Ok so we have been friends for like four years now or a little more and in the past year he has changed he pays more attion to me then he did before so when I started expecting he likes me was a little over a month ago I was going up to my grandmas and was going to stay a week up there but we went up there to have dinner and go swimming well anyway he ended up staying up there with me after my parants left he ask me if I *********he said one of his other friends asked him to ask me but I don't think his friend asked him that I think he just wanted to know but anyway after I told him the answer he asked me if I watch something and I told him and after that I don't know its like he changed to a ccompletly different person which kind of made me change some but the next day we went swimming while my grandma mowed the grass we were westleing and joking around when we were westling he was trying to dunk me and grabed me and basically was huging me which I really didn't mind but still it was kind of weird for him anyway and he did it every time we went swimming which was only a few times because of the rain but that week he was like a completely different person he was making perverted jokes and all I mean he still does it sometimes but not that much but when another one of his friends comes over to his house when I'm there he acks different he kind of igores me it kind of makes me mad but at the same time making me wonder why is it because he likes me or what I remember him saying a while back that he is straight but why is he acting like this is he just trying to be friendly I haven't told him I'm bi but maybe he thinks I am which would be true but please help me I'm kind of lost here

Wow - your letter was amusing to say the least. Your introduction to your question was ridiculous. HI - I'M BI - who care what your sexual orientation is? You need to change your introduction to Hi - I'm (your name), and need a little advice. You seem to be more than just your description you portray. With that said...

I am wondering why you just can't ask him? Being upfront is so much easier in the long run and you won't have to "THINK" so much. If he is your "friend", I would bet he would rather have you be straight up. Maybe he is feeling the same, maybe he is feeling you like him more than a friend and he is NOT into "BI" girls etc. etc.

Your generation wants to be so independent - yet, can't even be assertive - in a kindly manner - and get the answer you may or may not want - but NO GUESSING GAME!

Grandma

First off when you are expressing yourself don't allow others to tell you how to express yourself. Your introduction was fine.

If you ask your friend remember there are several outcomes that can happen. He can say yes he likes you. He can say no. He can stop talking to you completely. He can tell the whole schoool. Just remember anytime you ask a question you need to be ready for any answer.

You sound like you pretty much know who you are. I am guessing you are in your early teens. Not every teenager understands themselves to the depth that you understand you. So if this guy is struggling with his identity he may not be ready to admit it to anyone yet.

And again, express yourself how you want to.

Bi, your title is good. It lets us know what your main issue is in just a few words. It also is a lot less common than, "Help" or "I need advice" which many posters use and do not tell us anything.-Thank you.

I am going to guess you and your friend are at least thirteen years old, but not much older. Perhaps, fourteen or fifteen? This is an age of exploration and self-discovery other wise known as puberty. Hormones are affecting growth, attitude, behavior, etc. This is a time of crude jokes and learning what sexual innuendoes are/mean. 'Perverted' jokes are quite common and don't mean anything.

As for the rough-housing, has it changed or has your perception changed? Are you focusing more on the contact than you had been?

As for his behavior when another friend is around, that too can be normal. He is trying to figure out where he stands in the social hierarchy. It may also be that he spends more time around you and when the other friend(s) is around, he is focusing on the less familiar relationship. He may not even realize he is acting differently or ignoring you. He may expect you to speak up for yourself.

You can ask him what is going on. Friends should be able to talk. But, personally, I wouldn't ask about his sexuality unless I had thoughts of asking him out on a date. Because his sexuality doesn't matter if we are just friends and I would hope that mine wouldn't matter to him. I might talk to him about his jokes and other behavior if it was bothering me (too close, too crude/perverted, etc.), but that could lead to the behavior getting worse under the guise of 'teasing'. It could also lead to a better understanding of the boundary lines.

Learning about boundaries, where they are and how to set them, is a part of growing up and building relationships of all kinds. Good luck.

By the way, I fully agree with Oliver.

Bi, don't let someone who has posted 10 times tell you what is and what is not appropriate. There are clear anger issues, same "your generation" thread through all her answers. I have no idea what generation is "yours" - or anyone else's, for that matter.

Otherwise, I totally agree with Oliver!

(I think you expressed yourself very well.)