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Eyqa159
Jun 17, 2013, 06:58 AM
So I am a freshman in polytechnic. I just start school about 2 months ago. During the first day of school typically we will have this ice breaker game so we can get to know our classmates. So there's this that caught my eye. Its like crush at first sight. He so cute. I thought he was the same age as me which is 18 however he is way older than me. He is 25. Which is quite a shock to me as he doesn't look older than 18. He is short which is why I like him. Hehe.

So during the first month I don't really talk to him much because he always with other group of friends that ain't really my type of people. So I always observe him from afar. Then the second month because we had common test coming up he slowly drift to my group to study engineering maths as he is not good with it and our group is somewhat the smart in class for that module. So during that time we always stay back together and we somewhat became very close. I usually am the one that teach him maths because somehow I am the only one that can make him understand.

Then one day my friend observed that he wasn't looking at what I am teaching him and was looking at my face instead. So I don't know if my friend is over analyzing things or what but she say that he might like me too. But is it really true? I know he is a too friendly kind of guy maybe he just like me as a friend since I am willing to help him. And I know that I am not pretty and I am not his type of girl. He always made me laugh and smile a lot more than anyone can in a year. And yeah I am attracted to funny guys. So during that period he just made me fall for him even more. But he is sooo handsome and I ain't saying this because I like him but its true. I saw how girls in my class look at him.

However the thing is that I heard that he had quit our course because he can't take the pressure of the study. I was devastated because it means I can't see him anymore. So I decided that I want to tell him through sms about how I feel about him since he won't be my classmate anymore and it wouldn't be awkward anymore. And also just in case he doesn't like me back. But should I really do it? Or just let it be and move on?

Homegirl 50
Jun 17, 2013, 07:54 AM
I would say at 18 you sound as though you have no experience with men and yourself esteem is pretty low. I don't think crushing on this 25 year old man is wise. He may even already know you like him. He may be a nice guy buy I would hate to see you taken advantage of by an older man. You can tell him if you want but use your head and not your heart.

Fr_Chuck
Jun 17, 2013, 08:11 AM
I agree, first you need to deal with yourself image, all women are pretty, not all women look like magazine models ( and I am glad, since I hate that look)

Next you don't tell someone how you feel, you perhaps ask them out for coffee, **telling someone how you feel is more middle school, not college.

Eyqa159
Jun 17, 2013, 09:25 AM
I would say at 18 you sound as though you have no experience with men and your self esteem is pretty low. I don't think crushing on this 25 year old man is wise. He may even already know you like him. He may be a nice guy buy I would hate to see you taken advantage of by an older man. You can tell him if you want but use your head and not your heart.

Oh yeah I am not experienced with men apparently. I have only been in a relationship once when I was 13 years old. I admit I do have low self esteem. Haha. Thx for the advice though. Really helpful.

Homegirl 50
Jun 17, 2013, 10:58 AM
There is a guy out there for you. Just use your head, be yourself.

talaniman
Jun 17, 2013, 10:18 PM
I have to agree with the others posters. I don't think it wise to admit feelings for a guy you don't know that well, have your own issues with self esteem, and very inexperienced with dating. The main thing is he has made no move to show you interest, with all the opportunity, and your school is to hard for him. None of this adds up to a good result.

Or even a fun experience.

Chicken4762
Jun 22, 2013, 06:28 PM
Look if he's like 7 years older why are you crushing on him I recommend nerds yeah they don't look good with their shirts off but they are likely to get a good job in life trust me