I have been chatting on the net and on the phone to this woman I met on a dating site a few months ago,and she was about to meet me in person but became very ill,and found out she he's cancer,and she is currently receiving chemotherapy now,but she has decided she doesn't want to meet me now in case she dies and she doesn't want to have me worrying about her and she won't meet me until she knows that she is going to be all right.
No matter what I say to her about meeting her she won't change her mind.we still talk on the phone every day for hours at a time,and I really love her and she loves me,so I really want to know how I can change her mind because I want to be there for her and can't wait to see if she gets better,I really want to meet her now ,is there anything I can do to change her mind?

FIRST - You can not really love a person that you never really met.

SECOND - You can not do anything or force anybody to change there mind. That is a control issue and honestly if you do have a control issue she is better off not meeting up with you.

THIRD - Let her be and let her make her own decisions in her own life and do not push the issue anymore. The more you push her, the less likely you will ever get to meet her.

Joe

Here's a little reality check and I hate to burst your bubble... but please do realise that when you meet someone on the internet and you write you do not really know that person.. it may feel like a connection on paper, but that's all that it is: it's on paper, it's not the reality yet...

Having said that... I have met my husband online and we met after 3 months, are married now. So yes, of course it is possible... but just writing and already saying you love someone seems like a little unrealistic... sorry to say this.

If the time is right for this woman she will make the decision that feels right for her...

If you hold on too tight.. it might break before you had the chance to meet this woman in person...

Try to be more realistic...

Hi Cat

People with this kind of illness acts mostly different. They are desperate and struggle with there live.
You must understand that the most important thing for her is to survive now. She needs probably some rest for the moment. I suggest talk to her when ever she likes to talk to you, but don't force her with requests and don't make pressures on her, she really doesn't need that now.
My brother and also friends has cancer, when they fight with that illness they get problems with there appearance, it can also be that she don't want to show herself in this way now to you, which is comprehensive as probably she would like to meet you for the first time in her best mood and appearance.
Go on talking with her, I think that is very important for her now, if you really love her as you say you will find the patience that she needs.
Good luck to her, and of course also to your love.