okay so here's the deal, I'm 14 and my mom let me get my belly button pierced 2 years ago... I personally think piercings are a good way to express yourself.. I would like a tongue piercing and a tattoo maybe a nose piercing just a stud though... I will wait until I'm older for my nose n my tattoo but right now I'm asking my mom if I can get my tongue she said she will think about it but she really doesn't want to let me do it.. she said I don't want to feel like I'm putting a whole through my own daughter even though its my choice n I want it... does any one have any suggestions to convince my mom? =)

When I was 15 I just did it. Now, I'm not saying that you should do that, but what I am saying is that it wasn't that big of a deal when I did it. Of course, that was even before the clear tongue rings were popular, so I really couldn't even hide it. I would ask her if you guys could go out to breakfast and talk. When she asks why, say "I just have something really important that I want to talk to you about." When you get to breakfast, just have normal talk (whatever that is for you and your mom), and after you order then begin to tell her: "you know mom, I know we've talked about me getting my tongue pierced and it's really something that I want to do....." Now, you're going to surprise her with a list of all of the "good things" or reasons you want to get it pierced AND a list of all the "bad things" or reasons she might not want you to do it. After giving her the list, say "I know that you only want the best for me, so why don't you tell me what it is that concerns YOU, with me getting my tongue pierced, maybe it's something I didn't consider."

Now, let's be realistic. Obviously you've never done this before, so you want to be as natural as possible, so use your own words and really stick with the emotion of how much it means to you to get it done opposed to trying to act like an adult.

Sorry to say that no sensible parent is going to agree with this. May be you should reconsider. If wanted to do so many stupid things with I was your age now I say thank God that my parents didn't allow me to do it. Think about it before you do it. To answer your question I would say that there is no way to convince your parents into allowing you to have this done.

sorry to say that no sensible parent is going to agree with this. May be you should reconsider. If wanted to do so many stupid things with I was your age now I say thank God that my parents didn't allow me to do it. Think about it before you do it. To answer your question I would say that there is no way to convince your parents into allowing you to have this done.


So, every parent who allows their children to pierce their tongue under 18 is not sensible? I believe a statement like that is not only offensive to those that would and have, but is not "sensible." Further, she mentioned she already has her belly pierced, wouldn't that classify as "not sensible" by your definition? That was really not a very nice thing to say, considering there are literally hundreds of thousands of parents who let their children pierce things despite the fact that their not 18.

Which, of course, I always ask, what's the difference between 17 and 18 again outside of the artificial legal divider our country has established, which we leave room for legislation to allow "minors" to petition themselves as legal adults. So, just why is something so trivial and impermanent so insensible?

I was just wondering... what would be on the list of "good things", for a 14 year old to get her tongue pierced?

I was just wondering...what would be on the list of "good things", for a 14 year old to get her tongue pierced?
Lol... good point... well, self-expression would be one. I'm sure if I really took the time to think about it, I could come up with something that sounded like a relatively intelligent argument as to why mom should say yes.

Thankss jaynen.. I was thinking about getting it with out my mother knowing because one of my friends did that and its been months her mom doesn't no... the way she hide it is when she is around her mom she takes the balls out.. && by the way I kind of don't need to think about it I know that I want it and worse comes to worse I can take it out its not like its permanent and yess a good reason iss juss as simple as self expresiion and I havve been thinking about it for a whillee.. thanks guyss

Go get it done I was 11 when I got my belly button done and I gota a tattoo and tongue piercing when I was 14 all behind my mums back... if you do it behind her back she'll get over it soon enough! She's your mam she'll always love you n its not like she's goina kick you out or nefing! Lol go 4 it... its sore by the way :( but worth it xox

jus go get it done i was 11 when i got my belly button done and i gota a tattoo n tongue piercing when i was 14 all behind my mums back ...if ya do it behind her back she'll get over it soon enough! shes ur mam she'll always love u n its not like shes goina kick u out or nefing! lol jus go 4 it ...its sore btw :( but worth it xox
Wow, what terrible advice.

If your mom won't let you get it done, waiting a while won't kill you. And you want to be careful what you do, because tongue piercings can cause serious problems. Tooth chipping is common from the balls, and I know of one person who lost all sense of taste because the piercer hit a vein.

Also, some employers won't let you wear them at work.

You are MUCH too young to get a tattoo! I have to say that parents have to consent piercings, tattoos, etc because children are uncapable of making decisions on there own. Because you may change your mind later on and the thought changes as you age. Do you understand? The way you think changes.. You may still want piercings, tattoos later on but especially tattoos at that young of an age is not good at all. I would wait until you are old enough to make your on decisions and + this way you will be happy that you did it the right way.


I have a guy friend who made his own tattoos at a young age.. I think mostly because a lot of his friends were doing it, etc but the homeade tattoo that he made looked very trashy. Can you live with the same tattoo for life? A lot of adults look for months before deciding on a proper tattoo and a design that is unique and reflects their own personality. In any occasion you have a LONG life ahead of you to decide on tattoos, piercings, etc. Do you get bored? If so keep yourself busy because eventually the piercings and tattoos will run out and you won't have nothing elso to do to be creative and you may become bored. At least you have something to look forward to if you wait, instead of getting it done. This could be a mistake that you regret for life because people won't hire people with tattos and piercings. Some do but even restaurants will make you cover them up and take piercings out, even if they do hire you which is doubtfull. People will look at you differently and you may realize what a mistake you made, at least wait a little while.

Hi Sexiibabii... Another thing is if your tongue gets infected your mother WILL find out because she will have to take you to the doctor for medication and it hurts a lot, another thing is that is a big risk you are willing to take. Another thing that hurts is the after procedure, your tongue will have a pinching pain for about a week or more and may throb like a heartbeat! Ouch! The other person who said that it is easy to hide this from your parents lied to you!!

First of all you have to eat liquidy, mashy foods for about a week after the procedure.. You will have to because if you try to eat whole foods it will hurt like @$%&@ and you will also talk funny for about a few days... Have you ever seen someone who just got there toungue pierced? Anyway your mother will most likely find out unless you TOTALLY HIDE FROM HER. I mean you cannot take the balls out for a while after the procedure and it is just hard to do.

Plus.. One quick thing. Like I said it is hard or impossible to hide from your mom and somehow she will find out, probably the same day. Are you willing to go through that much trouble and your mom just to find out because she will. Not only that, but she will make you take out the piercing and then you would have went through the pain and money for NO reason. Plus you will probably get punnished and your mom won't trust you anymore. Then you will have to wait longer to get the piercing, 18 years old when you can do it on your on. Don't pay over $50 just to have the piercing took out and most places will not do it anyway without a parents concent.. If you have someone that you know to pierce you this can cause A LOT of trouble and you will regret it because you can get sick, infected, die or be in a severe amount of pain.

okay so heres the deal, im 14 and my mom let me get my belly button pierced 2 years ago... i personally think piercings are a good way to express your self.. i would like a tongue piercing and a tatoo maybe a nose piercing just a stud tho... i will wait until im older for my nose n my tatoo but right now im asking my mom if i can get my tongue she said she will think about it but she really doesnt want to let me do it.. she said i dont want to feel like im putting a whole thru my own daughter even tho its my choice n i want it... does any one have any suggestions to convince my mom?? =)
Its hard to convince someone who is set. However what are the benefits of having this.. Does it boost yourself esteem ? Is it just a fade your going through ? You need to present your presentation. First by telling her, that should the day come and you no longer like it, you won't blame her for allowing you to get it. You must explain the benefits or why you want this.

Its hard to convince someone who is set. However what are the benefits of having this..Does it boost your self esteem ? Is it just a fade your going through ? You need to present your presentation. First by telling her, that should the day come and you no longer like it, you wont blame her for allowing you to get it. You must explain the benefits or why you want this.

Exactly, present it like an adult with thought out arguments and reasoning.

It's most likely true that your mom will forgive you if you went behind her back. but you are risking more by doing this. The main one is your moms trust in you, then there's the whole deal about what kind of a piercing parlor would pierce an underage person without the parent present. Don't get me wrong I like tats and piercings, I have my own, just make sure you know what your doing, and ALL the consequences, first.

As hard as it is to understand, respect what she says right now. Look at it this way you only have 4 more years until you are 18, and during that time you should respect the rules that your parents lay down for you. After you are 18 you will have the rest of your life to do anything that you want, if you still want it then. One day you will be glad that you did.

I don't think piercings are that important myself. For the most part I got my cartilage pierced because I was bored, and like the look and was fun to have done also. I am an adult though and make my own decisions, I don't think that I would ever go behind my moms back.. because of fear of what my mom might do. My mom would beat my but, probably If I had ever went behind her back and she would have made me take the piercing out also! I may have risked it living with my aunt because growing up she was never strict with her own children or me when she sat for me but I also have respect for my aunt also and would not want to risk are relationship over a dump piercing.

okay so heres the deal, im 14 and my mom let me get my belly button pierced 2 years ago... i personally think piercings are a good way to express your self.. i would like a tongue piercing and a tatoo maybe a nose piercing just a stud tho... i will wait until im older for my nose n my tatoo but right now im asking my mom if i can get my tongue she said she will think about it but she really doesnt want to let me do it.. she said i dont want to feel like im putting a whole thru my own daughter even tho its my choice n i want it... does any one have any suggestions to convince my mom?? =)
Tell her ull do it yourself or she will take u, that's what I did

Hi Sexiibabii... Another thing is if your tongue gets infected your mother WILL find out because she will have to take you to the doctor for medication and it hurts a lot, another thing is that is a big risk you are willing to take. Another thing that hurts is the after procedure, your tongue will have a pinching pain for about a week or more and may throb like a heartbeat! Ouch! The other person who said that it is easy to hide this from your parents lied to you!!!!!

First of all you have to eat liquidy, mashy foods for about a week after the procedure.. You will have to because if you try to eat whole foods it will hurt like @$%&@ and you will also talk funny for about a few days... Have you ever seen someone who just got there toungue pierced?? Anyway your mother will most likely find out unless you TOTALLY HIDE FROM HER. I mean you cannot take the balls out for a while after the procedure and it is just hard to do.


You don't need to eat mashy foods for a week after it... just not spicy foods or alcohol o yea and no oral sex... I was eating a pizza the day after I got it done... its sore after but stickable... and its very easy to hide just don't talk to them for a while face to face... pretend your doing something and face the ova way... tis all good...

Sounds like you have a shopping list of things you want to do... tatoo's and piercing etc etc. Not necessarily a horrible thing. I think it may hold you back by the unfortunate habit people tend to judge a book by its cover. Employers don't like this type of thing much. Everyone expresses themselves daily. Not just during the teen years. Some define themselves by the job they have, the car they drive or the clothes they wear. The difference here is you're a minor. Your parents are still responsible for guiding you until you are considered an adult. As a parent I would say NO! If you wish to have XYZ then wait until your 18. Sounds to me like... how do I say this... you have a more pliable parent that would give a green light to a belly ring to a girl of your age. So I suppose you will find a way to get what you want somehow. I also know you may regret the decision. If you expect to have the rights of an adult then I hope you are willing to discuss it with your Mom like an Adult. I see the real damage is to the level of trust and communication problems that are bound to follow. Don't go get a tattoo or something and have a she will get over it attitude. This says you have no respect for your parents... where is your Dad in all this? Is he around? Ask yourself... why do I need this? Are you just wanting acceptance by someone? Is that acceptance worth all the risks? Try not to rush into things... Tatoo's are hard to remove. They may be cool in your youth but they can be a reminder of past mistakes as well.

Good Luck!

okay so heres the deal, im 14 and my mom let me get my belly button pierced 2 years ago... i personally think piercings are a good way to express your self.. i would like a tongue piercing and a tatoo maybe a nose piercing just a stud tho... i will wait until im older for my nose n my tatoo but right now im asking my mom if i can get my tongue she said she will think about it but she really doesnt want to let me do it.. she said i dont want to feel like im putting a whole thru my own daughter even tho its my choice n i want it... does any one have any suggestions to convince my mom?? =)
I have the same problem with you!I am 14 years old and I've asked my parent for a tongue piercing but they don't even want to hear about it!How can I convince them? Please,if you find a way to convince them,let me know!I beg you..!

Never ever shut up about it... keep on nagging at your mum and she'll eventually let u get it :)

never ever shut up about it...keep on nagging at your mum and she'll eventually let u get it :)

This won't work with all parents. Some parents will allow it if you bug them enough simply to just shut you up, but most parents (like mine) when they say no, they mean no.

Just wait until you are 18 so you can just sign for yourself.

never ever shut up about it...keep on nagging at your mum and she'll eventually let u get it :)
Were you as disrespectful to your parents as you are trying to convince the young children here to be to their parents. I bet your parents are real proud of the way you turned out huh?
Never mind, you don't have to answer that.

okay so heres the deal, im 14 and my mom let me get my belly button pierced 2 years ago... i personally think piercings are a good way to express your self.. i would like a tongue piercing and a tatoo maybe a nose piercing just a stud tho... i will wait until im older for my nose n my tatoo but right now im asking my mom if i can get my tongue she said she will think about it but she really doesnt want to let me do it.. she said i dont want to feel like im putting a whole thru my own daughter even tho its my choice n i want it... does any one have any suggestions to convince my mom?? =)
Hey, my name is corey and I am 14. I got 8 piercings. All I did was tel my mom Mom I promise I will do good and school listen and I will earn the money and pay for it myselfe all you got to do is sign. And I got a lip piercing a nipple piercing getting a tonguie piercing and I got my nose(took it out) and 6 ear piercings on the inside of my ear.

p.s but you got to make sure you follow threw with what you said. Lol

Hey, my name is corey and i am 14. I got 8 piercings. All i did was tel my mom Mom i promise i will do good n school listen and i will earn the money and pay for it myselfe all you gotta do is sign. And i got a lip piercing a nipple piercing getting a tonguie piercing and i got my nose(took it out) and 6 ear piercings on the inside of my ear.

p.s but u gotta make sure u follow threw with what u said. Lol

That is actually a good idea! The only thing I would change is to make sure you do the things you promise to do before your piercing, that shows responsibility.

True. Lol

Heyy! I got my tongue pierced, and it is really noticeable... you CAN eat and drink spicy foods and alcohol (just not beer for a few days after because of the yeast in it), it just hurts a little, or a lot depending on your pain tolerance. Anyway, it is noticeable so you won't be able to hide it from your parents. Convince your mum by saying that its just a tiny hole in your tongue.. tell her You'll be the one who'll put up with it, and that its just a phase, and if you grow up and decide you don't want it, then you can just take it out and let it heal over. And yeah you might have a few problems with talking, maybe a slight lisp, but shouldn't be toooo obvious if you try not to speak like a loser.
Yep well that's all :D

okay so heres the deal, im 14 and my mom let me get my belly button pierced 2 years ago... i personally think piercings are a good way to express your self.. i would like a tongue piercing and a tatoo maybe a nose piercing just a stud tho... i will wait until im older for my nose n my tatoo but right now im asking my mom if i can get my tongue she said she will think about it but she really doesnt want to let me do it.. she said i dont want to feel like im putting a whole thru my own daughter even tho its my choice n i want it... does any one have any suggestions to convince my mom?? =)
Right basically, same thing happened with me. I begged for a tongue piercing, but she said I could olny get my belly button dun. So I did, but that was over a year ago.. so anyway I started looking into what I could do to get one.. I tried everything from finding escuses, to asking for fake ones etc, but I just got fedup and complained that it was my body, and wasn't fair she wouldn't let me pierce it.

I got so upset, that I eventually decided to pierce it myself. It sounds barbaric but it really isn't. Ive been researching for about 4 months now, and know everything about it. So I've ordered a full sterile piercing kit, should be here by the weekend. Im going to pierce it.. and if my mum finds it.. oh well.. its pierced. Lol

Not saying you should do this at all, I'm saying trying to find escuses isn't going to help. But you should think deeply into it, before making any decisions.

Ill comment you when I've done and send a piccy =]

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got so upset, that i eventually decided to pierce it myself. It sounds barbaric but it really isnt. Ive been researching for about 4 months now, and know everything about it. So ive ordered a full sterile piercing kit, should be here by the weekend. Im going to pierce it.. and if my mum finds it.. oh well.. its pierced. lol
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I know when someone has their mind set on something, there is little that can be said to talk them out of it, but I cannot strongly suggest enough that you do not pierce your own tongue. You can cause bad injury to yourself if you do it wrong. Piercing someone (even yourself) is meant for people that are licensed, not someone who's mom said no so you're doing it in spite of that. Please do not do it.

It is also not a good thing to suggest someone else to do. If they decide to go with your advice and hurt themselves, they have you to thank for that.

I'm 14 too and my mum wouldn't let me get it done but I saved up and got it done 2 weeks ago. When I talked I just didn't open my mouth that wide but she found out on the 2nd week I had it done. She gave me into trouble but there's nfn she can do bowt it now that itz done. Itz so worth it and am gald I got it dun.

Wiat until your 16 or just do it that's what I've done with all mine but I've always openly told her about it and she made the usual threat (riping it out with pliars) but she gave in and now she's OK with it

wiat til ur 16 or just do it thats what ive done with all mine but ive always openly told her about it and she made the usual threat (riping it out with pliars) but she gave in and now shes ok with it

"Just do it" is terrible advice. If the OP took this advice she might get in terrible trouble with her parents, and it would be your fault. Don't advise a minor to "just do it".

On another note, I would like to point out that this thread is 9 months old. The OP has more than likely either got the piercing, or gotten over it. Please pay attention to the dates of the threads.

Hey I'm 13 years old and this Thursday I got my toung pierced by mym friend in the skool bathroom... it does not hurt unless the needle is thinner than the tongue ring then you will feel like you're passing out one of my friends did but she was okay.. so my mom doesn't no about it and she thinks I'm sick and she wants to take me to the doctor but I don't want to its hard because you need to talk but you're tongue iz to swollen so yeah this is my 2nd day with it..

sorry to say that no sensible parent is going to agree with this. May be you should reconsider. If wanted to do so many stupid things with I was your age now I say thank God that my parents didn't allow me to do it. Think about it before you do it. To answer your question I would say that there is no way to convince your parents into allowing you to have this done.

I don't see what's wrong with letting a teenager do what they want to do with their body... There is a reason why we are each given our own bodies and that's to have the freedom knowing we can do what we want with them... Adults shouldn't go around saying yes and no to these types things. Im 15 and my mother wouldn't let me get any piercings until I was 18 and so I decided that I wanted my belly button pierced so I just did it. Now I have an agreement with mom that I can get my tongue and nose done for christmas... in my opinion just do it darl don't want for a deffinite answer from someone who thinks they can control what you do with your body... :)

hey im 13 years old and this thursday i got my toung pierced by mym friend in the skool bathroom ..... it does not hurt unless the needle is thinner than the tounge ring then you will feel like youre passin out one of my friends did but she was okay.. so my mom doesnt no about it and she thinks im sick and she wants to take me to the doctor but i dont want to its hard because you need to talk but youre tounge iz to swollen so yeah this is my 2nd day with it ..

That is why you should always get pierced by a professional. Who in the world would get a piercing from someone who uses a needle that is a smaller gauge than the jewelry? Not smart. The needle should always be one gauge larger than the jewelry. Plus, getting your tongue pierced by a friend in the school bathroom is not smart. First of all, there is no possible way your friend sterilized that needle enough for piercing. Second of all, your friend could have seriously hurt you if she had hit the major artery in your tongue. From now on I suggest you go to a professional, and if your parents won't let you, just deal with it.

I don't see whats wrong with letting a teenager do what they want to do with their body...There is a reason why we are each given our own bodies and thats to have the freedom knowing we can do what we want with them...Adults shouldnt go around saying yes and no to these types things. Im 15 and my mother wouldnt let me get any piercings untill i was 18 and so i decided that i wanted my belly button pierced so i just went ahead and did it. Now i have an agreement with mom that i can get my tongue and nose done for christmas...in my opinion just go ahead and do it darl dont want for a deffinite answer from someone who thinks they can control what you do with your body...:)

I hate to tell you, but while you are a minor, your parents can control what you do with your body. I am a mother and I would just like to say that adults can do what they darn well please. When you turn 18 then you get these privileges, but until then, you are a kid, so deal with it.

Second of all, don't tell another minor (like yourself) to do it. You don't know this person, her parents, or her medical conditions. Don't advise people to do something to themselves that could potentially hurt them.

try talking to your mom,explain to her how if she doesn't let you there are only a few more years until you can sign for it yourself.. but don't sound like your are threating her, I begged my mom for years.and now next week (on my 16th birthday) she is going to let me get it done.. so be patient it will come =]



p.s I didn't notice how old your topic was.. but I hope my advice can come in handy

This is simple,
First you get a fake tongue ring at bewild.com and put it in. Show it to your mom and let her get over it and then have her take you for a real one


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I, 17 and I was aloud a meaningful tattoo and my belly button pierced, but my mum refuses to let me get my tongue done. Apparently it chips your teeth. I've seen my bros and it does. But I don't c what the problem is if you put plastic balls on it. I'm still havning the argument with my mum about it. I'm aloud it when I've moved out of home so then ill have to pay my dentist bills.

Just going and getting it done isn't a good idea. I'm a middle school youth pastor and my 14 year old girls change their mind as often as the wind changes. Tattoos and piercings are a commitment. I'm married and a youth pastor but I also have 3 tattoos and do plan on more. But for each one of my tattoos I thought about the design for at least a year and I consulted my husband before I got my last one. At least with a tongue piercing you can take it out but they don't always heal. My older brother can still stick things through his tongue and he took out his piercing over 5 years ago. Please just think about it. Make a deal with your Mom. If you still want to do it when you're 16 then ask her to take you. Take the time to talk to your Mom and let her tell you why she doesn't want you to do it. Make sure she knows you're considering her opinion. Honesty is best and maybe the two of you can compromise.

Being a dad of four it would hurt me very bad if one of my children came home with a tongue ring and then said well I have it can I keep it. That is not a puppy you are talking about getting you are changing your looks altogether. What if something goes wrong. It could happen. Respect your parents decision. I have told my children that they can not have these in my house. And that is the end of the discussion.

Lol... good point.... well, self-expression would be one. I'm sure if I really took the time to think about it, I could come up with something that sounded like a relatively intelligent arguement as to why mom should say yes.

any more good points other than self expression and the fact that you want it done ?
I really want it done but my mam said after getting my belly pirced there is no more :(

okay so heres the deal, im 14 and my mom let me get my belly button pierced 2 years ago... i personally think piercings are a good way to express your self.. i would like a tongue piercing and a tatoo maybe a nose piercing just a stud tho... i will wait until im older for my nose n my tatoo but right now im asking my mom if i can get my tongue she said she will think about it but she really doesnt want to let me do it.. she said i dont want to feel like im putting a whole thru my own daughter even tho its my choice n i want it... does any one have any suggestions to convince my mom?? =)
Hey I'm 14 too and I also want my nose pierced but my mom is so dumb! Its my body and I can do what I want with it! Its not like its permanent I can take it out whenever I want and she's not the boss of my body. She's not letting me express my individuality and not letting me be who I want to be I tried to tell her that there are worse things I could want its not like I'm smoking pot or getting pregnant.she wants me to wait till I'm 15! Y wait? Its not fair!! So yea I just wanted to tell you I feel your pain

hey im 14 too and i also want my nose pierced but my mom is so dumb! its my body and i can do wat i want with it! its not like its permanent i can take it out whenever i want and she's not the boss of my body. she's not letting me express my individuality and not letting me be who i wanna be i tried to tell her that there are worse things i could want its not like im smoking pot or gettin pregnant.she wants me to wait till im 15! y wait? its not fair!!! so yea i just wanted to tell u i feel ur pain

You only have to wait one year. Be patient. I've been wanting to get a tattoo since I was like 11. And my dad said I'll get one when I turn 16. And now I just have to wait a couple of more months.

You are MUCH too young to get a tattoo! I have to say that parents have to consent piercings, tattoos, etc because children are uncapable of making decisions on there own. Because you may change your mind later on and the thought changes as you age. Do you understand? The way you think changes.. You may still want piercings, tattoos later on but especially tattoos at that young of an age is not good at all. I would wait untill you are old enough to make your on decisions and + this way you will be happy that you did it the right way.


I have a guy friend who made his own tattoos at a young age.. I think mostly because a lot of his friends were doing it, etc but the homeade tattoo that he made looked very trashy. Can you live with the same tattoo for life?? A lot of adults look for months before deciding on a proper tattoo and a design that is unique and reflects their own personality. In any occassion you have a LONG life ahead of you to decide on tattoos, piercings, etc. Do you get bored? If so keep yourself busy because eventually the piercings and tattoos will run out and you wont have nothing elso to do to be creative and you may become bored. At least you have something to look foward to if you wait, instead of going ahead and getting it done. This could be a mistake that you regret for life because people wont hire people with tattos and piercings. Some do but even resteraunts will make you cover them up and take piercings out, even if they do hire you which is doubtfull. People will look at you differently and you may realize what a mistake you made, at least wait a little while.


I do believe we were talking about Tongue PIERCINGS, not TATTOO's.
And I'm pretty sure that she also said she wanted to wait to her her Tattoo.
Not to mention, "because children are uncapable of making decisions on there own" that is very effecive. I am capable of making decisions on my own and I'm perfectly fine.

For me it is the same way at the moment, I've read about everything I could, I asked my dad, he's reason for why I can't is cause I'm 15, its retarded. Us kids are allowed to make our own decisions about our body, don't get me wrong I love my parents and respect them but I've wanted a tongue ring sense I was like 14, and well yea... no matter what by the time I'm 16 I'm getting one on my birthday and there's nothing they can do about it. But my mom said I could get a tattoo if I kept it on my wall and looked at it everyday and liked it from like 6-8 months then I could get one. But like everyone says IT COMES OUT!
Another thing that made me mad about this is that I said I would pay for it and everything, buy everything I needed and such, I have my ears pierced 5 times and there all fine, my dad doesn't like it but my mom doesn't care. She didn't like that my aunt took me to get it done but she got over it. She was the same when I didn't go to our family doctor for birth control. But yea... some of these people have good advice but some suck a lot.
Anyway... my advice go with the sit down and tell her the pros and cons of it, and tell her why you want it and show her you considered what can happen then get her to tell you why she doesn't want you to do it. And then make a deal with her if possible. That's what I'm going to try. So good luck to me and you. Lol. :p

I see a lot of immaturity on this page.
Yeah its your body, put its also your parents consent. Isn't it hypocritical to force your parents to give the okay in something they don't believe in, when you're saying they're not letting you do something you believe in? I've had body mods yes, but its because I can legally get them for my age, and my parents don't have any say in it.
Sorry to say dear little ones, but your parents are responsible for you until you're 18, and you don't have all your rights yet. You can't even drive.
The only advice I can give you is to act mature about it when trying to convince your parents. Letting them know that you'll be able to take care of it properly, you're making a well informed choice, and that you really want this, will help convince them that you're very serious about this, and its not just a passing fancy.
Also, so you know, a tongue piercing never truly heals. When you take it out, it covers over hallow. So you'll always have the hole. You'll always have a risk of infection.

Just tell you mom dukess... dat its better than a tattoo... u can always take it off if anything... it won't be there 4 ever:cool:

Just tell you momz dukezz... it's only a piercing it's not a tattoo... u can always take it off on any occasion it's not there 4 ever.. it worked for me!

Kay, some people may tell youu to just go behind your parents back and do it, and that it will all be okay. I know my family love me (sometimes! XD) but if youu piss your parents off enough they could potentially kick youu out. Mine threaten too. And they did the same thing to my older brother. He was out at least three times. If youu want it done. Be responsible and do it properly. I'm from Ontario, and youu only have to be sixteen to get any piercing. XD be smart. And if youu get it done by someone who will do it without parental consent, there's something wrong. Maybe they don't know what they're doing and maybe they're not clean. Do youu really want an infection and end up in a hospital. Also if youu get an infection on a piercing for the love of god DO not take out the piercing the whole will heal up with the infection inside! NOT SMART. And youu will have nasty scarring. And it could make youu sick. My best advice is to do it in a way that youu are happy and so are your parents and youu know that nothings going to happen. Good luck ! :)

I think you should talk to her help around the house even try and pay for it yourself but if you could wait until your 15th birthday ask her to take you for your birthday and tell her that when it heals if you don't like it ill take it out but of course by the time it heals she would have forgot about it but only get done by professionals doing it yourself could be VERY dangerous I hope this works for you and if this is what you really want don't listen to crap like people will judge you and think your trashy people judge you weather you have piercings or not so that's just a bunch of crap well have fun with you piercing :)

I'm fourteen and I'm lucky to have a dad like mine as he's very laid back (ive got my belly button, tongue, numerous ear piercings, nose and lip pierced). He only said I could have what I wanted done if I paid for it myself and it wasn't going to affect my school and that if it did I would do what they said - also luckily my school allows us to wear retainers in facial piercings. I think you should wait until you're a little older to get it done so your mom is totally cool with it and is satisfied that you know how to look after your piercing and will be able to handle the consequenses that may come with it. And I wouldn't go behind her back - she will find out. My dad expects one thing from me and that is honesty - I mean what if your piercing gets infected badly and you need to go to the hospital? Who's going to care for you? Just think and make sure you want it done for definite before you do it!

I don't think you understand how wrong some of you are, I'm 15 nearly 16 and on Saturday I went out got it done without my mom knowing, but surely when I got home and couldn't eat she noticed something was wrong so she found out but at the end of the day, she can't make me take it out, if she put her hand in my mouth ill bite her fingers off and get her done for rape (entering the body without permission) but I do love my parents so I just want them to except that its my way of expressing myself without music, cutting wrists, drawing etc. but beware... piercings ARE addictive and a tongue can lead to visual facial piercings. I know that she'll get over it in time... but she's scared that if she lets me get this done then it will lead to stuff like tattoos and stretchers... stuff that causes permanent damage, she's tried to ground me, kick me out, take everything off me but it doesn't work so she's gave up now and has accepted that I've got it done, my dad hasn't spoke to me for 3 weeks because of it but he'll get over it and it might take a bit longer but they'll except it soon enough

I think that all the people who are against piercings because they think that it will make you a bad person are ignorant. They are judging a book by its cover. Yes there are people who do drugs AND happen to have piercing and tattoos, but that is only a handful of people. If I were to convince my parents to let me have a piercing, I would make them understand this point, but also I would understand their points so that way you both can be conscious of the decision. I would inform both myself and my parents all about the piercing, this includes:where you are getting it, the price, information on different kinds of metal/plastic used, etc.etc...

Another thing is that you have to have a certain level of maturity to make the choice of getting a piercing or a tattoo. DO NOT get one just because the friend of a friend who you think is cute got one or something like that. If you are actually going to go along with it, do it because of yourself. Do it because you want to, not because of someone else. Last but not least do it with the consent of your parents. DO NOT get a piercing/tattoo behind their backs. If you do you can seriously lose their confidence and probably get grounded for a while. I hope my advice has helped in anyway:P

I had my tongue piercing just this feb. o9, 1o. I was not allowed to get those piercings so I kept them secretly instead. Use small barbells to hide them.. :) hhaha. Hope this helps if you really want to have one. :))

By the way.. I'm only 13.. :) :D hhahhah.

I'm also 14, but I would rather wait until I am older to take the time to think about getting it. I have my cartilage pierced and it's a lot of work to clean it and it hurts when I sleep. Imagine eating! My cousin has her tongue pierced and some times it comes out, as there is no backing to is. Most girls think, oh its my body and I can do what ever to it, well you cant, who's paying for it? Not you.
Your parents just want the best for you.
And the only reason I have my cartilage pierced is because it was my birthday.
So just think about it first.

I have 11 piercings and I love them so much, <3. They show who I am. Nose and ears (11-12) Tongue and Belly (13) I am 13 now.

My mom let me have mine done, does that make it not 'sensible'?
My mom believes in making my childhood great, If I want a piercing I ask her, If she says no, she knows I won't moan, I will just wait and get it done when I'm old enough. Piercings can heal, my belly button has scarred but I am never going to walk around with my top up saying, 'Everyone, look at my piercing!' Am I?

Tattoo's on the other hand, I say wait until you're old enough, There is ALWAYS going to be a tattoo better than the one you got and you'll regret it. Think about it.

PokemonCrazexx- Beckiiee. Xx

Your mum let you get your belly pierced at aged twelve? Why? Who would you of even been showing it to?

I've got many piercings, all of which I got in my mid-teens but it took me a long time to prove to my dad to allow me to get it done - I got a job and earned the money for the piercings, I got good grades at school, I don't lie to him or sneak around doing things he wouldn't approve of, I dealt with all the consequences that came with the piercings (what school said), I helped him out and generally gained his trust and my dad listens to my opinions on subjects and if he disagrees then I don't get it done but he felt I was responsible enough and if I screwed it up then I didn't get anything else until I was 18. In my opinion you're far to young as you are asking complete strangers about this when you should be maturing into a young adult and thinking of things like this for yourself and I think you should consider the health risks and do your research on this.

I'm 15 a I want my tongue pierced too an I did have my belly button done twice bolth time didn't work. But when I ask my mom and dad if I could get it done they said no they might hit a artery in my tongue and I might die. So I'm still trying to convice them.

Well my mom said she doesn't want me to get any holes in my face but your tongue really isn't in your face so I'm ganna wait until my 15th birthday before I ask again because maybe then she will let me so maybe you should wait a little bit :D

I'm also 14 and want my tongue pierced. I have 2 tattoos and my dad didn't care. Now I have to convince him to let me get my tongue pierced. He says that it could cause infection, but not if you clean it! I mean c'mon now. He says that it could chip my teeth. Not if you get a plastic barbell!

I'm 13.. and I have been begging my mom to let me get my tongue peirced for 6 months and she still says no... how can I try to convince her I'm mature enough and that I really want it done? Help.. ):

I'm also a 14 year old female and I also would like my tongue to be pierced. My mother also goes against it. My father has told me multiple times that it's my body and that I can do what I wish with it, to express myself, where as my mother seems to want to control it, the only that that my dad has told me to do is keep my pants on, lol, but anyway, tongue piercings aren't permanent. I'm not sure if your mother did this, but my mother had my ears pierced when I was just a 1 year old, and she didn't seem to have a problem with me having two holes in my head then, so now that we're 14, what's the difference. If worst comes to worst, you can always take it out. Some good things about it are: expressing yourself, being original, being your own person, fashionable, you can always take it out,and it would be a new experience. Some bad things are: chipping your teeth, it could get infected, and probably trouble eating for the first week or so. Those are just some things that I thought up, because I'm also trying to convince my mother, who at the moment I am fighting with, but once it's over, I'm sure that I'll be able to start asking again.. And if she won't let me get my tongue pierced, I may start asking for a nose, lip, or monroe piercing. I just want to express myself in some sort of way. I think that I'll apologize to her tomorrow or whenever I see her again.

See I'm in the same position as you, I want my tongue pierced really badly and I want my nose as well! Im 15 now and I've already got 2 tragus, 5 lobe piercing, my helix and belly button done :) I done the lobes myself and she wasn't very happy :/ And I've asked her millions of times about the tongue piercing but she thinks ill look like a slut, but people doint understand that this is me, I do what I want with my body! Im a good child, never in trouble and I'm doing good in school but no matter what I say she just says no :( I will get it done one say though :)

I got my belly,tragus,top ear,conch,and my lobes pierced twice at the age of 12 and 13 none of them hurt well my belly did but 5 minutes after it felt like I hd it done for ages the pain was gone. Anyway I'm asking my mom 4 my tongue done but she says I'm too young and she doesn't like it, but I said to her if you don't let me have my tongue done ill pierce it myself and she said go ahead but I didn't pierce it LOL... its my birthday in a couple of says and ill be 14 and I'm begging to get my tongue done