I have been dating this girl since Freshman year of College (we just finished our 2nd year). So it's been over a year and 1/2.

This past semester has been relatively rough on both of us. I was forced to quit playing soccer for health reasons and she joined a sorority. At first, she told me it was for us (that she was joining), because she wouldn't be able to go out and would allow us to spend more time together. Obviously, I knew that wasn't true and was not happy about this. I didn't tell her no, but I struggled at first to adapt.

This led to us not getting along as well, more stupid little fights. However, over spring break she told me how happy she was with the relationship, this was at the middle to end of March.

Once April came around we fought a lot more, about stupid things. However, the problem is usually when we would "fight" it would be over text and not in person. However, she didn't show any signs of wanting to a break in person. We would continue our normal routines and go about our business as normal.

She would sleep over every night, and we spent as much time together as we could. We went out for anniversary dinner and I even helped her pack all her boxes and move out of the dorms.

Now fast forward to the end of school. She came to my house for a couple days, everything was fine. We had a great time, did a bunch of new things, like bike riding together and sitting by the pool. We really enjoyed each others company. She began making plans for the summer. Like, when she wanted me to visit her, meet her grandparents and she even left a suit-case for me to bring up when I came for a visit (She lives in another state).

Now she went home and made a tweet "I miss my boyfriend already #waaaah". This was the day she left and for a few days she was acting completely normal. We would talk on the phone and everything was normal. A few days later, she started acting very weird and I asked her about it she said "Just cranky today", so I didn't think anything was up. However, this continued, and after a few days I asked her what's going on. She avoided the question, but eventually dropped a bomb on me.

She texted me all this information: Things like,

I'm so confused about our relationship.
I need time to figure out what I want.
I've lost myself and need to see what I want.
I need a break to focus on myself.
I'm not happy.
I want to stay close and keep in touch.
I was making this more dramatic than it has to be.
I am a really big part of her life "but she wants to focus on herself."
We are changing and clashing more than getting along.
It's not that I don't love you... I just need to see what's best for me. Isn't that fair?

Now since she has gone home. She told me she is really stressing out.
One: Over our relationship
Two: She works a LOT (but that shouldn't really matter)
Three: Over her weight (she is very attractive)
Four: Her friends (Many of her friends are very fake towards her)
And when I talked to her on the phone she said "She misses me and wants to talk to me, but doesn't want to talk about the relationship. She will contact me when she is ready".

She says anytime I try and talk to her about our relationship "I'm just pushing her away and she needs her space." So I told her, give me my answers and then I will leave her alone. Eventually after all the crying and yelling she did.

However:

She left us in a relationship on Facebook, however she made it private so no one could see it. It did stay like this for two weeks. I changed it because I couldn't take it.

This is also coming from a girl that told me she wanted to marry me and have kids with me. We even made a joke about it at my house, prior to her leaving to go home.

My friends have said that she wants to be "single" for the summer and then when it comes time to go back to school try and rekindle the flame. I feel like that is more then likely the case.

She hasn't asked for her suitcase yet, and she some of clothing that she hasn't said she will be sending yet. She was concerned about what my parents thought and even said "great they probably hate me" and she said she didn't tell her parents, but they probably knew.

This all happened with in 8 days of her returning home. It has been a month, barely any contact only once I have contacted her first during the break.

This just seems so out of character for her. Like we have been so close for 18 months and then all of a sudden she has dropped me out of her life. We literally have talked every day for almost two years.
I don't know how she could possibly do this. My family couldn't believe me when I told them. My parents thought I would marry this girl and I did too.

If anyone could help me that would be great.

Hope for the best, plan for the worst. Have fun with friends and family, without her like for sure she will be trying to do with out you.

The great mystery with young love is you never know how long it lasts. Sucks but what's a guy to do when he is dumped?

Sounds to me as if your girlfriend is being influenced by a lot of outsiders. Her friends, maybe family, or even the media. You need to play the hard to get move. Honestly, right now she's holding onto you but kind of not because she knows you will be there when she wants you! Tell her okay you want a break, and breaks never lead to any good, if anything it leads to an open relationship which isn't good. So I'm going to move on. Dump her. I PROMISE she will in about 2 weeks she will be crawling back to you. Trust me I'm a girl and sadly have done the same thing, once the guy just dropped me I was in disbelief then realized I took him for granted.

*You always want what you can't have* ;)

Good luck to you,

Staysea,

Yeah I think I should do the same. I was thinking of calling her and saying something along the lines of:

"Either we talk now or its over and time for us to go our separate ways."

Either she talks... or she says "I need space, or No" then its over regardless. I am not going to play these games with her anymore.

Also, I am not going to be her "friend" no way in hell.

Why can't you just do what you need to without making her choose talk or forget it? Just disappear, and do your thing, and get a life without her. Why drag this out and torture yourself.

Stick with No Contact, and deal with your own feelings and keep your dignity, and self respect.

The thing is Talaniman. She said she will contact me when she is ready. I don't want her to think I am some safety net. If I call quits she then knows she can't just come back to old reliable. I haven't fully decided what I am going to do.

I am leaving town for a week very soon, I may just contact her after that and say "It's over". That way I can leave with my head held high and move on completely.

She called it a break and we go to the same school. I am certain, that when it comes time to go back to school she will contact me and try to fix things. Since, she would have had the whole summer off. I don't want her to think that.