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Gvera7
Jul 8, 2013, 07:26 AM
Hello all right so recently I had been going through a rough crazy time at high school drugs and stupid things like that... and after a while I met a girl who at first I didn't really know where things were going to go, but then we started started face timing every single day (by the way I met her online and she lives in boise Idaho while I lived in Arlington Minnesota.) and I started to realize that I really saw something in this girl that no other girl had... and she had felt the same connection so we tried a long distance relationship which was something new for us and exciting in a way... I had gotten so caught up in the moment that she became a part of me and I stopped doing drugs and quit that life and started to look for ways to be successful, and then one day I had made the decision to go and visit her because of how much she meant to me and I did... we net for 2 days and I met her family and everything.. I really wanted to go somewhere with this.. and then when I had to drive back to Minnesota I was so heart broken to hear that her life was going downhill and she had taken up drugs and thoughts of suicide... this was killing me more than she thought... so then like a week after that she said it wasn't going to workout because I wasn't physically there for her... this thought killed me and I wanted to hitch hike over there since I had no job or money... but I had thought twice about it... I was about to receive my GED in the mail soon to find that I had passed it... and my father had found me a decent 11$ an hour job here in town... I thought money was going to blur out our love in a way... but in the honest truth I would give up anything I have in order to be with her she means more than anything to me and I tell myself everyday that if god had planned us to get married then my life would be the greatest life I could imagine... but I'm so scared and depressed now days because I don't know what to do... please help it would mean so much... thank you

Oliver2011
Jul 8, 2013, 07:39 AM
If I was you the first thing I would do is put on the brakes fast. You are not at a point in your life where you can help her. You live miles away from her and are a current/past drug user. If she is caught up in using drugs that can only bring you down. The scetchy mental state of threatening suicide doesn't help either. But two people caught up in drugs is a recipe for a disastrous relationship.

After high school life is a series of accomplishments. That is what we work for. You got your GED and you have employment. You should feel good about those things. There are more accomplishments out there for you to achieve and that should be your focus.

Trust me, drama this early in a relationship can only lead to a bad relationship. Focus on yourself and meet someone in your own city.