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nathanscott
May 31, 2013, 01:51 PM
I am 14 and a virgin. My girlfriend, who is also 14 but I am older than her by a month or two, and I are thinking about having sex. If we do and I ejaculate, will she get pregnant, will she bleed, and will it affect our lives? Please answer honestly.

>translated into English from texting<

joypulv
May 31, 2013, 01:57 PM
Of course she CAN get pregnant. Will she? Nature loves babies and does everything possible to make it happen (including increasing hormones in boys and girls years before they are ready in a modern world). Will she bleed? Maybe yes, maybe no, maybe a lot, maybe a few drops, maybe in between. Will you both be in big trouble? Yes, most likely, unless you live in a country where parents arrange marriage at 14.

Wondergirl
May 31, 2013, 02:19 PM
I'm guessing you have a great job, have a high school diploma, have lots of money saved up for all those baby needs, for the doctor and hospital costs, for child support for the next 18 years, and of course a separate savings account in case something goes wrong during labor and delivery (no teen girl should be having a baby, since her body isn't ready for it)? And you have the speech prepared that you and she will give to both set of parents to let them know you are now having sex and will be more than glad to raise any children that result?

odinn7
May 31, 2013, 02:23 PM
Yes, it will affect your lives. Don't do it. Be a real man and wait until you are truly ready.

ScottGem
May 31, 2013, 03:26 PM
Pregnancy is a possibility, bleeding a probability, affecting your lives a definite.

No one should engage in sexual intercourse until they are physical, financially and emotionally prepared to have a child. The two of you are none of those things.

Stop thinking, stop trying to emulate adult behaviors when you are still children.

J_9
May 31, 2013, 08:55 PM
Yes, she will get pregnant. Maybe not the first time, but it happens. Will she bleed? Depends on whether her hymen is broken.

I assume you have a good job and can support her and the baby? What are you prepared to do? What if she dies in labor? Yes it does happen to girls her age? Are you ready to quit school? You do realize that she can die right?

nathanscott
Jun 1, 2013, 01:55 AM
In my school there is a girl I have a crush on, but am afraid to tell her. What do I do?

joypulv
Jun 1, 2013, 02:49 AM
This site expects people to write in real words, not ryt, dere, and what.

Crushes are a part of being young, and you just enjoy them and suffer at the same time.
Gradually you learn little ways to approach your crush and say HI with an extra nice smile, and maybe a little compliment after a week or so of just saying hi as you pass by.
Having and keeping good friends is very important while you learn about infatuation, romance, relationships, and eventually love. You need them to be there when things don't go right!

nathanscott
Jun 1, 2013, 05:07 AM
Thanks

Cat1864
Jun 1, 2013, 08:05 AM
I think you need to decide if you have a crush on a girl you want to know better or a girlfriend who you are thinking about having underage sex with (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/child-teen-health/am-14-am-still-virgin-am-guy-am-thinking-about-having-sex-girlfriend-751539.html ) or is it the same girl?

jenniepepsi
Jun 1, 2013, 11:56 AM
Have you spoken to your parents about this?
Generally speaking, if you are mature enough to have sex, then you are mature enough to speak to your parents, both yours and hers together, about having sex, and getting the proper protection.

If you have not spoken to your parents about this yet, don't do it.

You are 14 years old. As a parent, I don't think you should be seriously dating at this age.