exuses that we both "party animals and we are meant to be single."
I called him asking what is it suppose to mean, since the nigth before at the exactly same time He told me he loved me. He just woudlnt talk so hung up the phone on him.
Then he called my friend and started sayign that everythign he did during the month he was trying to get with me was worthed and that he really does love me but he doesn't know what he wants and that he can't get over the fact the he wasn't single anymore.
I really like, Have been for 0ver 6 months now and I was really happy I got him, and now that it ended I just want him back and I dotn kow what am I suppose to do. He just wants to be friends. I keep on thinking about him and I dotn know what to do. Plizz help =/

"party animals and we are meant to be single." - that's an excuse because you could party together!

Seems like he doesn't want this relationship but you do... as I said in your other post... unless you want a road of heartache move on... FAST

Are you sure that you want him back or it is just the fact that he is gone now you want him. If you got him you may fall into the same rutt that you were in before you left.

Yes, we want what we can't have!

I can't get over him . Its hard. =[

Of course its hard... nothing is easy in this world...

Its all part of life and growing up! We pass through things that we don't want to pass through but sometimes you just have to be strong and overcome it!

If you don't let yourself do so... its only YOU that will hurt in the long run... not anyone else.

Ahh I'm trying to but I can't and when I see him already flriting with other girlls I get so jealousee

Give yourself some chance, things don't happen over night!

that's actually I pretty good idea thanks =]

I don't know why but I get a feeling that he's kind of a player or he really is one.

It's just a comment I wanted to make...

That what I thought too. Its confusing how can u love someoen and leae them?

that what i thought too. Its confusing how can u love someoen and leae them?

He doesn't know what loving someone really is. He just knows what having fun is. :rolleyes: And this is what he wants...

that what i thought too. Its confusing how can u love someoen and leae them?

I would say because he doesn't truly love you, he may really really like you, but LOVE is a huge word, and not to be used when not meant because its not fair on the other person such as you.
Be strong girl... :)

Run a mile, this is not love here, seems more like an infatuation. Do not go where he is, work actively to avoid him. There are plenty more fishes about in the clubs!

I think , he is making up , I am alwaya saying : nothing makes guys stronger over their girl except another girl

Listen to Jiser, he's right on the money

I really don't think he feels the same way you do so at least he was honest and left you alone. It may hurt now, but it would hurt more if he had used you and said nothing. You'll be okay in time.

It sounds like you are both young, insecure, and don't know what you want out of life. Try going to church instead of meeting guys in bars. Take it from me, those relationships don't last and aren't worth the trouble.

Neither of you knows what you really want and the fact that he is gone, you want him..

He does not sound ready for a relationship anyway.

Take others advice and move on!

I just want to point a couple things out. You said you met him in the club, honestly I don't think love can be found in a club. I mean, it's a night club.<--that right there should speak for itself.

The fact that he said we are both party animals and meant to be single, is letting me know that he just wants the "fling thing" and is not ready for a serious commitment.

The fact that he told you "he loved you" is also another sign that he is not ready for a real relationship. He is leading you on and "singing whispers of empty nothings in your ear".

Maybe to keep you on a leash? I don't know, or maybe hell try to con you into sex? I don't know.

I guess the point I'm trying to make is, I'm pretty sure you struck a "players club" kind of guy.

But hey, if that's what you want more power to you.

He still wants to be friends... and I don't know if I should

It all depends on you. If you think you can hold a friendship with this kind of person, go for it. But also keep in mind that you know the kind of person he is.

If you still have feelings, friendship now will be really hard. I suggest you wait until you are over him completely.

"Friend" is a very flexible word - it can mean just about anything from "a person I know a little bit and can get along with" to "the person I know best in the world". In this case, it sounds to me that he's using the "someone to keep around in case I wanna have fun" definition of the word "friend".

If you're OK with that, enjoy it; but if not, you probably want to let him go.

He's about 5 years away MINIMUM from not using comically absurd excuses for a break-up.

I'm afraid that the truth is he did not "love" you.
He was in "Lust" with you. But the good news is that means you are rather attractive. I am sure.

Next time, you decide who you want to sleep with and
If it's a player... ok. If it's not, OK. There will be OTHERS.

Avoid him. It's OVER.