Ok, so I am currently at a co-ed school, and to be honest I hate it. I'm bullied (not going to put in personal detail) and I'm a so called outcast. I only have one friend at the school, and she's like the popular girl. This school was my first choice of schools but it was because they made the school look nice, but now that I go to the school, I see it's all a trick.

When my parents asked me if I wanted to go to this girls only school I said no because I thought that I wouldn't like girls only, but now I really want to go there, because most of my friends go there and I Just recently made new friends and they go there too. My dad is fine with moving schools but my dad not so much, because we went through a lot to get me in a school. But I really don't like the school I am currently at.

Oh and I'm from S.A so I'm in year 8 (high-school) so I still have 4 and 1/2 years left at this school but was hoping to leave by the end of the year. I'm just not sure how to tell my parents. What should I say?

You need to tell the everything so they see the seriousness. Also mention that your worried if they complain to the school it will only make it worse. Then give them a weekly report or daily if needed

What will happen when you switch schools and you don't like it there? I don't see anything wrong with the school you attend, other than the bullying, which should be reported ASAP.

What will happen when you switch schools and you don't like it there? I don't see anything wrong with the school you attend, other than the bullying, which should be reported ASAP.I know and I have thought of that,I already have made friends at that school, a teacher got high in the classroom and the afrikaans teacher threw a pen at one of the students because he would'nt keep quiet, you're forced to do sports and they took away break detention, to only Friday detentions after school

So SA means South Africa? And you are white in a private school?

I know and I have thought of that,I already have made friends at that school, a teacher got high in the classroom and the afrikaans teacher threw a pen at one of the students because he would'nt keep quiet, you're forced to do sports and they took away break detention, to only friday detentions after school
Why are you worried about the time detentions are served? Have you been in trouble?

Why are you worried about the time detentions are served? Have you been in trouble?

First off who wants to go to detention on a Friday? And second off each time you don't wear your name badge(lost it) or the correct socks, yep socks, you get a demerit, and 3 demerits gets you a detention...

First off who wants to go to detention on a friday? And second off each time you don't wear your name badge(lost it) or the correct socks, yep socks, you get a demerit, and 3 demerits gets you a detention...
That sounds like my school. 3 uniform infractions and you are kicked out. Friday detentions are intended to punish you. So, how about following the rules?

That sounds like my school. 3 uniform infractions and you are kicked out. Friday detentions are intended to punish you. So, how about following the rules?
It's not my fault when my badge gets stolen, people at my school just randomly take your badge when your not looking, but OK... And I do follow the rules

It's not my fault when my badge gets stolen, people at my school just randomly take your badge when your not lookin, but ok... And I do follow the rules
How can they take your badge if it's pinned onto your shirt or blouse? If they hold you down and unpin it or otherwise steal it, report them to the school authorities.

What about the socks?

How can they take your badge if it's pinned onto your shirt or blouse? If they hold you down and unpin it or otherwise steal it, report them to the school authorities.

What about the socks?

You have to wear brown socks with your pants and I only have 2 pairs, and I'm not wearing the same socks for 2 days straight that's gross, so yah... but it's fine so yah...

You have to wear brown socks with your pants and I only have 2 pairs, and I'm not wearing the same socks for 2 days straight that's gross, so yah...but it's fine so yah....
There are five school days in a week. Why do you have only two pairs of socks?

The "yah" tells me why you are having problems.

There are five school days in a week. Why do you have only two pairs of socks?

The "yah" tells me why you are having problems.


I have to pairs of socks because they're those weird brown expensive ones, and I would'nt say I have problems... (:

I have to pairs of socks because they're those weird brown expensive ones, and I would'nt say I have problems...(:

You ask your parents to get you more socks and go with them to pick them out. These are silly reasons to get into trouble. If you were my child, I'd make you stay. You'll find another reason to leave the new school, I bet.

You ask your parents to get you more socks and go with them to pick them out. These are silly reasons to get into trouble. If you were my child, I'd make you stay. You'll find another reason to leave the new school, I bet.

It's not about the socks, I don't intend to be mean but I'm not your child, and if you were in my shoes you would want to move, I've been bullied in primary school and the fact that I'm going to have to go through more years of bullying sucks, I told a teacher but she sent me to counselling and the bullying hasn't been resolved... So just forget it!!

It's not about the socks, I don't intend to be mean but I'm not your child, and if you were in my shoes you would want to move, I've been bullied in primary school and the fact that I'm going to have to go through more years of bullying sucks, I told a teacher but she sent me to counselling and the bullying hasn't been resolved... So just forget it!!!
If I were in your shoes, I would make sure I have more socks! You mentioned the badge and the socks as two reasons you got into trouble.

Why isn't the bullying being resolved?

If I were in your shoes, I would make sure I have more socks! You mentioned the badge and the socks as two reasons you got into trouble.

Why isn't the bullying being resolved?

I said that's how you could get into trouble, I didn't, and I don't know why the bullying isn't being resolved, go ask my grade head or my counsellor!!

I said that's how you could get into trouble, I didn't, and I don't know why the bullying isn't being resolved, go ask my grade head or my counsellor!!!
You said students take your badge and you get into trouble for not having one. You said you have only two pair of the correct color socks and have gotten into trouble for not wearing the right color.

So there is still bullying going on? Like what?

Ok so, I was wondering if I could apply to a school even though I didn't go to the open day, it's July now, so can I still apply??

It would depend on the school. Contact them for an answer.

It would depend on the school. Contact them for an answer.

Ok, I'll do that.Thanks!

I've been to a coed school my whole life. Been to two primary schools, both coed. And I am currently at a coed school, but I honestly do not like it. I don't mind being around boys but not all the time. I'. Not les or anything but I just can't handle boys, I have been bullied by boys this year and last year, and they make me feel so insecure about myself. So should I go to an only girls school or coed and which would be better??

Depending on the age, and what you consider bullying, girls can and do bully also, sometimes worst than the boys. At some ages, some bullying is actually their way of showing they like you. ( just not enough told here to know what is happening)

If if it bad bully behavior, they are and should be reported and get it to stop.
Also what is your age, at 12 you may not want boys around, at 16 most likely you will wish the school was full of them

depending on the age, and what you consider bullying, girls can and do bully also, sometimes worst than the boys. At some ages, some bullying is actually their way of showing they like you. ( just not enough told here to know what is happening)

if if it bad bully behavior, they are and should be reported and get it to stop.
Also what is your age, at 12 you may not want boys around, at 16 most likely you will wish the school was full of them

I'm 14. And the bullying thing is being dealt with. But in your opinion, which would you think is better, coed or single-sex??

I don't think there is a 'better,' and that's why both exist. It's a choice. If you have the luxury at 14 of making that choice, that's great.
Girls only schools have their problems, just as coed schools do. One is that they tend to have events with boy only schools, where both go wild. Parents want their children to be separated from the temptations of sex and don't realize that they are merely fanning the flames.
It never occurred to me that bullying would be a factor in this decision. Perhaps you could tell us more about it in your case?

I don't think there is a 'better,' and that's why both exist. It's a choice. If you have the luxury at 14 of making that choice, that's great.
Girls only schools have their problems, just as coed schools do. One is that they tend to have events with boy only schools, where both go wild. Parents want their children to be separated from the temptations of sex and don't realize that they are merely fanning the flames.
It never occurred to me that bullying would be a factor in this decision. Perhaps you could tell us more about it in your case?

I'd rather not, because what was said is embarrassing... and I don't feel comfortable saying what was done and said... sorry but thanks for the help, I will give my decision a second thought (:

OK no problem.
Another factor is the quality of any given school, coed or not.

There are many advantages to single-sex schools, and while they'e not for everyone if you have the opportunity to look into it I would certainly say it wouldn't hurt to investigate. Are you currently in public school or private? Are there girls-only schools in your area that would make sense and are acadamically on par with your current school? Another option to consider is a different coed school entirely - the culture at different schools can vary quite a bit, so you may find that by moving into a completely different environment the situation improves.

There are many advantages to single-sex schools, and while they'e not for everyone if you have the opportunity to look into it I would certainly say it wouldn't hurt to investigate. Are you currently in public school or private? Are there girls-only schools in your area that would make sense and are acadamically on par with your current school? Another option to consider is a different coed school entirely - the culture at different schools can vary quite a bit, so you may find that by moving into a completely different environment the situation improves.

I am currently at a public school, and the all girls school is academically better than the coed school I am at, they offer more, and the all girls school only cost a bit more it's not even that expensive!