View Full Version : I want justice!
angela322
Jul 18, 2013, 01:17 PM
I'm Angela. Some years ago I fell in love with a guy. I wanted a serious relationship with him but he betrayed me, and his family rejected me because if I were to marry that guy I won't be able to honour his family that much as I'm not rich, and I'm not so smart. So after spending 3 month with the guy, his family rejected me, but I was still seeing the guy for almost 2 years. But after that he betray me, he lied to me, he always make me feel inferior.
He practically slept with me though I didn't want to, he used to slept with me to satisfy himself. One day I have had enough and I left him. He is now already engage. He live in my neighbourhood. It is almost 2 years but I have still not yet recover from those painful moments. Those moments hurts me every day every moment. I can't forget that guy. He is always inside me and hurting me like hell. Now we are like strangers, we don't talk and we don't even get opportunity to talk to each other.
I have waited for justice but I've never ever got justice but NOW I WANT JUSTICE!!
odinn7
Jul 18, 2013, 01:20 PM
So what is your question?
We do not dispense justice here.
Holding onto this for so long is not good for you. You will never get better if you can't learn to let go and move forward.
tickle
Jul 18, 2013, 01:30 PM
We can't advise you how to get JUSTICE. If you feel that strongly, find a lawyer and lots of money and sue him. Or, just FORGET this and move on.
Wondergirl
Jul 18, 2013, 01:32 PM
Why did you continue to see him for two years after his family rejected you?
N0help4u
Jul 18, 2013, 01:38 PM
You stayed with him against all odds, YOU left him. You want revenge? For what?
joypulv
Jul 18, 2013, 01:53 PM
In the old days (maybe still, in some parts of the world) your family sues his family.
But the law has to be on your side. Do you know of any laws of dishonor where you live?
If you can't get justice, you get revenge. You get revenge by being a better person than he is. There are fake ways to get revenge, such as marrying some rich guy you don't love. There are ways that take years, such as starting a business and making a lot of money and being a success. There are illegal ways, such as murder. I'm sure you think about that... who doesn't when they are lied to? But then you go to prison or are put to death yourself, or his family murders you...
So back to the beginning: be a better person than he is, honest and trustworthy.
N0help4u
Jul 18, 2013, 01:54 PM
At best you can sue for payments made to see a psychiatrist over the trauma HE directly caused you.
Cat1864
Jul 18, 2013, 02:20 PM
I'm Angela. Some years ago I fell in love with a guy. I wanted a serious relationship with him but he betray me, his family rejected me because if I were to marry that guy I won't be able to honour his family that much as I'm not rich, I'm not so smart.. So after spend 3 month with the guy his family rejected me but I was still seeing the guy for almost 2 years but after that he betray me, he lied to me, he always make me feel inferior, he practically slept with me though I didn't want to, he used to slept with me to satisfy himself but one day I have had enough and I left him. He is now already engage. He live in my neighbourhood. It is almost 2 years but I have still not yet recover from those painful moments. Those moments hurts me every day every moment. I can't forget that guy. He is always inside me and hurting me like hell. Now we are like strangers, we don't talk and we don't even get opportunity to talk to each other. I have waited for justice but I've never ever got justice but NOW I WANT JUSTICE!!
I am sorry, but you do not want justice. You want to place blame on him for what happened without taking any responsibility for your own actions.
You could have left him three months into the relationship or any time during the following two years. You didn't. You stayed. You allowed him to treat you the way he did. I am also not so certain that you aren't doing a lot exaggerating here and in your own mind about what happened. You contradict yourself when you say he 'practically' slept with you then say that he did sleep with you. 'Practically' means 'almost' or 'in every sense except'.
Take responsibility for staying in a relationship for two years longer than you should have. Take responsibility for getting the help you need to let go and move forward with your life. Get out of his life and stay out of it.
You do not want justice. You want revenge. As long as you hold on to the hurt and pain and want to hurt him, all you are going to get is more damage to your self-respect and confidence. No one can help you until you decide you are ready to let the past go and live in the present while building a better future.