My boyfriend and I have been together for a month and we fight A LOT! We got into an argument last night because I told him I went through his phone and saw a dirty text he sent to another girl... back in 2003. :( I apologized for doing it but he wanted to ignore me so that's when everything I felt came out. We got to the point of me hitting him and him choking me. I love him and I know it was my fault for even going through his phone but I was afraid he was cheating. Reason for that is because he takes his phone EVERYWHERE. To take the trash out, to go to the bathroom, to the kitchen, everywhere. What do I do? I need him.

What do you do? You break up with him. You are abusive and he is abusive.

You should never lay your hands on another human being.

You are also very controlling in that you violated his privacy by going in to his phone to see pictures from 10 years ago.

How old are you? From your post it appears that you are no older than 17.

You don't need him. You don't need anyone but yourself.

Time to grow up and keep your hands to yourself. Maybe some counseling is in order for both of you so that you learn that what you, and he, did is physical abuse.