Hello,
As I have no children of my own I need some parental advice if you would be so kind..

An old acquaintance of mine... who will soon be turning 55... has not only done many years in prison for various crimes... is now on probation for his 5th felony for drug trafficking... he has a heroin habit that spans over 30 years but maintains he is clean but I know he lies about his sobriety as he does pretty much about everything else.

An old drug crony of his recently died and he has taken to insinuate himself in the life of the deceased woman's 18 yr old daughter (the girl's father... also deceased was a convicted drug trafficker as well).

The girl calls him daily... my friend having recently acquired a cell phone in case this girl had an emergency and needed to contact him... he used to pick her up from the restaurant where she currently works but as she has her own car now... he will drive over and meet her in the parking lot or stop by her apartment.

He is smoking pot with her or will give her some on occasion but claims there is no sexual involvement and that he is trying to be a fatherly role model as she has no boyfriend or much immediate family to count on.

Regardless of his character... I think that it is rather strange for a man to keep company with a young girl... 37 yrs his junior... and he will hang out with her young friends as well... of course he paints me out to be the 'sick' one for even suggesting that there is something unseemly in this arrangement.


He had to put his own birth daughter up for adoption when he was incarcerated in his youth and has disappointed her throughout the years to the extent that she has disowned him and does not want him in her life nor her husband and young children's as well.

I am very distressed by all of this and could use some
Sage advice
Thank you :(

I agree that this doesn't appear to be as "fatherly" as he claims, but perhaps it isn't sexual either. Maybe they are scoring drugs from one another. She is 18, legally an adult, there really is little you can do to stop them from being alone together.

It is not at all unusual for 18 year old drug addicts to sleep with any and everyone to be able to get free drugs or even get some drugs.

And it is not at all unusual for old men with low morals to want to sleep with young women.

And lying about it is also very normal in the drug culture.

So no it is like dozens of such that you see easily on the streets of many ciies every day.

I wish it was not normal ( in their old strange state of normal) and normal is not right or moral, but just happens a lot