Few days have passed but I can still feel the pain and confusion caused by what he said.

My boyfriend and I have been in a long distance relationship for almost a year now. I must say it is really hard especially when we have arguments and fights. I find that it's not easy to argue/fight on the phone because things might get misinterpreted.

Anyway, my boyfriend and I had a big fight last week. It really affected both of us. My boyfriend then said that he doesn't know what to do now and that he believes I am "the One" for him but he's not sure now if he really is ready to be in a relationship with the person he thinks he'd want to spend his whole lifetime with.

I asked him if it's because of the fight or that he wanted to be with or experience how it's like to be with other girls as I'm his first girlfriend. (He's 25 and I'm 23) , there was a long pause and I knew that yes maybe he wants to date other girls too. Though he did say that he wanted to be with me more but what he said is not something that I can just forget easily. I still feel hurt and confused.

We decided to make this relationship work again (long distance) but what if, in the days or weeks to come, he tells me again that he isn't ready?

Are we in the right direction by trying to make this work again?

I don't know what to do. Please help. :(

Tell him that he either has to fish, or cut bait. He either decides that you really are the one, and he commits, or he decides that he wants to go out with other girls, have sex with other girls, and he lets you go. He can't have both. It's one or the other.

I would also stress to him that if he decides he wants to screw around, then he's going to lose "the one". His choice.

If I were you I'd leave. He's lying when he says you're the one. When you find the one your first instinct isn't to screw around with other girls. He's lying to you. Stop lying to yourself. Find someone that actually wants you, and only you.

I'm thinking that maybe he said that just because we had a fight?
But I see your point. I guess if one really loves someone, he wouldn't be uncertain especially if he thinks I'm "the One"

I feel so hurt and confused

I'm thinking that maybe he said that just because we had a fight?
But I see your point. I guess if one really loves someone, he wouldn't be uncertain especially if he thinks I'm "the One"

I feel so hurt and confused

The hurt and confusion is normal, because you do love him. But, it's better to go through this hurt and confusion now than to waste even more time on someone that obviously doesn't make you a priority. Saying "I love you", saying "you're the one", is easy. Words are easy. Actions speak louder than words, and his actions don't match up with what he's saying.

The hurt and confusion is normal, because you do love him. But, it's better to go through this hurt and confusion now than to waste even more time on someone that obviously doesn't make you a priority. Saying "I love you", saying "you're the one", is easy. Words are easy. Actions speak louder than words, and his actions don't match up with what he's saying.

Do I break up with him now? He did say that we'll try to make it work again and I can see that he's been doing what he said.

Or do I wait until he brings up the topic again about being unsure and then that's when I let him go?

I'm really thankful for your replies.

How long have you been together and why the long distance? These are factors that can cause stress and arguments and lead partners to be unsure or insecure about the relationship.

How often to you visit each other?

How long have you been together and why the long distance? These are factors that can cause stress and arguments and lead partners to be unsure or insecure about the relationship.

How often to you visit each other?

We've been together for almost a year now and it was long distance from the start. He had to move interstate because of work. We see each other once a month. We alternate on who visits so it's not just me flying up there to see him.

Before the fight, we've planned that we'll end the distance later this year meaning I'll move to where he is. But after the fight, he told me he's unsure now because if I move in with him, it will be a big commitment. He said it's like getting married without a ring and he's not sure if he is ready for that..

I will be blunt, if he is talking about dating others, and you are long distance, most likely he is already dating others.

After a year, he either knows you are the one or not. If he is not ready to settle down after a year and agree to live together, you need to run from him.