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Dixie12345
May 26, 2013, 10:44 AM
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months. The first accusation happened the 2nd month we were dating. The girl told me they were talking and he was cheating on me and that he also had went an seen her that night. I confronted him about it and he said he did go see her "to talk about how they were just friends" because she told him she was going to tell me he was cheating. I went and asks another girl that is friends with her and she told me a long story about how they talked and he had said he really liked her and he wanted her to meet his grandpa and stuff. Then another girl told me he was cheating on me with someone about 3 months later and I went to the girl and she said she doesn't know him. Then another girl that goes to his school said he was cheating on me with some girl and I got her number and called her. She told me they met 2 weeks ago and he was hitting on her and told her he really liked her and that his last girlfriend cheated on him and he took another girl to prom.

She also said he kissed her last week in school and everyone though they were dating but she doesn't like him like that. But she also is very weird. I asked him and he said he did meet her and they did talk but it was normal talking not flirting. He said he told her his ex cheated on him which she did because the girl mentioned how she'd been cheated on before and told her that he took me to prom. He said he texted her for 2 days but he never flirted or anything. Also he said he would never cheat on me and that if he were to ever think about it, not that he was, he wouldn't "downgrade" from me and all this other crap.

We don't go to the same school and I only see him about 2 or 3 times a week because he works a lot and has 2 jobs and lives 35 minutes from my house and I can't drive. Sometimes we make plans and he often blows me off. Saying that his dad won't let him come or his truck is messed up and he also sometimes disappears for like 3 hours when he tells me he's coming over and then texts me about how mad he is he couldn't come see me. There's just always an excuse.

He's also always been very secretive about his phone. I just feel like everything adds up and that I should dump him but I don't know honestly. I really care about him and I don't want to believe it but at the same time, I feel like I should.

joypulv
May 26, 2013, 11:19 AM
The other girls and what they say - confusing, not reliable, as is usually the case.
BUT the fact that he says he works two jobs and the other reasons he can't see you don't quite add up to a guy in school who doesn't have a minute to spare. (Is he in school or has he finished?)
I would back off a bit until you have actually seen his house, met his parents, seen where he works two jobs (not that that will tell much unless you can meet co-workers), and have more trust in him. Which you clearly don't, or you wouldn't be going from one girl to the next. Some are lying, some telling the truth, some exaggerating, and you can't possibly sort it all out.
How old are you, and how old is he?

talaniman
May 26, 2013, 12:13 PM
You sure have a lot of drama and mistrust going since you have been dating. Maybe its time to re-evaluate giving your heart to some one you don't have enough trust in.

Dixie12345
May 26, 2013, 01:22 PM
The other girls and what they say - confusing, not reliable, as is usually the case.
BUT the fact that he says he works two jobs and the other reasons he can't see you don't quite add up to a guy in school who doesn't have a minute to spare. (Is he in school or has he finished?)
I would back off a bit til you have actually seen his house, met his parents, seen where he works two jobs (not that that will tell much unless you can meet co-workers), and have more trust in him. Which you clearly don't, or you wouldn't be going from one girl to the next. Some are lying, some telling the truth, some exaggerating, and you can't possibly sort it all out.
How old are you, and how old is he?
Well I have been to his house and met his parents an he works for his da farming am works at a park. Also he's 18 and I'm 16. His dad makes him provide for himself a lot though.

joypulv
May 26, 2013, 01:54 PM
OK. That's a little bit more, but keep in mind that you are asking us a question that YOU are best equipped to answer - whom to believe?
He sounds like...
A busy guy, just turned adult, has to work a lot, who likes to flirt.
Is that what you would say?
As for how far his flirting goes, the best advice this old lady can give you is this: don't go around searching for gossip or following up on it. If you find actual evidence, confront him. If you can't bring yourself to believe him, asking him again and again is useless, because the problem is lack of trust from within you. And you have to break up.

talaniman
May 26, 2013, 02:48 PM
Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to joypulv again

Most guys don't like to be confronted with BS from a third party... over, and over again. Especially from 3rd parties that are strangers to you.