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nina40
Jun 3, 2013, 07:25 PM
I never known my sister to have a boyfriend of some sort in her life. I was wondering if she was a lesbian . How do I ask someone that question without conflict of them hating me.

J_9
Jun 3, 2013, 07:30 PM
You don't ask. It's really none of your business.

Aurora_Bell
Jun 4, 2013, 05:59 AM
Exactly! You do not ask. When and if she feels comfortable divulging that info she will share it. Until then you mind your own.

Just because someone isn't a serial dater, does not make them a lesbian. I have been single for quite sometime, and I assure you that does not make me a lesbian.

Oliver2011
Jun 4, 2013, 06:04 AM
I agree that it is none of your business and that there are many reasons she might not date at this point in her life. Your first question should point to questioning her sexuality.

But if you do ask are you prepared for any answer she gives you? And what would you do with this piece of information anyway?

nina40
Jun 4, 2013, 06:58 PM
I was just curious since growing up in the same household she never had a boyfriend or went out on a date. I can except having a lesbian sister I already have an older sister who is just want to know if I have another one]I agree that it is none of your business and that there are many reasons she might not date at this point in her life. Your first question should point to questioning her sexuality.

But if you do ask are you prepared for any answer she gives you? And what would you do with this piece of information anyway?[/QUOTE]

worry_momma
Jun 4, 2013, 07:02 PM
You the best thing you could do for your sister is to be there for hr no matter what and if she is she'll tell you someday. You don't ask people that.

nina40
Jun 4, 2013, 07:13 PM
ya the best thing you could do for your sister is to be there for hr no matter what and if she is she'll tell you someday. you don't ask people that.That's odd I have a close male friend who is in love with me and he said I should ask her because she is my sister you think he trying to start conflict

joypulv
Jun 5, 2013, 02:49 AM
That's odd I have a close male friend who is in love with me and he said I should ask her because she is my sister you think he trying to start conflict

Start conflict? No, because he wouldn't have even thought of it if you hadn't been wondering first.

I can talk to my sister about anything, and we are 3,000 miles apart. We would never have this problem because we already know so much about each other. If you were close to this sister, you wouldn't have to even wonder - you would know. Spend time getting to know her better!

Fr_Chuck
Jun 5, 2013, 07:54 AM
You are talking to some other man, about her maybe being lesbian, I am sure you sister will appreciate you talking to people about her private life.

Again, it is none of your bsiness, if she is, and she wants you to know, she will tell you.

Oliver2011
Jun 5, 2013, 08:17 AM
You are talking to some other man, about her maybe being lesbian, I am sure you sister will appreciate you talking to people about her private life.

Again, it is none of your bsiness, if she is, and she wants you to know, she will tell you.

Yeah what he said. Very good point. You don't sound like you are being a good brother at this point.