Me and my partner have been trying for a baby, for about 5 months and we've had no luck there's be so many sign's but it always comes back negative. When I've been on my period I've been getting exstreme pain, to the point where I can hardly stand and for ages I've been getting loads of different sorts of pains round my belly! My periods have been really heavy, all through the time when I'm not on my belly still seems to bloat

We really cannot give you any help here. I would recommend you see an OB/GYN for your issues along with a preconception workup.

It's possible you have cystic ovaries, endometriosis, or a number of other problems. Unfortunately, you will need certain tests to determine that. We can't do tests via the internet.

I would also like to remind you that it can take the average healthy couple up to a year of actively trying before conception takes place.

Are you monitoring your ovulation using the basal body temperature method? If not, that's a great place to start.

What does cystic ovaries, endometriosis,mean?
And no what's the basal body temperature method?

Cystic ovaries means cysts on ovaries.

Endometriosis is when cells from the lining of the uterus grow outside of the uterus.

Basal body temperature is an increase in body temperature when you take your temperature every morning at the same time while still in bed.

It might benefit you to learn more about your body before becoming pregnant.

I just read up on cysts on the ovaries, and I think that's what I have because I read through the signs and its seems to match but I have a problem I don't actually have a doctor at the moment as I'm currently homeless, waiting to be housed! And isit still possible to get pregnant if I do have a cyst on my overies?

Okay, so you are homeless and you are trying to get pregnant? What is wrong with that scenario?


shyy, I think you need to get your priorities straight and get into a stable environment before you even consider having a baby.

If you knew the hell I've had to live through you'd understand, its my decision and I isn't going to change it!

If you got a cyst could you still get pregnant?

Why in heavens name are you trying to conceive when you're homeless? Does that make any sense to you?

A baby not only needs a home, it also needs prenatal care (you can't even go to a doctor to find out if there's an issue, how will you afford to go to a doctor every month during your pregnancy? How will you afford the hospital bill when you deliver?) medical care after it's born, a crib, a stroller, car seat, clothes, diapers, formula (not all women can breastfeed), bottles, and so much more.

Find a home, find a doctor. When you can afford both, then try to conceive. Until then, you really don't have the right to have a child and put it in the same situation you're in right now.

If you knew the hell I've had to live through you'd understand, its my decision and I aint gonna change it!

If you got a cyst could you still get pregnant?

You've been through hell, so now you want someone else, an innocent child, to go through the same hell you did? Do you not see how wrong that is?

If you have questions about your medical health, see a doctor. If you can't afford one, you're on your own. I for one will not help you conceive at this point.

Good luck. You're going to need it.

You "ain't gonna change it." Well, if you want the kid, you WILL change it. You risk having that child taken from you at birth if you are homeless at the time of birth. But you don't care, do you? You just want to be pregnant.

You don't care that you are going to place that child through the same hell you have been through. But you don't care. You don't care that you can't put a roof over the child's head, or food in its mouth. You don't care that you can't afford diapers or clothes.

Oh, that's right. That's what welfare is for. So I can pay for your illegitimate child.

You really don't have a clue. I take babies away from their mothers all of the time because they are in the same situation you are in. But they don't care until they are released from the hospital and their baby goes with a social worker into a foster home.

how will you afford to go to a doctor every month during your pregnancy? How will you afford the hospital bill when you deliver?)

If the OP is in the U.S. I'll be paying for it. That's how she can afford it.

See you got it all wrong! I don't pay for a doctors? I get it free and the only reason I haven't got a doctor yet is because I've got to wait for a place so I know what area I need to get a doctors in and I'm going to be housed very soon, just waiting on the biding and I've got the money for all that I'm not stupid

Yes, if you are trying to conceive without stability, you are stupid.

Get your priorities straight unless you want your child to go through the same hell you went through, or worse.

See you got it all wrong! I don't pay for a doctors? I get it free and the only reason I havnt got a doctor yet is cus I've got to wait for a place so I know what area I need to get a doctors in and I'm going to be housed very soon, just waiting on the biding and I've got the money for all that I'm not stupid
YOU get it free because those of us that have to pay taxes because we have to work for a living pay for it... WE have to think CAN WE AFFORD this after we have to pay our taxes so people like you who don't get free handouts and welfare so you can have even more kids that we the taxpayers have to pay even more taxes to support.

Sorry, but that's a REAL sore point with me... because I have never gotten anything for free... and I grew up poor... paid for 100% of my own college.. spent a decade paying it back, and it was damn hard... while other people were getting free rides their entire lives... and in some cases multiple generations of the same family..

But with that rant out of the way... I hope you do get a place... and get a job.. and pay taxes and have to buy your own insurance to pay your own bills... so you can one day really understand everything I just said. And then, and only then do you actually have a child... when you are able to support it from your own paycheck... and not a welfare check.

Ok, you are in the UK, you get your healthcare free. Lucky you.

However, your baby's formula isn't free. Clothes aren't free. Diapers aren't free.

See you got it all wrong! I don't pay for a doctors? I get it free and the only reason I havnt got a doctor yet is cus I've got to wait for a place so I know what area I need to get a doctors in and I'm going to be housed very soon, just waiting on the biding and I've got the money for all that I'm not stupid

You have the money for all of that, yet you're homeless. That means without shelter, without a roof over your head. If you have the money, why do you not have a place to stay? You are the one that told us you're homeless. Do you know what homeless means?

You don't pay for doctors? If so, find a doctor and go, you have no reason not to. Until then, live with the pain, and the bleeding until you get a proper diagnosis and treatment.

It's stupid not to get properly diagnosed, something no one online can do. If you have cysts or endometriosis, you will need treatment.

See you got it all wrong! I don't pay for a doctors? I get it free
Why is it free?

Socialized medicine. That's why it's free.

Are you that stupid that you can't read properly I said I have money thanks!

I'm in the uk, NHS

Are you that stupid that you can't read properly I said I have money thanks!

People with money aren't homeless. If they're between homes they can go to a hotel. They don't need to live on the streets, which is what it means to be homeless. You're the one that said you're homeless.

Also, name calling is against the rules of this site. Watch your mouth young lady, or your choice to post here will be taken away from you.

No, I'm not stupid. I have money AND a house, AND a doctor. I'm not homeless.

If you have money, why are you homeless? I just don't get that.

I am homeless, but didn't you read I'm getting housed! I thought I could get some help, but you're a bunch of horrible pricks! You make people want to kill there self, I'm deleting my account I've had enough of this none of you understand anything

The point is, get housed FIRST!

Oh, and you can't delete your account. ;)

No, I'm not stupid. I have money AND a house, AND a doctor. I'm not homeless.

If you have money, why are you homeless? I just don't get that.

You and me both J. Homeless means no shelter at all. If you have money how are you homeless? I can understand not wanting to rent a place if you're in the process of purchasing a home, but why would you live on the streets? Why not get a hotel, or at least stay with friends?

Doesn't make any sense at all.

I am homeless, but didn't you read I'm getting housed! I thought I could get some help, but your a bunch of horrible pricks! You make people want to kill there self, I'm deleting my account I've had enough of this none of you understand anything

What do you mean by "I'm getting housed"? Is this some sort of welfare housing, government housing?

We never once said to kill yourself, we're not those kinds of people. We simply stated that facts, that someone without medical care, and without a roof over her head, should not be trying to conceive. But you don't care about the future of your baby, you only care about what you want, which is the very reason there are so many unfortunate children in the world today.

Good luck to you, and especially to your future child. I hope you calm down, re-read what we posted, and try to understand where we're coming from. You said you're not stupid, but you have yet to prove that claim. Please, prove it. Think about the child for a second, instead of thinking only about what you want.

I'm in emergency housing for homeless people

I'm in emergency housing for homeless people

Are you working? Is your partner? How old are you both?

I'm really not trying to be mean to you. I realize that that's the way you're taking it, because you don't want anyone telling you what you can and can't do. I get that. But this isn't a matter of what you want, it really isn't.

You said before that you've been through hell. Don't you want better for your child? What's the hurry? Wait until you're both back on your feet, you're healthy, and then have a baby. No one is saying that you should never have a child. Just wait a while, at least until things are a bit better.

Trust me, if things are tough now, they'll only be harder with a baby. Babies are a joy, they're a gift, but they suck the life right out of you. Even when you're in an ideal situation, it's really hard. There's never a perfect time to have a child, but there is a very wrong time to have one, and I really think that it's not a good time for you to try and conceive.

Wait a while. What can it hurt?

Funny how someone that doesn't even have their own place to live... is telling those of us that OWN our own houses we don't understand anything.

Let me just say... when you manage to buy and pay for your own place... particularly when its worth well over Half a million dollars... trust me... you understand more than a few things.

And I do understand being down on your luck and having hard times... because I've been there. But having a baby is NOT one of the things I was thinking about at that time... in fact it's the last thing I wanted at that moment.

You think its hard now getting your life together... and if you are in a shelter... trust me in that you really don't have it together right now... a newborn kid is going to make it WAY harder to do it.

We aren't "horrible pricks." We are concerned about this baby you are wanting to have. This baby that will not have food or shelter, or a stable environment.

No one ever said to kill yourself. Maybe you need some counseling to get over that.

I don't have a problem with you having a baby. I have a problem with you being HOMELESS and having a baby.

What you need to do is get your priorities straight.

1) Get housed.
2) Get a doctor.
3) Get married.
4) Have a good nest egg put away.
5) Have a baby.

You are doing it all backwards.

Apparently she "understands" far less than she thinks she does.

But then... its apparent to everyone else... if she understood everything... and had all the answers... she'd own and live on an Estate... and not be homeless right now.

There is no shame in being poor... but it is a shame to be rude and ungrateful.

You are known by the way you treat others, and I for one wasn't impressed how quickly the name calling started... after you was given very good and sound advice.

And incidentally... if you "have money"... why haven't you gone out and rented a place yet.

One question that still hasn't been answered. Yes, you say you have money. Do you have more money coming in? Do you and your partner both have well paying jobs? It would seem that you don't, since you are living in a homeless shelter.

Having a bit of money tucked away is great, but if there's no more coming in, that money will quickly run out. Babies need things, they need food, they need clothes, they need diapers, they need a place to sleep, they need medical care, they need need need. Have you sat down and made a list of items the baby will need, and the cost? Have you figured out how much it will cost for you to buy diapers every month, formula, clothes (babies grow quickly), medication if it's needed? Also, if you are working now, that income will no longer be there when you go on maternity leave. What about after maternity leave, who will watch the baby? Daycare is not cheap.

You have to think about all of this before you have a child, not after. You're putting the buggy in front of the horse.