Tina Sweeney
May 27, 2013, 11:33 AM
My life is a mess. I am married for 23 yrs. 3 kids later. I have known another man for over 26 yrs. From time to time, we run into each other. The last time was 12 years ago when my husband and I separated the first time and I moved out. This man and I dated for several months and he is exactly what I need, mentally and sexually, everything about us was just right but I got scared and went back to my husband. This man tried to contact me several time after and I asked him to stop. He told me he loved me enough to let me go.
Recently (12 years later), this man and I started to talk again, he had been in a relationship and engaged to another woman and they broke it off a few months prior to our speaking again. We picked up where we had left off with talking only and plans for the future and I thought this is it, this is who I want to spend the rest of my life with. For 5 months prior, I had been asking my husband to move out to his mom's so that the kids wouldn't have to uprooted but he refuses and I do not have the option to move right now. And, for months prior to this, I have been looking for another place to live but I am self-employed and having difficulty getting a mortgage.
In the meantime, the man I want to be with, had a situation with his job where he was living about 45 minutes away and was let go. He currently isn't driving and ended up moving back in with his ex-fiancé who is about 10 minutes from me. I believe this was from fear of being "homeless" and in an area where he wasn't near transportation where he could get another job. He is a good person but has made some dumb choices in his life. When he finally thought his life was beginning to stabilize, he lost his job. No one has been able to contact him, not me or his best friend who lives out of state as his cell voice mail is full and he isn't answering texts from anyone.
I have been cut off completely. I took a big step and contacted his ex on Facebook under the guise of his best friend being very worried because of the no contact. She had no clue who I was and let me know that he is living with her and that he is having problems with his cell phone and would contact me as soon as he could. Again, I am assuming if he really is having cell phone issues and there is not a landline and the only internet they have is cell phone based that his not contacting me would make sense as he wouldn't use her phone to contact me.
I took a big step and sent a letter to him to her address, that said, I would be parked on his street for Wednesday, Thursday and Friday at 10am and if he could come out and meet me... so we will see what happens. I am leaving a ton of details out but this is the jest of the situation and I want to know what others think. I firmly believe he is my soul mate and I am praying that he comes out to meet me and she doesn't intercept the letter.
Just to give you insight to how my husband treats me, as I have mentioned, I have had 3 kids... I am 40 years old, I am not the 17 year old 110lb girl he first met my husband told me I look like the Michelin tire man because of my stomach. We haven't had sex in 2 years because sex is and always has been about him. I don't want to be with someone who makes me feel bad about myself.
Recently (12 years later), this man and I started to talk again, he had been in a relationship and engaged to another woman and they broke it off a few months prior to our speaking again. We picked up where we had left off with talking only and plans for the future and I thought this is it, this is who I want to spend the rest of my life with. For 5 months prior, I had been asking my husband to move out to his mom's so that the kids wouldn't have to uprooted but he refuses and I do not have the option to move right now. And, for months prior to this, I have been looking for another place to live but I am self-employed and having difficulty getting a mortgage.
In the meantime, the man I want to be with, had a situation with his job where he was living about 45 minutes away and was let go. He currently isn't driving and ended up moving back in with his ex-fiancé who is about 10 minutes from me. I believe this was from fear of being "homeless" and in an area where he wasn't near transportation where he could get another job. He is a good person but has made some dumb choices in his life. When he finally thought his life was beginning to stabilize, he lost his job. No one has been able to contact him, not me or his best friend who lives out of state as his cell voice mail is full and he isn't answering texts from anyone.
I have been cut off completely. I took a big step and contacted his ex on Facebook under the guise of his best friend being very worried because of the no contact. She had no clue who I was and let me know that he is living with her and that he is having problems with his cell phone and would contact me as soon as he could. Again, I am assuming if he really is having cell phone issues and there is not a landline and the only internet they have is cell phone based that his not contacting me would make sense as he wouldn't use her phone to contact me.
I took a big step and sent a letter to him to her address, that said, I would be parked on his street for Wednesday, Thursday and Friday at 10am and if he could come out and meet me... so we will see what happens. I am leaving a ton of details out but this is the jest of the situation and I want to know what others think. I firmly believe he is my soul mate and I am praying that he comes out to meet me and she doesn't intercept the letter.
Just to give you insight to how my husband treats me, as I have mentioned, I have had 3 kids... I am 40 years old, I am not the 17 year old 110lb girl he first met my husband told me I look like the Michelin tire man because of my stomach. We haven't had sex in 2 years because sex is and always has been about him. I don't want to be with someone who makes me feel bad about myself.