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bigNavySeal
Jun 16, 2013, 04:38 AM
As the title says. We 'separated' 7 years ago after a short whirlwind romance due to circumstances. We never 'broke up'. She was the sister of my brothers girlfriend at the time (now ex), and I met her during a holiday at her family house, and we hit it off immediately the same evening. She was my first and in fact only real 'love', I was 21. We kept in touch but due to distance (She's from Manila, Philippines, I was interning in Bangkok at the time, and had to move back home, the Netherlands, to finish University) we both moved on with our lives, and never met each other again. We both agreed to see what may happen in 5 years or so if we're still single.

With the easiness of today's social media I can contact her anytime as we're still friends on FB, but we haven't talked since we both moved on 7 years ago. I think she's still single, judging on her FB photos.

I'm 28 now and have been through a rough break-up last year, resulting me to move back home from Asia (I've been working in Bangkok again for the past 4.5 years), which has done me good. I'm recovering, but am diagnosed with Anxiety Disorder and will attend therapy soon.

I think about contacting her, but would it be wise? Should I just move along with my life and see what else will come my way? She's on my mind at times though. Im trying to figure out how to move forward after therapy and where to settle, as I need to start a new life. Thus I'm pretty flexible (and I've been a traveller) and could take my chances and contact her. How that will develop will of course be a different story, but reading some articles online are promising (e.g. Rekindling an Old Flame-Find romance in a lost and found love experience (http://www.connectionsforwomen.com/article_details.php?article_id=111)).

I like your opinion. Thanks.

bigNavySeal
Jul 8, 2013, 05:43 AM
Anyone? Thanks

Oliver2011
Jul 8, 2013, 06:12 AM
In my life I don't believe in going backwards. But that is just me and some people do make it work. A couple of issues though:

You have some issues going on with your life right now. You have been through a bad breakup. You have been diagnosed with Anxiety Disorder which you need to work through with counseling. With those things going on are you in a good place right now? A place when you are begin a meaningful relationship or should you concentrate on healing yourself?

Second you live miles a part. Where would this relationship go? Is she prepared to move to be with you or you to be with her? Are you comfortable having a long distance relationship for a while?

All I am saying is you need to consider all the factors before jumping back into the relationship game.