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melody5
Jul 25, 2013, 10:30 PM
Hi everyone. I just want to ask for some advice about this situation I have with my friends. I mean close friends. Here's the thing, I admit I've done something bad with one of my friend and I hurt her feelings but I said sorry and talked to her heart to heart. I make her understands why I did that. Somehow we kind of sorted it out. I said sorry and she accepted my apology.

Then after few days on the weekend I never heard anything from them even on Facebook. She didn’t updating anything on her status. I mean all of my friends, we used to hang out on weekends, I message to some of my friends on Facebook and I asked them what’s the plan for the weekend but they never replied, until they posted their pictures getting together, all of them only me wasn't there. So from that time I understood they’re trying to stay away from me.

It’s been a month now since I never contacting them and talked to them but we all still friends on Facebook. My question is should I just leave them? I mean let them on my friends Facebook or should I remove them on my friends list? Honestly its hurting my feelings every time seeing them hanging out together posting their pictures on Facebook. I mean they are my close friends its hurts me a lot and I miss them.

I admit I made mistake but I’m willing to fix everything but they just want to get rid of me. I’m trying to move on and learn from my lesson, but main thing is should I delete them on my Facebook or should I just let them on my friends list.

Thank you so much I would love to hear any advice. God bless all.

joypulv
Jul 26, 2013, 02:14 AM
Leave them on your friends list for now. But you sound like you think your apology was good enough, and I have a feeling it wasn't. Sometimes it's the way you apologize - an apology should never have one single excuse in it, no 'buts' or 'if you hadn't done this, I wouldn't have done that' or 'I'm sorry, OK?' or 'I wasn't thinking.' Other times the pain is just too much, and even though they forgive you, they don't want to be friends any more. Other times they just need time apart for a while.
It does sound like you lost all of them.
If you are willing to talk here about what you did wrong, maybe we can have some clues about whether it's fixable.

JudyKayTee
Jul 29, 2013, 07:53 AM
"i admit I've done something bad with one of my frnd and i hurt her fellings but i said sorry and talked to her heart to heart, i make her understands why i did that, somehow we kind of sort it out i said sorry and she accepted my apology"


Accepting an apology and forgiving you are two entirely different things. I was in a relationship with someone who cheated. He apologized. I accepted his apology. We were both sincere.

I just didn't want to spend any more time with him, have any contact with him.

What's the saying? Do it to me once, shame on you. Do it to me twice, shame on me.

Your friends have lost trust/faith in you. They don't want contact. Respect that and remove them. You may want to work it out. They don't.

melody5
Aug 3, 2013, 10:45 AM
Thank you for your kind feedback and advice.. yeah I should probably leave them alone as they want, and move on and learn from my own mistakes... and I also removed them now on my fb frndslist otherwise its hurts me more... thank you so much..