We were together for 5 years. He found out he has a 14 yr old daughter so lied to me and said he was going to celebrate his birthday with his sister got on the greyhound which his baby mama paid for and left that was in February. Came back here on April 4th stayed 10 days, baby mama texted and said daughter got suspended for fighting because he left. Baby mama called me said I need to move on. He left again came back on May 11th stayed 10 days said there was a job waiting for him in the other state and that he wants me to move to the new state. Most of his things are still here. Said he will come back get a uhaul and move us there.

He said because he couldn't pay child support due to no job in the state we were living, things will be better now.

Should I move to the other state says he is not there for her just his daughter and only wants me. I love him and want to go. Baby mama wants to pick up where they left off 14 yrs ago,

If he wants you, let him marry you. But with his lying, disappearing act and the baby momma drama, there is no way I'd pack up and go anywhere with him.

I wouldn't follow this fool any where. Do so at your own peril, unless you want to waste another 5 years.

Just say NO! And mean it!

Thanks for the advice. My friends say the same thing I wanted to hear from people who doesn't know us.
My job is letting me transfer.
To the new state I am an adventurous person. If I go and things don't work out I will be okay. I will have a job plus a state where there are lots of available men. I have a friend of 15 yrs. That is currently living there and she says she can't wait until I get there. .