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Lilacs5
Jun 8, 2013, 06:17 PM
He lives 3,000 miles away and was okay to talk to on Facebook. He kept complimenting my looks and always stalking my Facebook. I never complimented him or his pictures *should be a red flag* He said he suffered from depression and used to be on medication. I can relate to that because I have too.

But now he keeps saying how he wants to come and meet me when he is on vacation. And yesterday in a comment on my face book I was laughing because one of my college professors said "I don't know what I am going to do with you yet" and this was about my concerns on passing the class, I shared this on Facebook because I thought it was funny and now I come home today and he puts in quotes "I don't know what I am going to do with you yet"

Am I overreacting as I took this to mean he is saying he does not know what he is going to do with me yet, but he had it in quotes... but why do that?? Why repeat THAT in quotes at me? I coldly said "you are not going to be doing anything to me" I don't know if he didn't mean anything by it and I am going to hurt his feelings for nothing or if I had a right to be concern and annoyed?? I am not into him in any ways more than chatting as a platonic friend and I never gave him impressions I am into him. Am I over reacting and also what should I do?

I don't know if this guy wants to kill me, have sex with me or is innocent and just really likes me but the feeling is not mutual. My main question is he just innocently crushing on me or is he some demented freak who may harm me?

Zea
Jun 8, 2013, 06:40 PM
Just block him from your FB. I wouldn't want to deal with a stranger to figure out what their real intentions are.

Jake2008
Jun 8, 2013, 06:42 PM
If you have zero romantic feelings for him, and he has romantic feelings for you, or you feel he is heading in that direction, it is time to delete him.

Friendships are based on mutual respect, boundaries, and shared interests. And those factors, and other traits that go into a solid friendship, aren't questioned, or twisted around to meet another agenda.

For you to carry on a friendship, and to feel that he may want something more, or simply the fact that he makes you uncomfortable, it is no longer a friendship, but something without clear boundaries.

I would encourage you to stop this friendship, before he thinks he has you convinced that a visit from him would be welcome.

J_9
Jun 8, 2013, 06:45 PM
You haven't blocked him yet why?

Lilacs5
Jun 8, 2013, 07:46 PM
Because I thought he was genuinely nice. And maybe I am naïve but when I haven't told him he is hot nor did I compliment him back , I didn't think he needed a brick wall to fall on his head not to know this was just a friendly online thing, friends online. Also who does not enjoy being complimented on their looks? Lol. And people who are just friends hang out if he was coming on vacation but now after a couple comments he made I am concerned he may be thinking not so nice things and can even be dangerous or if he is just kidding and being flirtatious and means no harm or intentions of harming. Now, he will not get to meet me... I don't have my last name on face book nor did I sign up with my last name so nobody can trac me.. but just now I am wondering if he can be dangerous

talaniman
Jun 8, 2013, 08:01 PM
Anyone online can be dangerous while talking nice. You can never know. Exercise caution and safety for yourself at all times.

staysea
Jun 8, 2013, 10:44 PM
Anyone online can be dangerous while talking nice. You can never know. Exercise caution and safety for yourself at all times.

Thanks tips!