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dilemma2
Jun 20, 2013, 10:26 PM
My stepson decided to move with us because he got a job near the place where we live. He worked full time for six months and decided that he did not like the place where he worked. He decided that he would be a full time student to get his degree and work when needed. He is 24 years old and still lives with us without paying rent since he moved here. He still lives with us for free. Being the son of my husband, does he have a legal right to live with us forever? Does he have a right as an owner of our house that his father pays for? I also have a job and his father pays for mortgage and the money that I make was kept for emergency use that me and my husband agreed on. We live in MN.

J_9
Jun 20, 2013, 11:00 PM
A legal right? What would give him that? If his name is not on the deed or the mortgage he is simply your child (step) living with you. However, he has established residency so if you want him out you will have to evict him through the court if he does not leave voluntarily.

I really don't understand your question. Do you want him out? Do you want him to pay rent? What is your husband's stand on this?

talaniman
Jun 21, 2013, 10:26 AM
I would defer to your husband as its his kid, but forever is a long time, and I doubt that's your husbands intentions but I can see where he would want to do what he can. Be alert on YOUR own finances and saving but you better be talking in a calm way before you light a fuse that can't be unlit.

Is your name on the mortgage note that he pays? Are their younger kids at home? Is this the only case of different parenting styles? How long have you guys been married?

Jake2008
Jun 21, 2013, 06:03 PM
He is only 24.

It's not at all unusual that adults of that age, and older, find themselves moving back into the family home temporarily due to divorce, job loss, etc.

If he is in school full-time, improving his chances of landing a decent paying job, why do you not see this as temporary.

If he can manage a part time job as you indicated, what does he do with his money- clothing, books, tuition?

I'm not at all sure we have a grip on just what is bothering you. Is he hard to live with, messy, demanding, rude?