I am 7 months pregnant and I am taking sharp pains all threw my chest and all down my left side, it feels like a pulled muscle but I didn't do anything to pull a muscle. I woke up like this. The pain has been around for two days now and I was wondering if it's something I should be worried about, should I go see the doctor? Could it be from quiting smoking?

Ok here it is, I am 17 and yes I am 7 months pregnant please don't judge. My boyfriend and I have known each other since we were young. He is now 20 and I am 17 as I said before. But the problem is my boyfriend and I dated before but he cheated on me and left me for his ex girlfriend. We got back together 5 months after. My boyfriend has shown me that I can't trust him but on the other side he shown me I can trust him.

I caught him having on line sex on Facebook with a porn star. He downloaded porn on his cell after I asked him not to even look at porn. His ex girlfriend, not the one he left me for, is living with his aunt and she came to the house and she was all over him and him all over her.

Despite all of that, he works to help me and our baby and his mom, he cleans, cooks, is always there for me, and he hasn't cheated on me again, as I know. Should I trust him or not?

I wouldn't. He has a long way to go to earn your trust back.

And most likely he is still looking at porn, many men do, it has nothing to do about you, and most men, when women "order" them to stop, lie and say they will but they don't

I would not trust him. The porn is a small thing the fact that another ex came to the house and they were all over each other is a big reason not to trust him. I know you are pregnant but why are you still with him?

I agree and he has lied to me about it before and he is always asking me for sex and I am pregnant I don't feel good 99% of the time. When I say no sometimes he get's mad at me. I don' know what to do most of the time, and it don't help the fact of his mom is always on my case. I do everything for my boyfriend and etc I keep the house clean I cook all meals and I still have more time to have me time but is bilogical mom is always saying I don't do anything and I'm lazy etc I am about to have a meantel brake down I really don't know what to do anymore. Could you guys help me

I am still with him because I am stuck in the times of I love him and I feel like I can't be without him. He dose do a lot for me but I don't feel like it's enugh.

Can you go back to your family?
That would be best. Even let them yell at you for a while, if that is what drove you away.

My dad and I are no close anymore do to of things I did in the past and my mom lives in a city I will not raise my son in and my moms side of the family but my nan and a few cousins I have are bad people and I love the place I am at its beautiful peaceful and safe, I don' want to leave the place I'm at but I don't know how to handle my boyfriend and his mom

You don't need to be under this kind of pressure with baby coming so soon. It sounds like you are trapped. You are in a bad place no matter how pleasant you say it is and I would imagine it will not get better. You might want to consider going home to mom.

I cook,I clean,I make him supper and it's made before he get's home from work he get's to relax and I am working my off for him. His family looks at me hen something isn't done but all I ask is for a little help, on weekends he always go's out with friends and one of his friends I do not trust but he is always brings him over. He is always saying he works his off at work and he is bringing in the money and all I do is sit on my when I do more then he even realizes. And it sucks because I am always sick

Is there nowhere else you can go? You need to stand up to him. How does he react when you try to talk to him? This is nit a good place for yo to be and like I said it will only get worse.

I try to talk to him about important things but he eather don't listen to me, pretends he's a sleep,or changes the subject. And I asked him to help me clean yesterday but he called his friend and got him over here, and went 3 wheeling then after his friend left he asked for sex and I didn't want to but he would have been mad and I couldn't stand to hear him naging me etc so I just gave him what he wanted untell I got sick

Sounds like a very disruptive and combustible relationship. This one is going to smoke and burn whether you get out now. However, getting out now would save you the stress to deal with your baby. Stress like this is not good for the fetus you are carrying.

It's apparent to those of us who are not involved in the situation that he wants to have fun and get his rocks off. He doesn't care about you or this baby.

I need to clean the house again I made this spotless yesterday but he messed everything up again and his mom is coming home at 7 and she would be mad if I don't get this place spotless again. But I just want some time to myself some time to take a shawer and relax but this place is a mess. What should I do? And yes it is stress flu and yes it will be hard with my son which is born in augast 20th

Stress flu?

At your tender age of 17, you are not prepared mentally, emotionally or physically for this amount of stress. You think you are stressed now? Wait until this baby comes. Hopefully you will have a vaginal delivery, but most of the 17 year olds that I deliver are by cesarean section because their young bodies are not prepared to deliver a baby. That will put you at a 6 week recovery wherein you will not be able to lift anything heavier than baby, and you won't have the energy for all of this work.

You are being used as a slave, but you don't see it.

Get out now to other family or friends before you spontaneously combust.

Stressful* and you I agree I just don't know how to tell my boyfriend or his family.I don't know where to go or how at that I have so much baby stuff now and I don't know how I would get off the island I have no money

I am 7 months pregnant should I be getting morning sickness still if not then hwat could be making me sick

I don't care anymore my loving boyfriend can clean the stupid house.I am sick and today is going to be a me day I don't care who says what ill tell them up

I read your other thread - it could be stress.

What does your ob/gyn say?

I haven't been to a dr about it yet and you I can see how it maybe stress

You haven't been to a doctor your entire pregnancy?

Some women have morning sickness all throughout pregnancy, yet stress would be my guess in your situation.

No no I just haven't been to a dr about the sickness I'm all up to date on my appontments for the prenantcy

Whew! Okay, most likely you are just stressed out because of your situation. This can be harmful to baby, the stress accompanied by your age. You might want to contact your doctor about this.

Did you tell the Doctor that you are sick "all the time"?

My prenatal gave me a sheet of what to worry about and I have noticed a couple things that are almost the same as the sheet says like seeing spots, I see white spots all the time and I have bad headache's but that's normal for me I have felt bad pains in my lower stomch and I am only 7 months pregnant I have bad hot flashes and I have a lot of pains. Should I see my DR about this or is it something I shouldn't be worried about?

Are there shelters around there you can go to? Does your mother know you are having a baby? What about friends?

Yes, you should see your doctor. Your blood pressure needs to be checked as these are symptoms of Pregnancy Induced Hypertension.

OK thank you

My mom knows yes and so dose my dad and I think if I decide ill move ith my dad

You said you and your dad are not close anymore. Will you be able to go there?
I think you need to make up your mind very soon, like before that baby is born. This situation will only get worse once the baby is born.

You dad and I are not that close but we are talking and getting things back to the way it was. And you I might go back

I think you should. This is not only about you. There is this baby to consider. Where you are is not a good environment.

Tell him he has to be serious about this relationship. You guys have a baby on the way and he needs to grow some balls, and learn how to treat a woman. If you are having a son, he needs to show your son how to be a man and how to be treated. And if you have a daughter he needs to think about how he would like it if a guy was cheating on HIS daughter the way he did to you.

You I did but that as around when I was 4 to 5 months pregnant

And yes I agree ill talk to him and tell him where to and how to get there

and yes i agree ill talk to him and tell him where to and how to get there
That's good. If your dad is willing to take you, go with him and make sure this guy pays child support. Keep us posted. I wish you a healthy and happy baby.

I have been following your posts and think the others are right on when they tell you that this is an unhealthy stressful relationship, and a 7 month pregnant female should have nothing but love and support through this time.

Hope you and your dad can get to that point because the baby daddy and his family don't appear willing or capable to give you what you need.

My other concern is bringing a child into this world in such a toxic relationship. I feel sorry for the child who WILL be unloved.

The daddy will not love the child as he does not love the mother, and the mother (the OP) will become resentful of the child. I see it time and time again.

Maybe it's time to rethink keeping this child.

I am going to keep my son, I was loved and rased pretty much buy myself and I yes made a fue mestakes but I will and am taking care of my son the way I couldn't be loved. My son is my world and nothing will ever change that yes I am young but my son (name removed) will be rased loved and treated right I promise you that

And how are you going to support this child you've already named - and posting that name info on a public site is foolish and dangerous.

As Judy mentioned posting real names is foolish and dangerous, so I removed it.

You've already acted foolishly and immaturely by getting pregnant at a young age. I am very sure you feel a great deal of love and high hopes for this child. But unless you were born into a wealthy family, you are condemning this child to a disadvantaged childhood. Loving him is all well and good, but if you can't provide for him, love just ain't enough.

I'm not saying he will turn into an axe murderer or even that he will turn out badly. But the odds are against him from the start. At the very least, he may grow up resenting you for not being able to provide the things his friends have.

You are sentencing your child to the life you are leading -

I am trying that's all hat matters

We are talking about a baby, trying is not all that matters. You have to "do" If you are set on keeping your son, you need to stay with your dad and he has to be willing to help you with your son. The father of this child needs to be made to pay child support. Did you graduate high school? If not you need to look into finishing school. This is going to be hard, It's going to take more than just trying.

I am going to go back to school and I have a job I go to all my apponments and I am talking to my dad about moving with him OK

Talking with your dad is good. I hope things work out with him because having this baby in the situation you're in is not good. I'm sure you are not making enough money at your job to properly care for this child, You need to make sure the courts have set up child support from the father.

"I am trying thats all hat matters"

Unfortunately that is not correct. Babies need love, of course, and food and supplies, and they grow and need more food and supplies.

Trying doesn't put food on the table.

I trust you can work this out and not sentence your child to a life of underprivilege. He will have enough problems in life due to the father you have picked for him.

EDIT: Good that you can go "home" - this is no longer the situation? "my dad and i are no close anymore do to of things i did in the past and my mom lives in a city i will not raise my son in and my moms side of the family but my nan and a few cousins i have are bad people and i love the place i am at its beautiful peaceful and safe, i don' want to leave the place im at but i don't know how to handle my boyfriend and his mom"

I see a lot of issues here.

You're a child, and the man that you chose to father your child is acting like a child. You're both acting like exactly what you are, children, too young to be parents.

You complained that you had to clean, cook, that you had no time for yourself. Welcome to motherhood. It will be a lot more work once baby comes along. You're the mom, you'll have to do all the cleaning, and all the cooking, and all the shopping, doctors appointments, dentist appointments, school appointments, etc. etc. It's the hardest job you'll ever have, and it's 24/7 for at least 18 years, sometimes more. You think you're tired now? Wait for it.

I don't think you should stay with the father of this child, but I do think you need a wake up call. Moving back in with your father won't fix everything. You're still having a baby, and it's up to you to find some way to support that baby, and take care of that baby. Trying isn't enough, you have to do, not try. Love isn't enough either.

I don't think you have the first clue what it's going to be like when the baby is here.

I am trying thats all hat matters

No that is not all that matters. And the fact that you think it is shows how clueless you are. Do you have any idea what a newborn costs? Do you have insurance to cover your doctor visits and the hospital?

So you go back to school. What's going to happen when your friends ask you to go out on a Friday night and you can't because you have a baby to take care of.

You need to grow up now because you clearly are not grownup enough to care for a baby.

I am sorry but I feel like I am being attacked on here and just saying everyone has a way to take care of their kids everyone is different so thanks

Don't feel that way because everyone wants you and your child to be happy as if you were our own daughter.

I am sorry but i feel like i am being attacked on here and just saying everyone has a way to take care of their kids everyone is different so thanks

When you grow up I hope you come back, read this thread again. When you do, in around 7 years, you'll have a much different outlook than you do now.

You can't see the forest for the trees. I don't expect you to, you're 17, you have no idea what it takes to be a mother, you're not even an adult yet. You're still a child. You probably think that it will all be so easy, the baby will never cry, it will do whatever you say, whatever you want, it will love you, and all will be right with the world.

The reality is, this baby will scream night and day if it wants to. A mothers touch, when a baby is upset, does nothing. You will be woken up every few hours (if you're lucky) to feed and change the baby. It doesn't matter if you're tired, you have to get up and take care of this child you created. Babies don't love, they're the most selfish creatures on the face of this Earth. It will rebel, just like you did, it will yell at you, and at least once in its life it will tell you how much it hates you. Not only do you have to deal with all of that, for 18 plus years, no holidays, no coffee breaks, 24/7, you also get to pay at least $12,000 to give birth to this baby (more if something goes wrong), you get to spend thousands on a crib, a car seat, a high chair, a stroller, clothes, bottles, formula, food, diapers, etc. etc. etc.

Being a mother is a full time job. Actually, a full time job is only 5 days a week 8 hours a day, so that's a lie. Being a mother is 24/7 18 plus years. It's the hardest job you'll ever have, and even with a husband to help, a father in the picture, it's hard.

Are you prepared for all of this? I don't think you are.

You can have whatever parenting style you want, but the basics are the law. You must put a roof over this child's head, you must provide a safe place to live, food, clothes, an education, medical care, dental care. What we're telling you has nothing to do with your parenting style, it has to do with what a parent must provide their child, not what they want to provide.

What you consider "attacking" is actually educating you on reality. The fact that you think we're attacking you, says a lot about how ready you are for this child.

The first thing you need to do is leave the place you're in. See if you can go to your dad's then think about what has been said. This won't be easy. You need a support system either way and right now you don't have one. We wish you well here.

I am sorry but i feel like i am being attacked on here and just saying everyone has a way to take care of their kids everyone is different so thanks

You aren't being attacked, you are being told the facts of life. Facts that you refuse to accept. We care about you and more importantly we care about the innocent child you are bringing into the world.

As Alty said, in a few years, you will realize how right we are. Hopefully it won't be too late. It would be better for your child if you accept what we say now.

"I am sorry but i feel like i am being attacked on here and just saying everyone has a way to take care of their kids everyone is different so thanks"

You aren't being attacked. Your actions in having a child when you seem unable to care for yourself are being attacked. You appear to have been "uninvited" from your family home due to your issues; your boyfriend's mother is giving you issues; he's giving you issues.

You keep dancing through the daisies and don't see the reality here.

The fact that you don't even acknowledged what is being said to you is being attacked.

And you are attached to this abusie man for the rest of your life.

An attack would be asking what you were possibly thinking, getting pregnant at 17 with what appears to be minimum education. How are you going to support this child when your Dad throws you out again?