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Nina97
Jul 26, 2013, 08:44 AM
Story: OK so for about a month now I've been talking to this guy. Well it's more like a long distance talk/text thing. An I met him on an online game. Anyway at first we would chat, play PC games together and his best friend would even group up as if we were all old buddies and play computer games with us too. Mayb the next week we all wanted to c what we looked like and all so we all did skype. Over time then it got to the point where me and the guy were just texting each other constantly. . Like he would stay up until like 4 in the morning just to talk to me. Now since its been like a month he's a really good guy:) I mean I can just tell by his personality and all. Dw we've skype and all and he's not some old creeper, he's abput my age... The point is that he admitted to me that he really likes me and all and I said the same thing. Over the weeks my feelings for him have been getting stronger and stronger to the point where everything I do, see, or hear reminds me of him. It doesn't seem like an obsession but I really really like him. But the problem is that I have to always delete his texts and keep our relationship a secret from my parents. (We don't do anything appropriate,were responsible and just keep in touch kind of like friends). But I'm just afraid that if his or my parents find out about us, ill lose him... Please tell me what I should do...

N0help4u
Jul 26, 2013, 08:48 AM
You say you aren't doing anything wrong, just friends, -treat him like any other friend. Maybe someday when you are older and can actually meet then concern yourself with any complications. Til then he's just another friend. Sounds like you are a bit obsessed but in time that may die down some

Wondergirl
Jul 26, 2013, 08:49 AM
First of all, please don't text, but spell out words and use good English (site rule).

Second, how are are both of you?

Nina97
Jul 26, 2013, 09:09 AM
You say you aren't doing anything wrong, just friends, -treat him like any other friend. Maybe someday when you are older and can actually meet then concern yourself with any complications. Til then he's just another friend. Sounds like you are a bit obsessed but in time that may die down some
Ok but what about the issue concerning my parents? They will probballly freak out knowing that Im talking to this boy who doesn't even live where I do? Should I just tell him that we should just b friends for now?

Nina97
Jul 26, 2013, 09:09 AM
First of all, please don't text, but spell out words and use good English (site rule).

Second, how are are both of you?
How old r we? I'm 16 and he's about to turn sixteen soon

Wondergirl
Jul 26, 2013, 09:13 AM
If I were you, I would tell my parents that I met this interesting guy when playing online games and I'd like them to "meet" him too via Skype.

Nina97
Jul 26, 2013, 09:16 AM
If I were you, I would tell my parents that I met this interesting guy when playing online games and I'd like them to "meet" him too via Skype.
Mhm OK but the thing is my parents are very strict and his parents are the same way. His parents are basically against the idea of him talking to a girl:/ I mean if this causes problems for him and his family, would it be best if we lost communication?

Wondergirl
Jul 26, 2013, 09:21 AM
Talking to any girl or to a girl online?

How about your parents Skype with his parents?

Are you two in the same country?

Nina97
Jul 26, 2013, 09:32 AM
Talking to any girl or to a girl online?

How about your parents Skype with his parents?

Are you two in the same country?
Umm I'm not to sure I think it's talking to a girl all together :/ anyway I agree it sounds like a good idea but irk how to confront my parents calming about this. I don't want them to freak out like they always do because they are very hard to talk to. Ih sorry he lives in Florida and I live in CA...

N0help4u
Jul 26, 2013, 09:52 AM
Like I was saying start like he is just another friend. Tell them the things you do on the internet, tell them about the other people you talk to on the internet. Tell them about him. Add that you find him interesting and wouldn't mind meeting him someday when you are old enough. Right now he is just someone you know on the internet that you could lose interest in eventually or never even get to meet.

Nina97
Jul 26, 2013, 10:00 AM
Like I was saying start out like he is just another friend. Tell them the things you do on the internet, tell them about the other people you talk to on the internet. Tell them about him. Add that you find him interesting and wouldn't mind meeting him someday when you are old enough. Right now he is just someone you know on the internet that you could lose interest in eventually or never even get to meet.
Ok thank you, sounds pretty straight forward and reasonable. I'll see what I can do.