Mizucrest
Jul 24, 2013, 03:31 PM
To start with My Girlfriends Past:
What bothers me about her past is that she used to go clubbing and drinking at bars and she has slept with some people I know and it bothers me and her ex bothers me. She has nothing to do with any if that stuff anymore because when I met her I changed her for the better and she's done with all that stuff and wants something good and real just like me. She noticed that she finally found a good guy and that the lifestyle she was living when I met here and starting dating was, something I didn't like and I'm guessing she liked me enough to listen to me and change and stop being crazy cause that's not what I wanted. I've also had a past of partying and stuff but it's the past sexual relations stuff about her that bothers me and I haven't had any bad ones like she has. I want a nice and pure girl and knowing about her past kind of taints her for me.
Now based on my judgment I believe she is a really sweet girl, we've been dating for 7 months and we love each other, it's nice to finally find someone were you can be yourself and get along and that you're also physically attracted to and have chemistry. Okay so, I don't like that she used to go out and drink and be wild (she's a country girl BTW) and sleep with people. I wouldn't have a problem if it was a relationship over just having sex to have sex. Another thing that bothers me is she knows how to dance naughty and shake that booty like a black girl can and that bothers me because I picture here doing that in clubs and drinking and I never saw myself with a girl like that and would never be attracted to those kind of women if I knew that's what they did.
I found out about all this stuff a couple months later and I chose to continue to be with her even though it bothered me because I loved her and I see the good in her and how beautiful and sweet she is (also how cute she is). Everything I've seen about her now has been good and I'm just like how could you of done all that crap? I can't believe it. Okay now on to her ex and this is what really bothers me (also there is this guy that we both know and when I ask her if she slept with him she says yes and talks about it like its nothing and I'm like uhh I don't want to hear that crap. I like you and why would you tell me that? She also said he was good in bed and this was all within the first month we were hanging out. I guess she thought we were just friends at the time and that's why she told me all that. Also she has hung out with a lot of guys in the past and she talked to them that way all the time but they were losers and so I'm guessing that's why she talked to me that way. It took her a little but did catch on and be like oh! This guy loves me and we are together so I shouldn't talk that way with him because he's not just another guy, he's my man! Okay on to the ex. She dated him for 3 years or so and the guy treated her like crap all the time but for some reason she stayed with him. They used to watch porn together and have sex and that really bothers me. It's like she gets influence wrong and just goes with it but she's a very sweet and good girl but gets sullied by and with other people. Then there was this one night that her ex wouldn't let her stay at his friend's house unless she had sex with both of them at the same time and she didn't want to go home and get in trouble and so she did it and she hates herself for doing it. She tells me to never bring it up. So know I know she slept with two guys at the same time and that really bothers me. She says she did it because she thought it would make her ex love her and stop treating her like crap I guess.
So 3-4 months into dating I caught her history on the Internet and she had looked at porn and I don't like that and consider it cheating and wrong and if she loves me, it's me and nothing else. So she lied to me about it and said it just popped up but I know it didn't so she finally came clean about it and told me it's a habit from her ex. And that when I learned about all that crap with her ex. And now days she has been deleting her history all the time and it makes me feel like she's watching porn again. Especially if we fight and don't see each other for a couple days, but it would create a huge fight if I asked her if she was because I have asked her that in the past and it was a big deal and she always was like I promised you I wouldn't do it anymore and I haven't.
Okay all this stuff above bothers me and I want to be okay with it and realize that that's not her and move one without me still feeling bad about it. I want to stay with her because she is special and her family likes me and I don't want to miss this opportunity to be with someone who I know will be faithful to me and won't ever do any crazy stuff again.
Okay now the fighting,
We seem to fight a lot. We get along and enjoy each other's company and love one another but we seem to argue and/or fight a lot. And most of the time it's over stupid crap. She can just be very difficult. Especially when we both get tired we get short with each other, stressed out and cranky. When I first started dating her she hated it when I was tired because she wanted me to be lively and to do things with her and I'm like WTH? She would get on to me for being tired and I'm like I worked my but off the whole day and did many things for you as we'll as brought you flowers and bought you a watch. Sometimes it feels like she doesn't appreciate me and it makes me feel not important.
She is 3 years younger than me, I'm 26 and she just feels less immature than me and still kind if a baby because she literally has been spoiled her whole life up to about 3-4 weeks ago and she's now on her own and got a real job. I'm a really relaxed person so I want to be able to feel comfortable and relaxed if I feel like it and not feel like I have to push out some extra effort all the time when I'm with her. She is a very moody person and she has type 1 diabetes so that makes things worse. Plus she has huge expectations out if life and is not realizing life is harder then she thought it was going to be and she feels like she going to be poor and have to work all the time and be unhappy. I really don't know what to do about the fighting, it just seems like she can be so ridiculous and just pushes my buttons like crazy and then we start fighting and I can do or say one thing and it will set her off. Somehow she will take it the wrong way and just blow up. She is sort of negative and pessimistic. She says she's just a realist and I'm like. Yeah okay. So anyway we really love each other and can really have fun and be happy but we can also be the opposite and it feels like there is way too much of it and I need some advice or thoughts. Also I need some advice and thoughts about how to handle her past. I really appreciate it. We have been thinking whether we should take a break too. We see the possibility of it being helpful, but we don't want to be separated that long. Okay thanks guys. This will really help me out a lot
What bothers me about her past is that she used to go clubbing and drinking at bars and she has slept with some people I know and it bothers me and her ex bothers me. She has nothing to do with any if that stuff anymore because when I met her I changed her for the better and she's done with all that stuff and wants something good and real just like me. She noticed that she finally found a good guy and that the lifestyle she was living when I met here and starting dating was, something I didn't like and I'm guessing she liked me enough to listen to me and change and stop being crazy cause that's not what I wanted. I've also had a past of partying and stuff but it's the past sexual relations stuff about her that bothers me and I haven't had any bad ones like she has. I want a nice and pure girl and knowing about her past kind of taints her for me.
Now based on my judgment I believe she is a really sweet girl, we've been dating for 7 months and we love each other, it's nice to finally find someone were you can be yourself and get along and that you're also physically attracted to and have chemistry. Okay so, I don't like that she used to go out and drink and be wild (she's a country girl BTW) and sleep with people. I wouldn't have a problem if it was a relationship over just having sex to have sex. Another thing that bothers me is she knows how to dance naughty and shake that booty like a black girl can and that bothers me because I picture here doing that in clubs and drinking and I never saw myself with a girl like that and would never be attracted to those kind of women if I knew that's what they did.
I found out about all this stuff a couple months later and I chose to continue to be with her even though it bothered me because I loved her and I see the good in her and how beautiful and sweet she is (also how cute she is). Everything I've seen about her now has been good and I'm just like how could you of done all that crap? I can't believe it. Okay now on to her ex and this is what really bothers me (also there is this guy that we both know and when I ask her if she slept with him she says yes and talks about it like its nothing and I'm like uhh I don't want to hear that crap. I like you and why would you tell me that? She also said he was good in bed and this was all within the first month we were hanging out. I guess she thought we were just friends at the time and that's why she told me all that. Also she has hung out with a lot of guys in the past and she talked to them that way all the time but they were losers and so I'm guessing that's why she talked to me that way. It took her a little but did catch on and be like oh! This guy loves me and we are together so I shouldn't talk that way with him because he's not just another guy, he's my man! Okay on to the ex. She dated him for 3 years or so and the guy treated her like crap all the time but for some reason she stayed with him. They used to watch porn together and have sex and that really bothers me. It's like she gets influence wrong and just goes with it but she's a very sweet and good girl but gets sullied by and with other people. Then there was this one night that her ex wouldn't let her stay at his friend's house unless she had sex with both of them at the same time and she didn't want to go home and get in trouble and so she did it and she hates herself for doing it. She tells me to never bring it up. So know I know she slept with two guys at the same time and that really bothers me. She says she did it because she thought it would make her ex love her and stop treating her like crap I guess.
So 3-4 months into dating I caught her history on the Internet and she had looked at porn and I don't like that and consider it cheating and wrong and if she loves me, it's me and nothing else. So she lied to me about it and said it just popped up but I know it didn't so she finally came clean about it and told me it's a habit from her ex. And that when I learned about all that crap with her ex. And now days she has been deleting her history all the time and it makes me feel like she's watching porn again. Especially if we fight and don't see each other for a couple days, but it would create a huge fight if I asked her if she was because I have asked her that in the past and it was a big deal and she always was like I promised you I wouldn't do it anymore and I haven't.
Okay all this stuff above bothers me and I want to be okay with it and realize that that's not her and move one without me still feeling bad about it. I want to stay with her because she is special and her family likes me and I don't want to miss this opportunity to be with someone who I know will be faithful to me and won't ever do any crazy stuff again.
Okay now the fighting,
We seem to fight a lot. We get along and enjoy each other's company and love one another but we seem to argue and/or fight a lot. And most of the time it's over stupid crap. She can just be very difficult. Especially when we both get tired we get short with each other, stressed out and cranky. When I first started dating her she hated it when I was tired because she wanted me to be lively and to do things with her and I'm like WTH? She would get on to me for being tired and I'm like I worked my but off the whole day and did many things for you as we'll as brought you flowers and bought you a watch. Sometimes it feels like she doesn't appreciate me and it makes me feel not important.
She is 3 years younger than me, I'm 26 and she just feels less immature than me and still kind if a baby because she literally has been spoiled her whole life up to about 3-4 weeks ago and she's now on her own and got a real job. I'm a really relaxed person so I want to be able to feel comfortable and relaxed if I feel like it and not feel like I have to push out some extra effort all the time when I'm with her. She is a very moody person and she has type 1 diabetes so that makes things worse. Plus she has huge expectations out if life and is not realizing life is harder then she thought it was going to be and she feels like she going to be poor and have to work all the time and be unhappy. I really don't know what to do about the fighting, it just seems like she can be so ridiculous and just pushes my buttons like crazy and then we start fighting and I can do or say one thing and it will set her off. Somehow she will take it the wrong way and just blow up. She is sort of negative and pessimistic. She says she's just a realist and I'm like. Yeah okay. So anyway we really love each other and can really have fun and be happy but we can also be the opposite and it feels like there is way too much of it and I need some advice or thoughts. Also I need some advice and thoughts about how to handle her past. I really appreciate it. We have been thinking whether we should take a break too. We see the possibility of it being helpful, but we don't want to be separated that long. Okay thanks guys. This will really help me out a lot