Hi
I have the same problem with my boyfriend but we've been dating for 3 4 months and when we first met he was virgin until couple days ago he lots it to me but before that I was waiting for him to feel ready for 2 months and I tried anyway possible to get him to try at least once with me so we had it for the first time and it was great but the second time he teased me and put me in mood of it and he left to play video games which made me very upset but then I tried another trick and finally got him to do it once again. But all I'm saying that ever since we had it for the first time I'm still the one who wants it more often which is very weird tome because I always thought that guys would be more into it after first time.

amhd0001, I have moved your post to its own thread so that you can get advice for your issues.
amhd0001 amhd0001 is offline (1 Posts) Asked Yesterday, 10:11 PM
Hi
I have the same problem with my boyfriend but we've been dating for 3 4 months and when we first met he was virgin until couple days ago he lots it to me but before that I was waiting for him to feel ready for 2 months and I tried anyway possible to get him to try at least once with me so we had it for the first time and it was great but the second time he teased me and put me in mood of it and he left to play video games which made me very upset but then I tried another trick and finally got him to do it once again. But all I'm saying that ever since we had it for the first time I'm still the one who wants it more often which is very weird tome because I always thought that guys would be more into it after first time.

How old are both of you?

Are your expectations for the sexual relationship higher than his ability to perform? Wanting sex is not the same as being able to have sex.

It may be that his body needs more recovery time or he has other factors causing distractions such as stress due to school, friends, work, family, etc.

By your post, it has only been a few days since you first had sex. It is too early in the relationship to know how interested he is or isn't. It doesn't sound like you are giving him a chance to make his interests known. If you are putting pressure on him to have sex, it may backfire and cause him to walk away and find a less demanding girlfriend.

You say that you were waiting for him to feel ready, but then you put pressure on him to have sex with you. I think you need to do some thinking about the mixed message of caring about his thoughts and needs as long as you get what you want.

If this was his first time he could still be trying to process what all happened and deal with his feelings about it. If he wasn't interested in you then I doubt he would want to play around and tease you. I would give him some time and just be sexy around him. Wear next to nothing when he's around or when cooking or cleaning and give him sweet kisses when you walk past him and leave him knowing that you are there and are interested.