So I just got out of a relationship almost a month ago now. It didn't end horribly but I have had better endings. So now. I think people are after me for hurting her and making her sad and stuff like that. Not to mention I already have horrible anxiety. I'm so scared someone is going to come into my house or mess with my car or follow me or anything, its running my life and I feel like I'm going crazy. I even found a nail in my tire today (not in the sidewall) and I can't stop thinking that maybe someone put it there.

I know I'm over reacting but jeesus its killing me. I know people have ended relationships way worse then this one and have walked away fine, but for some reason I feel like I'm in a black and white world and I'm painted like a bulls-eye.

I've talked to my friends and family and they tell me that I'm funny and that I'm just being ridiculous... but am I? I don't know what to do. I am starting to drink more because I refuse to go on medication. I was fine before all of this. Now I'm all over the place.

Sounds like there is a lot of pent up guilt you're carrying around over the break up. You will need to work through this guilt first.

Its not really guilt over the break up its just how I have been for years even before the break up.

In your last sentence you said you were fine before all of this... now you say you've been like this for years.

I still say there is guilt.

So I just got out of a relationship almost a month ago now. It didn't end horribly but I have had better endings. So now... I think people are after me for hurting her and making her sad and stuff like that. Not to mention I already have horrible anxiety. Im so scared someone is going to come into my house or mess with my car or follow me or anything, its running my life and I feel like Im going crazy I even found a nail in my tire today (not in the sidewall) and I can't stop thinking that maybe someone put it there, I know Im over reacting but jeesus its killing me, I know people have ended relationships way worse then this one and have walked away fine, but for some reason I feel like I'm in a black and white world and I'm painted like a bulls-eye.. I've talked to my friends and family and they tell me that I'm funny and that I'm just being ridiculous... but am I?. I don't know what to do, I am starting to drink more because I refuse to go on medication. I was fine before all of this. now im all over the place.


its not really guilt over the break up its just how I have been for years even before the break up.

So, you weren't okay before 'all this'. You need to talk to a doctor and figure out what is going on. Don't be afraid of what you might learn (unless you already know, then don't be afraid of trying less self-destructive means of handling the issue.)

Stop self-medicating with alcohol. It will only make the issues worse. It cannot and will not fix the underlying problems. You need professional help. Family and friends can give their support, but you need to learn what is wrong and how to effectively manage or fix it.

Get yourself into therapy, and try medication to ease your anxiety.

Until you address that problem, nothing else as far as a love life goes will likely work out.