View Full Version : First year of college and relationships.
jfootball12345
Jul 6, 2013, 12:58 AM
I am going to be a freshmen in college this fall and my girlfriend is going to be a senior in high school. I know it is crazy to think that you are in love during high school and stuff but my girlfriend and I have been through a lot. We are defiantly in love, no matter how much we fight we always look out for each other, respect each, listen and love each other. Even thought we fight sometimes we will always work it out together and never give up on each other.
But my question is how will it be having a relationship if I am away at college and she is back home for her senior year? I am going to play football at school (I got recruited by 10+ schools) and she completely supported me through the process and that's how our relationship has been, always supporting each other.
So my question is what is it like maintaining a relationship like this? We have been together for 2 years!
Fr_Chuck
Jul 6, 2013, 04:48 AM
It is very hard and most do not workout, but some do, all you can do is try
Wondergirl
Jul 6, 2013, 06:26 AM
I've been there and done that and with only snail mail (long-distance phoning was too expensive) and seeing each other on school breaks when I would go home (600 miles away from college). Nowadays it should be easy to stay in touch with each other -- email, IMing, Skype, inexpensive long-distance phones, PMing on Facebook and other sites.
What we did was have an open relationship -- if he wanted to date someone, it was okay with me, and if I wanted to go out with college friends or even just one guy, it was okay with him. We figured that would be a good thing so that we would find out if we were really meant for each other and would always come back to each other.
Homegirl 50
Jul 6, 2013, 07:15 AM
I think first year of college is going to be hard enough without worrying about a girl friend back home and her senior year is going to be stressful enough without worrying about what you are doing. I think you two should keep it open. You each have the option to date if you want. You'll either get through this or you won't but at least you won't be worrying about cheating on or hurting the other one.
talaniman
Jul 6, 2013, 09:05 AM
I think it comes down to how you handle and resolve your problems, glitches and EMOTIONS, and keep working together through the changing circumstances. Going from seeing each other everyday, to every few months is a challenge added to the new challenges of life you both face.
You both will grow and change and either you grow apart or together. The greatest challenge though is how you handle yourselves, and new emotions. My advice is stay honest with each other, and think twice before you do and say anything.
Only time can tell if that's enough.
Good luck, you will need that too.