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peaceandlovex3
Mar 24, 2007, 11:48 PM
OK so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

My last period was February 28. I had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. I've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. So what I want to know is it possible that I may be pregnant? My period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

Symptoms:
I tire easily.
I'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if it's a mind trick or what]
I feel sick off and on, but not too much.
Sometimes I have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
My breasts are noticeably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
And whether its just me or being pregnant, I've gained a few pounds recently.

I'm just freaking out and I would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

Also, I have slight cramps, but not like my period.

MEGAN<3

peaceandlovex3
Mar 25, 2007, 12:12 AM
I know people are looking at this so will somebody PLEASE give me an answer? :confused:

beautifulshirebabe
Mar 25, 2007, 01:24 AM
Dear megan
Last year my friend who is in year 9 had unprotected sex and didn't take the morning after pill the next day.
She started experiencing the symptoms you had the next week and finally took a pregnancy test and it turned out positive.She did something about it and managed to terminate the pregnancy.
I would urge you to take a pregnancy test very soon,and if it does turn out positive do something about it quickly, you will probably have to tell your parents , and yes I can see that they would get angry and upset , but it will help you in the end.

peaceandlovex3
Mar 25, 2007, 07:14 AM
Well I'm definitely not having an abortion! - I think its so wrong. - if it turns out that I'm pregnant, I'm keeping my baby. Anybody else know of any help or advice??

J_9
Mar 25, 2007, 07:33 AM
Hun, I would not advocate abortion either. But are you ready for the DEMANDS a child can bring? Can you afford the clothes, diapers, formula, doctor visits, etc? How will you be able to afford all of this and more?

Physically your body is still changing too, it is not ready to carry a baby, this is why many babies of teen moms are usually premature and of low birth weight and may have many permanent developmental delays.

You may want to consider adoption. There are many people out there who cannot have children who can give your baby a life it deserves with money to afford these things, both parents in the home, etc.

If it were not for adoption, I would not have a husband, sister-in-law and brother-in-law. My in-laws adopted 3 children from girls in situations very similar to yours. They were wealthy and gave these 3 children everything that they would not have had if they stayed with their teenage biological mothers. Please consider adoption if you are pregnant.

peaceandlovex3
Mar 25, 2007, 07:56 AM
Yes. I realize this is going to be a long hard ride. But I just don't think I can really live with myself if I give up SOMEBODY that is literally part of me! As un-ideal as it may be, I have my mom, and my boyfriends parents. And as soon as I can I'll try and balance a job and school. I'm still in the very early stages of this and am not even posotive that I am pregnant yet. I think I can't do a lot of this thinking until it is actually REAL and permanent. Thank you so much for answering me though. I really need all the view points I can get.

TheSavage
Mar 25, 2007, 08:02 AM
Young lady -- if you get lucky and are not pregnant, I really hope you will take this lesson to heart and use protection.-- may the deity you follow be with you.-- Savage

JoeCanada76
Mar 25, 2007, 08:09 AM
First of all you need to wait. There is no way of finding out if you are pregnant or not yet. Some of the symptoms you are having could be symptoms of the period coming as well. As a girl matures the body changes and her period changes from time to time as well.

As far as having unprotected sex and around your fertile time does not guarantee that you are pregnant, but the possibility is always always there.

There are some people who even try to become pregnant but can not for up to a good year.

What you need to do is wait for your period to be due. If you get your period, I would wait a few days and take a pregnancy test just to be on the safe side. Usual recommendation is that you wait at least 3 or 4 days after your period is due to take the test. Make sure you take the test first thing in the morning with your first pee.

As far as adoption, PLEASE DO NOT RULE OUT ADOPTION IF YOU ARE PREGNANT.

There are different options for adoption even open adoption which would give you the right to see the baby and be part of the babies life even though in the care of other parents.

Best of luck whatever happens. Hopefully this is a learning lesson to you to always use protection.

Joe

mcaklavin
Mar 25, 2007, 08:16 AM
The symptoms you are experiencing could be early pregnancy or signs of an approaching period. Unfortunately, you're going to have a wait. Our family is praying for you and think your decision to have the baby if you are pregnant is a very brave and unselfish one. No baby is ever a mistake, and every child has a purpose.

louie1
Mar 25, 2007, 09:14 AM
Do the test - then deal with all the questions - your symptoms could just be there because you notice them, do not stress out and do not wait - deal with the truth not what might be a lot of time and energy can be wasted on maybe and if you are pregnant you are going to need every ounce of strength you have. Get to the shop!!

ScottGem
Mar 25, 2007, 10:06 AM
I may be reading between the lines here, but I have the feeling you want to be pregnant. I have feeling that you researched your fertile period BEFORE you had unprotected sex.

If that's the case and it turns out you aren't pregnant, then I hope you get some counseling as to why you would want to do this to yourself and a child. You ARE too young to have a child. I'm not going to go into all the reasons this is a big mistake. There are other threads here that more than adequately make that case.

If you were lucky enough (and I do mean that) to avoid getting pregnant, I really hope you rexamine what you are doing with your life.

Megg
Mar 25, 2007, 10:12 AM
If you turn out pregnant, if you don't want an abortion, have an adoption. I'm 21 and being pregnant is a possibility for me. But I'm engadged so it's not tooo much of an issue. Money is tight, so personally I would give it up for adoption. I think abortion is wrong as well. It all depend's on what you think. You may be too young, but if your pregnant your pregnant. That make's you grow up real fast. Next time, wait to have unprotected sex until your with someone who your practically married to. Meaning that you both know your sticking together. Have a bit of money to, lol. Good luck.

peaceandlovex3
Mar 25, 2007, 04:26 PM
OK. So screw all of you who think I did this on purpose! There are a lot of sites I've come across when trying to find pregnancy symptoms and what other people think that ask you to put in your last period and what not to determine the likelihood of pregnancy. Before my "accident" I didn't even completely understand how ovulation worked. So screw you. If you want to actually HELP please do, if you want to be judgemental and sinical, don't bother answering.

ScottGem
Mar 25, 2007, 04:59 PM
First, I have every right to judge you. That's what we do here. People post their problems and we have to make a judgement on the info they give us. We then use that judgement to try and help them. If I read you wrong, I'm sorry, but your reaction indicates to me I didn't.

Other people had already given you good advice on what to do now. That's why I decided to give you advice for the future.

That fact that you didn't fully understand ovulation yet were willing to risk your life and that of a possible future life, is shameful. Its shameful to our education system that doesn't provide children with the info to protect themselves.

Nor did you have an "accident".

I sincerely hope you aren't pregnant, but if you are I would counsel you with advice on how to deal with it. But until we know, I'm going to give you advice on how to deal with the future.

peaceandlovex3
Mar 25, 2007, 05:19 PM
Right you can tell from my reaction that you were right about what you think. But that's OK. Because I know the truth. And its pointless to argue with someone who definitely does not know me, or even understand my situation. So whatever, think what you want if it makes you feel better. But I'm not going to think twice about your so called "advice for the future". And just for the sake of saying it again, it really was an accident, whether you believe it or not. For all you know I could have been forced into sex.

sexiibabii
Mar 25, 2007, 05:25 PM
First of all no one should judge her.. she is here asking for advice not what you think about her or what she did or didn't do that's really wrong and if you have advice for her give it to her if not then don't bother I would not want this done to me I'm fourteen as well so seriously stop

JoeCanada76
Mar 25, 2007, 05:42 PM
First of all you need to wait. There is no way of finding out if you are pregnant or not yet. Some of the symptoms you are having could be symptoms of the period coming as well. As a girl matures the body changes and her period changes from time to time as well.

As far as having unprotected sex and around your fertile time does not guarantee that you are pregnant, but the possibility is always always there.

There are some people who even try to become pregnant but can not for up to a good year.

What you need to do is wait for your period to be due. If you get your period, I would wait a few days and take a pregnancy test just to be on the safe side. Usual recommendation is that you wait at least 3 or 4 days after your period is due to take the test. Make sure you take the test first thing in the morning with your first pee.

As far as adoption, PLEASE DO NOT RULE OUT ADOPTION IF YOU ARE PREGNANT.

There are different options for adoption even open adoption which would give you the right to see the baby and be part of the babies life even though in the care of other parents.

Best of luck whatever happens. Hopefully this is a learning lesson to you to always use protection.

Joe

I can not add anything to this advice, but I do not want it to be lost. So here it is again.

Fr_Chuck
Mar 25, 2007, 05:43 PM
She is 14 and having sex, someone needs to talk to her, since it is obvoius by these actions she is not thinking but living some lie or life style that is being sold to the children today.

She is still a child and in such needs to be talked to as a child.

And the boy who is having sex with a 14 year old child needs to be talked to seroiusly also.

sexiibabii
Mar 25, 2007, 05:47 PM
I'm pretty sure she did not intend on getting pregnant if she is and I understand how some adults might think she needs to be spoken to as a child but right now what she needs most is comfort and being able to know people are there for her if what she thinks is true I hate how adults forget what it is like to be a teenager

peaceandlovex3
Mar 25, 2007, 05:48 PM
Thank you for those of you with the kind and helpful words.

Also, the guy I had sex with was also 14.

I don't know why we need to be talked to. That's how life is today. It may not be ideal, and may get me into situations like this. But its what happens.

peaceandlovex3
Mar 25, 2007, 05:49 PM
Also, thank you sexiibabii for defending me. <3

sexiibabii
Mar 26, 2007, 10:14 AM
Your welcomee=)

ScottGem
Mar 26, 2007, 10:42 AM
thankyou for those of you with the kind and helpful words.

also, the guy i had sex with was also 14.

i don't know why we need to be talked to. thats how life is today. it may not be ideal, and may get me into situations like this. but its what happens.

There is another example. That's NOT how life is today. Teenage pregancy is actually decreasing. More girls are keeping their virginity until they are 18 or even older. You made a choice, but you made one without the information you needed to make the right choice. That you didn't have that info was partially your fault, partially your parents fault and partially the school system's fault.


im pretty sure she did not intend on getting pregnant if she is and i understand how some adults might think she needs to be spoken to as a child but right now what she needs most is comfort and being able to know people are there for her if what she thinks is true i hate how adults forget what it is like to be a teenager

I'm not so sure she didn't intend it. As Savage said, we haven't forgotten what it was like, but we have more knowledge and experience to try and help those who are going through it.


first of all no one should judge her.. she is here asking for advice not what you think about her or what she did or didint do thats really wrong and if you have advice for her give it to her if not then dont bother i would not want this done to me im fourteen as well so seriously stop

As I said before, judging people is part of what we do here. That doesn't mean we don't support. As for giving her advice, she has gotten very good advice from everyone.

sexiibabii
Mar 26, 2007, 10:47 AM
I'm not saying it wasn't "good advice" but if you didn't see she was getting kind of angry from some of the replys she was getting so I said no one should judge her... I'm only 14 I no I'm not a genius and I only had this thing since yesterday I don't no exactly what and what not to do on here but in my opinion if someone posts something looking for help that's what they need, help not judgemental people telling them they made a big mistake or they shouldn't have done it.. its not like by saying you should have done it can change anything so all I'm saying is that in my point of view people here need advice and to know that people care or understand not people being mommy and daddy or w.e

ncgirl_21
Mar 26, 2007, 03:50 PM
My advice would be to take your pregnancy test if your period still hasn't come 3 days after your suppose to start. If you are preganat then go to an adult that you can trust weather it be your parents or w/e and talk to them and schedule a doctors appt. then tell whom ever needs to be told so that you your parents your bfs parents and your child's father can all sit down and discuss what the next opitions are. I know that in this day and time peer pressure to have sex at young ages is there I use to be there but I keep my virginty till I was 20 and I've only had 1 partner so mayb after this incedent you should try to hold out longer but if you want to continue having sex please use protection if your comfy enough w your mom tell her you need birth control. Im not judging you at all its your life but don't let sex ruin it for you there's a lot left as far as school goes and there's things your not going to want to miss I promise

sammmy2026
Mar 26, 2007, 05:04 PM
So, are you pregnant or what?

My suggestion see a doctor or take a test

sarahm2003
Mar 26, 2007, 05:07 PM
ok so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

my last period was february 28. i had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. i've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. so what i want to know is it possible that i may be pregnant? my period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

symptoms:
i tire easily.
i'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if its a mind trick or what]
i feel sick off and on, but not too much.
sometimes i have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
my breasts are noticably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
and wether its just me or being pregnant, i've gained a few pounds recently.

i'm just freaking out and i would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

also, i have slight cramps, but not like my period.

MEGAN<3
Just get the test

dlee
Mar 26, 2007, 06:50 PM
I truly think you need the emotional support of your parent(s). Once you have discussed this in the open, you may find that it will take a lot of stress off you as well as help you deal with how to handle it, whether you are pregnant or not.

It is also important that your parent(s) know in case you are pregnant and have a medical problem, especially a miscarriage. It is hard for you to know at 14 years of age what problems can occur when you are pregnant and what may be harmful to you or our baby.

I strongly encourage you to also ABSTAIN from sex. You are way to young to be a mother and it is a huge responsibility for you even if you have the help and support of your mother, boyfriend and his parents. Then you have to think about what affect this will have on everyone else you will be relying on to help you. The best protection is never a guarantee!

Ging1994
Mar 26, 2007, 09:50 PM
You might be might not be pregnant and nobody has the right to judge you until they know you as a person but you did make an erasoposible destion in having unprotected sex hope you don't do it any time soon again well if you are pregnet I would keep the baby get a job and wish all goes well and have a long talk withis father lol I misspelled erasoposible whatever hope everything runs smothly

Nirvana14
Apr 5, 2007, 03:08 PM
I actually think that you're very conscious about having sex-especially unprotected one. Even if you are pregnant, it's your responsibility to keep it. If you have an abortion, you'll feel so guilty and conscious about it. The baby doesn't deserve to die just because you were so silly not to take protection. If it turns out to be positive, keep it or give it for adoption, but CERTAINLY don't kill it. Tell us if it is. May God help you!

chally
Apr 5, 2007, 11:09 PM
Hey! So I am going threw the same thing I have no I dea either... have you taken a pregnancy test at all?? And like I was tokd it may just be your head playing tricks on you... you can make yourself think your pregnant... but you may just very well be... I say take a test and that shouls help a little bit... hell take two! Haha I wish the best for you and let me know what happens later on OK!

Ging1994
Apr 7, 2007, 10:29 AM
Have you gotten your period yet answer this question and get a pregrancey test done

arturosmommy
Apr 10, 2007, 03:00 PM
ok so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

my last period was february 28. i had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. i've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. so what i want to know is it possible that i may be pregnant? my period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

symptoms:
i tire easily.
i'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if its a mind trick or what]
i feel sick off and on, but not too much.
sometimes i have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
my breasts are noticably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
and wether its just me or being pregnant, i've gained a few pounds recently.

i'm just freaking out and i would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

also, i have slight cramps, but not like my period.

MEGAN<3
Well I'm 14 years old and I'm 8 1/2 months pregnant.. those are the symptoms I got before I found out I was pregnant.. it is a possibility that you could be pregnant. So go to the doctor asap... good luck

akms
Apr 22, 2007, 10:48 AM
Put her/him up for adoption millions unable to don't want to and who are queer would love your baby and take care of her/him abortion may be wrong in your eyes but imagine people who want kids desperatly but can't have them

Sigh
Apr 26, 2007, 04:46 PM
ok so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

my last period was february 28. i had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. i've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. so what i want to know is it possible that i may be pregnant? my period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

symptoms:
i tire easily.
i'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if its a mind trick or what]
i feel sick off and on, but not too much.
sometimes i have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
my breasts are noticably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
and wether its just me or being pregnant, i've gained a few pounds recently.

i'm just freaking out and i would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

also, i have slight cramps, but not like my period.

MEGAN<3
I think you just need to relax.. that could be why you think you are experincing these syptoms because you are stressed out about being pregnant. Take a pregnancy test and see where it goes form there. Good Luck with everything!! I know when wanted to be pregnant I thought I had syptoms but didn't really it was just my mind playing tricks on me!

bonanza123
Apr 29, 2007, 12:39 PM
ok so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

my last period was february 28. i had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. i've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. so what i want to know is it possible that i may be pregnant? my period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

symptoms:
i tire easily.
i'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if its a mind trick or what]
i feel sick off and on, but not too much.
sometimes i have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
my breasts are noticably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
and wether its just me or being pregnant, i've gained a few pounds recently.

i'm just freaking out and i would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

also, i have slight cramps, but not like my period.

MEGAN<3
Your wouldn't have gained weight that quikly, and your nerves are probably making you sick. Get a pregnancy test and try that. Then see when your next period is. If I was you, I would tell my mother about what happened. Even though she will get angry, things will be taken care of... just let her know! She will eventually forgive you!

ST3V3NZBABYZMAMII
May 6, 2007, 11:08 AM
Try not to think about it too much you mind can play tricks on you and that can cause a lot of stress on you. I know how you feel I'm 16 years old and I would even throw up somethimes and it was nothing it was just my mind playing tricks on me you should take the test as soon a possible so you don't have to stress it anymore and know for sure if you going to be a mother or not

boredness
May 15, 2007, 05:16 PM
ok so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

my last period was february 28. i had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. i've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. so what i want to know is it possible that i may be pregnant? my period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

symptoms:
i tire easily.
i'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if its a mind trick or what]
i feel sick off and on, but not too much.
sometimes i have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
my breasts are noticably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
and wether its just me or being pregnant, i've gained a few pounds recently.

i'm just freaking out and i would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

also, i have slight cramps, but not like my period.

MEGAN<3
It sounds like your pregnant. My sister is pregnant and she had the same symptons before she found out she was pregnant

shatteredsoul
May 15, 2007, 06:15 PM
I hate to say it but you definitely sound pregnant! You should have had your period at the end of March , right? I think you should go get a pregnancy test from a pharmacy or something because you could be almost two months along. The sign of the tenderness and sore nipples, that is a big sign, so is being so tired. When I was pregnant with my daughter, I kept thinking I wasn't because I had cramps too. What are you going to do if you are? YOu definitely need some help and support to get through this. First, you have to find out for sure.

Xrayman
May 15, 2007, 06:49 PM
You have described the classic symptoms of early pregnancy. Yes, a test would confirm this now.

Don't hesitate.

Best wishes to you.

Dancer4Lifexoxo
May 15, 2007, 07:19 PM
ok so let me fill you in and then can you PLEASE give me some help!

my last period was february 28. i had unprotected sex on march 15 and 16. i've checked a lot of sites that say that was during my "fertile ovulation" time. so what i want to know is it possible that i may be pregnant? my period is not due until the 27th but it would be really great to have some help now!

symptoms:
i tire easily.
i'm going to pee a lot more than often[don't know if its a mind trick or what]
i feel sick off and on, but not too much.
sometimes i have the urge to eat crazily, other times food makes me sick.
my breasts are noticably sore and oddly, my nipples are very sensitive!
and wether its just me or being pregnant, i've gained a few pounds recently.

i'm just freaking out and i would really love to hear from anybody who has an opinion or if they experienced the same things during pregnancy.

also, i have slight cramps, but not like my period.

MEGAN<3
I think you need to take a pregnancy test ASAP
Just take the test && get it over with so you know what to do about this whole situation
&& next time make sure you use protection so that this sort of scare doesn't happen again! Lol

PeBbLeZ007
May 21, 2007, 07:31 PM
Hey Im 14 years old also .Im 3 weeks pregnant .I went to a health center to get tested. I had the same problems and you should follow my steps.. Go to a health cente. They won't tell your parents if you don't want them to .

brandy681
May 21, 2007, 07:41 PM
You are 14 and you will think differently when you get older, a LOT differently. Does the father want to be a dad? Also is this the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with if you are pregnant, is this a guy that will help you raise your child or leave you when he finds out? When I was younger I had a friend that was 15 who thought she wanted to get pregnant and she was caught in the back of a older guys car having sex and was made to go to court and she had to carry around a doll with her, she had to wake up in the middle of the night to feed it and rock it to sleep and she couldn't do anything. She cried everyday and definitely changed her mind about the whole situation! You are way to young to make your own decisions and if your mom wantes to give your baby up for adoption she could. You have rights but you have to understand @ 14 yrs old your mother would Literally be raising you and your kid which is un-fair to her and she can have that baby put up for adoption if she wanted to. You need to focus on school and other activited and from now on use protection or talk to your mom about birth control.

peaceandlovex3
Dec 3, 2009, 11:27 PM
Hello.
So to any any of you who may read this and wonder, I was never pregnant. Perhaps the over imaginative mind of a fourteen year old, maybe it was one of life's little lessons; the world trying to help me escape the trouble I could have found myself in. You have a much different take on things at eighteen, than you do at fourteen - I can realize that now. To those of you who may find yourself in this situation, I suggest enlisting the help and advice of an adult - one who knows you, and one that you trust. It is not healthy to try and go it alone, whether you may find yourself pregnant or not. And even though this site offers plenty advice, and the people who respond mean well, the internet is no substitute for someone who actually knows you, and can help you deal with the situation. It probably seems crazy, and difficult to admit sexual activity to your parents at a young age, but if you feel that you are old enough to make the decision to do such an adult act, you need to do the responsible thing and inform your parents. They can make sure you get the appropriate doctors check-ups, such as pap smears and STD testing, to prevent problems such as cervical cancer, becoming sterile, or more very serious, long term, life threatening illnesses. You will also need a form of birth control, and ALWAYS condoms. Sex is not a game to be played with these days. And it is not a bargain you can make with your body, and life. It would be hypocritical of me to tell any of you to wait - on that note, however, I will let you know that I sincerely regret my decision to not wait a while to become sexually active. At least until I was in a better place in my life, and in a state to better handle things. There is a big emotional responsibility that comes along with sex, on top of the physical responsibility that you will have.

I wish you all the best, with whatever situation you may find yourself in, and I just hope with all of my heart that I can reach somebody with this. Helping to change even one person's life for the better would make it all worth it.

Demure
Apr 14, 2012, 06:44 PM
I know this is a five year old question, but I need to know. Were you pregnant? And did you keep the baby?

Demure
Apr 14, 2012, 06:45 PM
Never mind. :/

hannahrapier
Apr 15, 2012, 08:19 PM
14 year olds should not have sex. But I'd take a test. And if its positive, sit your parents down and tell them. They will probably be mad. But they will still love you.
-hope I helped!