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__UnderRated__
Jul 26, 2013, 11:41 PM
Okay so basically my mom hates me. Its apparent. She even said that if she wasn't my mother she would fight me. Like today she cursed me out in front of all my brother's friends because I said I like a certain car. She said she would never get it for me. I never asked her to. My brother finally stepped in and even said "she never asked you too". She realized she was being stupid and finlly she calmed down.

We get along great until my brother is around. I've told her that I feel that he's treated better and she gets mad. She use to say she didn't treat him better and I was just to emotional, but now she even admitted that she does because she "just doesn't get along with me." I have no one in my family but my older aunt to talk to. She and all of my brother's friends even ask why she treats me so bad. Even my brother makes jokes saying I'm not like you. She would never do me bad, but yet she acts as if I'm just to stupid to see her signs.

Its gotten so bad that I have even started thinking of ways to just kill myself. I hate being here. I can't wait till I'm out of school. I need help bad.

N0help4u
Jul 27, 2013, 03:18 AM
Ask your mom why she treats you okay when your brother isn't around and she can't treat you better when he is. Ask your brother to stick up for you more. Get closer to your brother and try avoiding things that cause your mom to go off. How old are you and your brother? Do you have any kind of relationship with your dad?

joypulv
Jul 27, 2013, 04:29 AM
You have to grit your teeth and make the best of your aunt and your brother and your friends, and wait until you are away from home. That's what all of us had to do when we weren't loved.
It's possible that your mother has financial worries? Flying off the handle about a certain car would only make sense if she has a hard time keeping her own car running. We don't know if you really do rub her the wrong way or not, such as wanting a lot of new clothes. ASK her if money is a big worry.

JudyKayTee
Jul 27, 2013, 08:45 AM
I have no idea why one child is favored over another. The unfavored child often learns that he/she will never be the favored child, learns to be quiet, learns to stay out of the offending parent's way. It's not fair, but that's how it is.

Where is your father in this equation?

And, yes, you grow up, move out and on.

I once read that parents don't like the child in which they see their own "bad" tendencies. I don't know - my mother is/was very cold toward all of us. I have no idea what her issue was/is.

I was lucky - I had very loving grandparents, aunts and uncles.