I have a problem I have been with my boyfriend for a little over 3 years and its now been a year since we have done the you know. I get shut down every time I try and I have tried to sit down and talk to him about it but he just gets really mad. He does drink a lot and has been on the same job 12 years so not sure if its beer or stress or just not into me any more. We have a 2 year old son together. I am 23 and he's 35 and I am at a loss on what's wrong. Is he's gay or cheating?

Is it stress? Maybe exhaustion, those are the two main libido killers. Though heavy drinking can be a problem too; whisky is what it is known as, the inability to get hard due to alcohol consumption. It concerns me that you can't talk to him about it without him getting angry. If he's getting angry about it, it could be that there is medical issues. Getting checked out and maybe getting him to slow down on the drink.

As well from a relationship standpoint I would start protecting yourself in case this all falls apart. Sexual problems can manifest because of other issues. I have a sinking feeling that this relationship isn't going to last another year. As much as you can set aside some money and start financially protecting yourself. Get an exit plan in place if it becomes bad. I just have a feelings things are going to go south.

I agree and a combination of all of them.

If he will not talk about it, that is a real issue,

You need to sit down, outside the bedroom and have a long talk, and perhaps get into counseling

That is quite an age difference. He is entering the , probably, toughest years in a man's life. 30 something's have enormous pressure at that stage of their lives because at this point, every decision will determine the rest of it. His drinking probably does not help at all. Alcohol destroys lives. It is not an aphrodisiac. It causes depression. It causes chemically induced fatigue. Gay or Cheating? Really? A little maturity on your part would probably help a bit.