My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 months now and he is going to come over to my house when he gets back. We have both never had our first kiss (and we both have braces) so I don't even know if he wants to kiss me but I want him to kiss me SO bad! We are planning to walk around the golf course, play Mario carts, and jump on the trampoline! And he loves to cuddle so we are most likely going to cuddle at some point but I want to know when would be the best time to try to get him to kiss me (I don't want to ask him to kiss me) and also what is a way to turn him on while we are hanging out and by turn him on I don't mean give him a boner or anything like that, I mean just get him a bit excited and make him want to touch and kiss me!
Thanks!

How old are the two of you?

How old are the two of you? We are both 14

Enjoy the cuddling while you can cause its never the same once you go all the way and many guys don't want to quit at kissing

Enjoy the cuddling while you can cause its never the same once you go all the way and many guys don't want to quit at kissing No worries, my boyfriend and I have already talked about this and we are both waiting for marriage and even the thought of going any further than a make out disgusts me. But now that I think of it I don't need a kiss cause I should just let time take its toll but I do want to know how to tell when he wants to kiss me and some cute things to do while cuddling!

"No worries, my boyfriend and I have already talked about this and we are both waiting for marriage and even the thought of going any further than a make out disgusts me."

You are intending to get married even though the thought of physical intimacy, including intercourse, disgusts you?

"No worries, my boyfriend and I have already talked about this and we are both waiting for marriage and even the thought of going any further than a make out disgusts me."

You are intending to get married even though the thought of physical intimacy, including intercourse, disgusts you? AT THIS AGE!! Are you trying to tell me that I should be interested in going further and doing blow jobs? Um no I'm not like that because that is gross and a sin.

Where do you get the idea that that is what Judy is suggesting? She wants to know how you intend to one day marry someone if the idea of sex is disgusting to you

"AT THIS AGE!!!! Are you trying to tell me that I should be interested in going further and doing blow jobs? Um no I'm not like that because that is gross and a sin."

Please don't preach about sin unless you're on a religious board. Where did I say anything along these lines?

You are sickened by the thought of anything more than "making out" but you are discussing marriage at your age? Makes no sense to me. That's what I said - where do I suggest that you engage in "blow jobs" (your choice of words)?

And don't shout at me - which is what typing in caps is

There's really no way to get someone to kiss you, he either wants to, and does, or doesn't want to, and doesn't.

You're both a bit young to be dating seriously, and kissing is a big step in a relationship. I would wait.

But, since you did ask, I have to ask this. If you're so ready for your first kiss, why don't you kiss him? Why does he have to kiss you?

Alty, this is what she wants to know - " and also what is a way to turn him on while we are hanging out and by turn him on I don't mean give him a boner or anything like that, I mean just get him a bit excited and make him want to touch and kiss me!"

She wants him to get excited and touch her -

Alty, this is what she wants to know - " and also what is a way to turn him on while we are hanging out and by turn him on I don't mean give him a boner or anything like that, I mean just get him a bit excited and make him want to touch and kiss me!"

She wants him to get excited and touch her -

I don't know how I missed that part. :(

So she wants to tease him. That's exactly what those sort of actions are, getting him all turned on, getting him to become erect because he's excited, fondling, kissing, and then saying "nope buddy, sorry, you're not getting anything else". That's teasing. It's also a very dangerous game to play at any age, especially 14.

My advice has changed. Don't be a tease. Holding hands, a kiss on the cheek, that's all you should be doing at 14. Everything else should be saved for when you're much much older.

And I don't know what is/isn't allowed in the teens category of AMHD BUT I don't think I'd want my child getting her sex ed on line. She also thinks that a period proves 100% that a woman is not pregnant.

On the other hand, excited without a "boner?" "Blow job?"

Somebody's mother hasn't a clue.

There's really no way to get someone to kiss you, he either wants to, and does, or doesn't want to, and doesn't.

You're both a bit young to be dating seriously, and kissing is a big step in a relationship. I would wait.

But, since you did ask, I have to ask this. If you're so ready for your first kiss, why don't you kiss him? Why does he have to kiss you?
Well I have been thinking about it and I decided that I don't want my first kiss because I want to save I for some one special and definitely when I'm older


"AT THIS AGE!!!! Are you trying to tell me that I should be interested in going further and doing blow jobs? Um no I'm not like that because that is gross and a sin."

Please don't preach about sin unless you're on a religious board. Where did I say anything along these lines?

You are sickened by the thought of anything more than "making out" but you are discussing marriage at your age? Makes no sense to me. That's what I said - where do I suggest that you engage in "blow jobs" (your choice of words)?

And don't shout at me - which is what typing in caps is

I think we are both miss understanding each other and I am very sorry! I don't want to kiss him or do anything else because I realizes that I was being silly and when I posted this that I was being silly so I don't want to do anything that I said in the post anymore. And earlier I was just saying that at this age, going any further disgusts me and I'm not planning to get married at this age I was just saying that I don't want to do anything until marriage which won't come until I am much older. Again I am so sorry for all of this and I hope we are cool cause this was the last thing I wanted to happen.

A little 'Making Out Ed' is in order here. Sex Ed of course should cover making out, but I have no idea what is covered, and don't kids get sex ed in schools before they are 14?

You asked about getting him to want to kiss you... and yet you don't want him to get aroused in the sense of an erection. Although it's possible to do so, it's really an individual thing. Some guys can control it, and some can't, and some even 'leak' or have an orgasm fully clothed, and that's their own private matter to deal with. I know this sounds sort of sexist, but it's one reason for girls not to come on to guys. You can be affectionate without being blatantly sexual.

Kelkel, I truly hope you don't leave AMHD. You are a wise teen and other teens could use your help and advice.

You are anonymous here - no need to worry about anything you post. We are all family here, those of us who post regularly, and we agree and disagree and work for the common good - or so we think.

And I likewise apologize for my part in our exchanges. I gave you a great deal of credit for your apology, and I trust you know mine is likewise sincere.

Please stay and help with the teen questions. Give it a chance and if in a month you don't like answering, then you can go.