View Full Version : Shall I tell my ex I love him
missgrace
Mar 23, 2007, 07:49 AM
I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago, he says he still wants to be friends which is great.
We talk for hours online, he says really sweet things, he compliments my photos and says I look great in all of them. I was talking to another guy online, I told my ex and he said 'Tell him to go away, I want you' but I'm not sure if he meant by us getting back together. He also teases me, in a nice way too.
Also one of his friends said he 'still likes me' and I should ask him out again, but I don't know whether to believe his friend or not. The other day, the same friend said asks my ex if he still fancies me, but my ex said no. But it nearly sounded like he was lying, I'm not totally sure.
I really miss him, and I don't know whether to tell him how I feel about him or if I should just wait and see how things turn out.
Capuchin
Mar 23, 2007, 07:50 AM
Why did you guys break up?
kristynn
Mar 23, 2007, 03:09 PM
Keep in touch with him. Talk to him again. Respond well and maybe give him hints that you still like him.
I don't suggest you to ask him out, because if he really still likes you, he will eventually ask you.
Never mind what he said to whomever.
I cannot tell if he still likes you the way you like him or he values your friendship and wants to remain friends with you. Only you can find this out. :)
shygrneyzs
Mar 23, 2007, 05:18 PM
This ia a common situation between people who break up and still are in communication, trying to be friends. What often happens is that one of parties cannot move on, because of the emotions still wrapped up in the previous relationship and spill into the redefined friendship. Like right now - you talk to another boy and your ex says to "tellhim go away". And you do. You are never going to get past this point because of the connection to your ex boyfriend.
When this friend asked your ex boyfriend if he still "fancies" you and he replied "no", that should tell you his true intent. He wants the friendship and yet I think he wants to still have the power to dictate you a bit. See example of the other boy he told you to say to him, "go away". If your ex boyfriend truly just was a friend, he would be encouraging of you talking to others. Being protective is one thing - being over protective for his own purposes is another.
I would be cautious. Keep your options open - you are not bound to the ex boyfriend. You have so much ahead of you. Get involved in other parts of life - it helps re-focus your energies. Concentrate your personal power to self image, personal growth, experiencing more of life and the people in it. Good luck to you.
Charrrr
Mar 23, 2007, 05:20 PM
It seems that he is still interested in you, but I wouldn't play it too keen and put your heart on the line.
Keep talking and flirting with him - he'll drop a hint if he wants you back.
You just have to get used to reading people.
JoeCanada76
Mar 23, 2007, 11:06 PM
My first question is why did you break up with him? I would say that he still likes you but how are you going to know, if you do not ask?
It also sounds that your still young. If you were older and more experienced I would say an ex is an ex for a reason and time to move on. I think this situation is a bit difference. No guarantees with anything but you should stop second guessing and find out what he really means and if he wants to go out with you again.
You will not know until you ask.
Best of luck.
Joe
talaniman
Mar 24, 2007, 10:32 AM
I really miss him, and I don't know whether to tell him how I feel about him or if I should just wait and see how things turn out.
Try honesty and be ready for the consequences, as he has already said no, by what you wrote, but you choose not to believe it. Is this friendship healthy?
alizeblu
Mar 24, 2007, 01:56 PM
Why are you still tugging him along? Its only going to get worse. I say let him go completely.
Didn't you break up with HIM?