So my girlfriend and I have been together for 4 years and it has been a completely rough road. Well we were living in an apartment together that did not allow dogs but did allow cats. We both hate cats so that was not an option. We ended up talking about moving out because the apartments were in a really bad area, we also talked about getting puppies. I tokd her I wanted puppies but when we were settled into a place. I swear I must have repeated that sentence like 20 times "yes babe i want puppies but when we're settled into a place" well about 2 weeks before move out date she tells me that we need to go pick something up. So I said OK and drove her to the destination. When we got there her friend who is a dog groomer was waiting for us in front of a house. She took us into her back yard and there were two adorable puppies who were supposedly for "us" I knew I should have said something about it right then and there but I didn't. So we ended up taking the puppies home and my girlfriend expected me to take care of them while she was at work and I was off. She would say "well there yours too!" But I honestly never felt like they were because I had no part in getting them. When we finally moved out she went to stay with her aunt and I went to atay with mny parents while we waited for our apartment to be reasy for move in. During that time (which was around a month) the puppies stayed with her and whenever id go see her id play with them but ahe always had something to ay about the way I played with them or repremanded them when theyd pee or poop on the carpet. Id just point my finger and say "no!" I already had an adult dog who lives with my parents so I know how to train. She was just overly protective with them. No one was allowed to do anything with them and often compared them to human children. It got to the point where I felt like they weren't even mine. And the more I thought about it the more it angered me because I realized I had NO part whatsoever of getting these puppies. She didn't even talk to me or ask me about it. And when she did id tell her the same thing.. "yes i want puppies but when we're settled in" I finally toldm her how I felt about them not feeling like mine too and she flies off the handle saying that I'm giving her an ultimatum and all thia crazy stuff. Im just trying to explain to her that she never talked to me about it and that its upsetting to me because It's a decision that should have been made by both of us not just her. She just gets pissed and walks away and goes and kisses and loves on them and says "momma loves u guys u guys are all mine and no one elses" then she had the nerve to tell me just to keep my mouth shut about them becauae I never helped her take care of them. She's never even given me the chance... idk to me this isn't about puppies its tha facet that she didn't care about what I thought about getting puppies she basically said F your opinion and did what she wanted. We can't even have a conversation about them without her yelling and telling me to shut my mouth about them. I feel like walking away and letting her be with them since she's so attached to them. I know it sounds dumb that id walk away over puppies but it feels like her life revolves around them. She can't even be out for too long without her saying she needs to go home to be with the puppies... someone please help?

Puppies do require care and a lot of time. They need someone to watch them and love them, along with feeding, vet care, etc. There's more problems between you two besides the puppies. I'd find my own place rather than sign a lease with her.

Holy crap.

You know puppies bring a lot of joy and have unconditional love. Their tails are always wagging. However you guys have turned this into a really bad reality show. Why are you two together and why did you get these puppies? Way too much drama in your relationship.

Let me see, she wanted to get you a gift and surprise you with puppies, something you had talked about (how many times)

Sounds like it is more a control issue, since YOU DID NOT DO TI, you do not want to take or share in this.

Really? This is all about puppies? Nothing else?

You say your 4 year relationship has been a completely rough road, and the 'subject' of your question is 'no communication'.

I get the impression that this puppy situation is but one of a very long string of similarly handled problems in your rough relationship.

I can't tell from the one problem you've presented, if, you were to explain the relationship more, more insight would probably come forward as to the health of the relationship itself.

But, it seems to me from how you've stated things, the puppy issue is only one of probably much larger issues.