My wife is horny all the time but I'm not. I used to be quite the animal in bed but now I'm disturbed by how much my sex drive has dropped. I feel so bad when she comes on to me but I'm just not horny. It's not fair cause on the rare occasions I am horny she is there for me. What can I do?

Have your doctor check your testosterone levels and any other health issues that might be the cause of this.

U really think it could be testosterone. I'm only 27 years old.

U really think it could be testosterone. I'm only 27 years old.
Many health issues, including medications can cause low sex drive. In order to find out, get a complete physical and let your doctor know what's going on.

I lead a very active low stress life with Jo anxiety. I take no pills and I don't drink or do drugs. Could it be that I find sex boring? I like New and exiting things. Maybe spicing up our sex life? I know I'm attracted to her as she is very beautiful.

You could be bored and maybe she could use some strange too. Go to the sex store and get some toys. Let her pick them out. Let her take the dominant role.

I lead a very active low stress life with Jo anxiety. I take no pills and I don't drink or do drugs. Could it be that I find sex boring? I like New and exiting things. Maybe spicing up our sex life? I know I'm attracted to her as she is very beautiful.

How about getting that physical and blood test that was suggested from the doctor first? Until you know nothing is wrong there first then you can look elsewhere.

Even when I am not horny, why would I not want to please my wife? Especially given that she pleases me when she isn't horny.

Even when I am not horny, why would I not want to please my wife? Especially given that she pleases me when she isn't horny.

Tal, if you weren't already married... :)

In general, many men who are afraid of going to a doctor and finding out there might actually be something wrong with them (that can be fixed) start looking excuses and reasons for the problem to be anything but their physical condition. It must be boring. Need to spice things up. It progresses to 'I must not be attracted to my wife.' Have you reached the point of 'If I can look at porn and masturbate, then I don't have a problem,' yet?

Get a check up. Communicate with your wife. Make certain that you aren't putting pressure on yourself to be 'in the mood'. Pressure to perform is a libido limiter that can become a libido killer. You could be causing the problem without even realizing it simply by expecting your libido to stay the same as it was.

All men are not into sex 24/7 as is commonly believed. We like to get a good nights sleep also. You are lucky that your wife has a decent sex drive. Look at your personal situation. Working, Stress, responsibilities,, all play into your entire being.