I'm 13 I have been dating someone name eric and its going to make 10 months on the 24th and I haven't let him have sex with me ! My question is will the doctor say you're a virgin on the first try ?

Oh, goodness. Why would you want to have sex when you are 13?

Its not that I want to , but he always saying " Zandria come on its not going to hurt we'll almost been together for an year " so like ? Idk what to do. .

Its not that I want to , but he always saying " Zandria come on its not going to hurt we'll almost been together for an year " so like ? Idk what to do . .
Say no.

You don't know?

Do you know if you want to be a mother?

Um , yeah but I think I'm doing a pretty good job I haven't let him have sex with me and we have been .dating for 10 months my question is what will the doctor say on my first try ? Even if I do it !

Um , yeah but I think I'm doing a pretty good job I haven't let him have sex with me and we have been .dating for 10 months my question is what will the doctor say on my first try ? Even if I do it !
Where does a doctor come into the picture?

You do realize this is your first big test to be an individual, to have good self esteem, to NOT be a doormat -- you want to say no. If you cave, you are going to lose a very special treasure.

I bring up the doctor situation because my mom always saying " Oh , I'm going to take you to the doctor to see if your a virgin but she didn't yet " so that's my question willthe doctor say I'm a virgin if my skin doesn't stretch or my hymen is still present?

Oh my :(. I am not sure how old he is, but you should always listen to adults in this situation. Are you ready to have a baby? If not, don't have sex!

He's 14 , but can someone answer my question?

Yes, the doctor will tell your mom since you are 13.

Hey I'm Zandria, soooo I was wondering how does it feel on your first try ? And can your cherry pop on the first try ? My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost an year and I finally want to let him. . But what would the doctor tell me ? Would he/she say I'm still a virgin if my Hymen is still present and my skin isn't stretch ? HELP ME PLEASEEE o.O

Do your parents know you are "dating" him? If he is pressuring you to have sex, then he doesn't really care about you. Once he gets what he wants from you, it is likely he will move on. You are still a child and you shouldn't be trying to do adult things when you clearly aren't ready.

No one should engage in sexual intercourse unless they are ready to have a baby.

And yes a doctor can tell if you have even attempted intercourse.

Yes, it hurts your first time. You will be sore for several days. Cherry pop? Come on, if you are old enough to be thinking about sex, you are old enough to use proper terminology. Yes, your hymen will break on the first try.

The doctor would tell you that you are not prepared for this type of change of dynamics in your relationship. Your doctor will tell you that you can get pregnant the first time you have sex. The doctor will tell you that it will hurt. And finally, the doctor will tell you that pregnancy at your age is very dangerous and can cause some permanent health conditions to you and possibly permanent serious mental or physical deficits to the baby.

My friend who has went to the doctor told me that , the doctor told her that they would say you're a virgin if your Hymen is still there and your skin didn't stretch. .

Your friend isn't a doctor now is she? I'm a nurse and I see 13 year old girls all the time.

Of course the doctor can tell if you had sex, and are no longer a virgin and that's what he will tell your mom, and your mom will tell this boys parents and then you will never hang out and then your mom will take your boyfriends parents to court for a restraining order and he goes to juvie if he tries to contact you in any way and his parents will go to court and pay your parents for violating a court ordered restraining order and you will be grounded and your bedroom windows nailed shut.

No , but I feel like you guys are putting pressure on me and I haven't let him and we be in the house by our self and I refused to let him ! All Iwant to know is if my skin don't stretch or my hymen is still there ami still a virgin ?

Once he puts his penis in your vagina, you are no longer a virgin.

Putting pressure on you how? We are telling you the facts.

Did you know you could get diabetes from being pregnant at your age? Did you know that being pregnant at your age can cause you to have seizures?

I'm going to use protection , and I also DID told him If he didn't have a condom he wasn't going to have sexwith me ! And well can y'all explain the facts a little better ? I feellike you guys are YELLING !

I'm going to use protection , and I also DID told him If he didn't have a condom he wasn't going to have sexwith me ! And well can y'all explain the facts a little better ? I feellike you guys are YELLING !
When you have sex you will not be a virgin anymore, even if he uses a condom. And, you can still get pregnant using a condom. What will your parents say when they find out you are pregnant?

I don't know about my dad , but my mom already thinks I'm having sex and I'm no so I midswell just do it ! But if I get pregnant my mom will beat the heck out of me !

Okay, the facts.

I got pregnant using the pill AND the condom. Not once but twice. Another member got pregnant the first time she had sex using three forms of birth control. You see, just having a condom does not protect you from getting pregnant. It can still happen.

If your mom takes you to a doctor he can, and will, tell her if you have had sex.

Sex does hurt the first time. You will also be sore for several days.

Let me ask you this. If you do get pregnant, how are you prepared to deal with it?

I don't know about my dad , but my mom already thinks I'm having sex and I'm no so I midswell just do it ! But if I get pregnant my mom will beat the heck out of me !

Then be prepared for getting into trouble. You'll be lucky to have a normal baby at your age, plus you can have a lot of problems being so young. Will you just quit school if you get pregnant? You must be in middle school. How sad!

I'm through, all I'm doing is asking questions and you guys are acting like I'm NOT A VIRGIN which I am ! I haven't have sex YET ! When my mom take me to the doctor I'll juss ask them all this stuff and continue looking on the internet at least THEYwont JUDGE someone who still is a VIRGIN and haven't let a boy stick his penid in her ! I understand y'all helping but you guys say the meanest things ! :(, to a girl who STILL IS A VIRGIN!!

They are telling you that once you let him do this to you, you will not be a virgin... is that really so hard to understand?

And I see nobody saying anything mean here but I do see you not understanding what is being said... or at least pretending to not understand.

And you are too young to be having sex... keep telling him no.

No one is being mean. They are telling you the truth.

Please continue to be a virgin.

We have never been mean to you. We are telling you the truth.

Why are you so angry with the truth?

Okay , explain things BETTER ! Getting mad at me ? NOT going to help I'm still a virgin so I can care less I'm going to just go to the doctor whenever my mom take me or talk to my dads girlfriend .

We are not getting mad at you. You are getting mad at us.

How can we explain things any better? We've already have explained as good as we can.

Well , thank you very much !

Explain things better?

This is getting silly now.

We aren't getting mad at you. We care about you and are trying to help you. You came on here telling us you are scared because your boyfriend is pressuring you to have sex. You tell us you are worried about how it will feel and how your mother will react. You tell us you are worried that a doctor can tell whether you have had sex. So we have answered all those questions. We have told you it will hurt the first time. We have told you a doctor can tell. How better can we explain that?

We have also told you that no form of birth control is 100% effective so any time you have sexual intercourse you risk getting pregnant. We have also told you that getting pregnant at your age can mean serious health problems.

You tell us you are scared, well you should be. You should be scared because you are thinking about doing something adult when you are only a child. We want to protect you from making a very big mistake that you can't take back. Once you lose your virginity its gone. If you get pregnant your life can be ruined. Wait until you are older and more emotionally prepared to deal with this.

Being scared is a warning sign. If you are scared about something then don't do it.