My husband's mistress's son needed to have a suit jacket. Since my hubby and he are about same size, he told me he told his ex mistress he can just wear his. The affair is over so is my husband genuine?

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If the affair is over why is he in contact with her and/or lending her clothing for herself or her son?

You have posted numerous questions, opened numerous threads about his relationship with this woman. I have no idea what you expect anyone to say. I think it's all been said - except, of course, why you put up with his nonsense and still haven't left.

I find 25 threads on the subject.

Of course, your AMHD profile states you are single and ready to mingle, so maybe you deserve each other. You both choose when to and when not to present yourself as married.

If the affair is over why is he in contact with her and/or lending her clothing for herself or her son?

You have posted numerous questions, opened numerous threads about his relationship with this woman. I have no idea what you expect anyone to say. I think it's all been said - except, of course, why you put up with his nonsense and still haven't left.

I find 25 threads on the subject.

Of course, your AMHD profile states you are single and ready to mingle, so maybe you deserve each other. You both choose when to and when not to present yourself as married.

You really think that was a big deal to throw him out.He only offered being nice

You really think that was a big deal to throw him out.He only offered being nice

If he was only being nice, why are you worried?

If you doubt his loyalty, why are you with him?

I think you need to decide what you believe and go from there.

If you believe and trust him, stay and work on your marriage.

If you suspect he was kind because the affair is still on-going, leave him or kick him out.

It all comes down to what you believe and want. That isn't something we can decide for you.

Both responses above cover it all, but I'm still curious - is this the husband you divorced in October of 2011, or a new one? That one was a cheater too.

Both responses above cover it all, but I'm still curious - is this the husband you divorced in October of 2011, or a new one? That one was a cheater too.

Ate they really just want to make sure he was only being nice that's all.

Ate they really just want to make sure he was only being nice that's all.

Me thinks you didn't answer the question on the table...

Methinks thus has it always been -

Now moving on to the 26th thread...

It's his son, he is supposed to look out for him.

I have a friend who used to call me up and rant about how awful her husband was. If I so much as mmmmed in agreement, she would hang up on me in anger for maligning her husband.

You want to know if your husband is genuine, and then defend his actions.
There's your answer. You just wanted the chance to do that.

I think this is, at best, a strange relationship.

Is OP married? Single? Different husband? Same husband?

How many more threads before they are combined? I'm tired of reading back threads to find out what's going on - all 23 (give or take) of them.

Me thinks you didn't answer the question on the table...

Huh?

I think this is, at best, a strange relationship.

Is OP married? Single? Different husband? Same husband?

How many more threads before they are combined? I'm tired of reading back threads to find out what's going on - all 23 (give or take) of them.

Don't know where your going with this just stick to current. Much easier.

It's his son, he is supposed to look out for him.

Where did you read its his son.Mistress's son and he's grown man.what are you talking about? I would have said his kid with his mistress.No he don't have to loom out.#1 he's grown # 2 not his son


I have a friend who used to call me up and rant about how awful her husband was. If I so much as mmmmed in agreement, she would hang up on me in anger for maligning her husband.

You want to know if your husband is genuine, and then defend his actions.
There's your answer. You just wanted the chance to do that.

No busy wanted to know the reason that's all.

Just want to know the reason

Just want to know the reason

The reason for what? Your "husband" cheating or why you are putting up with it and him?

The reason for what? Your "husband" cheating or why you are putting up with it and him?

If you actually go back through her posts... you will see that not only does the husband cheat, but she does as well. This relationship is an absolute mess.

Just want to know the reason

Know the reason he offered to lend the mistresses son the jacket? We're not psychic. Ask him why he offered. Ask him why he still talks to this woman. Ask yourself why you're still with him, and why both of you can't seem to be faithful to each other. We can't help you with any of this, you have to put on your big girl panties and figure this out yourself.

Know the reason he offered to lend the mistresses son the jacket? We're not psychic. Ask him why he offered. Ask him why he still talks to this woman. Ask yourself why you're still with him, and why both of you can't seem to be faithful to each other. We can't help you with any of this, you have to put on your big girl panties and figure this out yourself.

Thank you for your advice! Much better now

It must be very difficult to forgive someone who cheats. Trusting that person again would be very difficult as well because you never forget. Not sure I could be the forgiving type.

Ask him why he did it, also ask him why he's still talking to her?

Ask him why he did it, also ask him why he's still talking to her?

Well he have to see her we belong same organization. He offered it him being nice.he just came out and said they're same size he can wear his and he said he was proud of him.WHY? I do ask but can't tell you if its true that's why I ask for opions


It must be very difficult to forgive someone who cheats. Trusting that person again would be very difficult as well because you never forget. Not sure I could be the forgiving type.

That's why I need to know if it's a mistake

That's why I need to know if its a mistake

No stranger can tell you that, that's something you have to figure out.

He made his choices, bad ones, you made your choices, also bad ones. You've both cheated in this relationship, but you decided to stay together. You punish him every day for his mistake. You haven't forgiven him. Has he forgiven you?

No matter what, you're an adult, you make your own decisions. No one can make them for you. Either stay or leave. Either accept that he screwed around, and forgive him (which means letting the affair go, never mentioning it again, stop making him pay for that mistake), or realize that you can't forgive (doesn't sound like you have) and leave. You also had an affair. Has he forgiven you? Does he mention your affair all the time? Does he obsess about it like you do?

I really can't see this marriage lasting, that's my opinion. Neither of you respects your partner. He screws around, he still contacts the woman he had an affair with. You screw around too Why even bother with marriage? Just be single, have sex with whoever you want, and stop making each of your lives miserable. There's no love her, love doesn't do what you two have done. There's definitely no respect here, from either of you.

No stranger can tell you that, that's something you have to figure out.

He made his choices, bad ones, you made your choices, also bad ones. You've both cheated in this relationship, but you decided to stay together. You punish him every day for his mistake. You haven't forgiven him. Has he forgiven you?

No matter what, you're an adult, you make your own decisions. No one can make them for you. Either stay or leave. Either accept that he screwed around, and forgive him (which means letting the affair go, never mentioning it again, stop making him pay for that mistake), or realize that you can't forgive (doesn't sound like you have) and leave. You also had an affair. Has he forgiven you? Does he mention your affair all the time? Does he obsess about it like you do?


I really can't see this marriage lasting, that's my opinion. Neither of you respects your partner. He screws around, he still contacts the woman he had an affair with. You screw around too Why even bother with marriage? Just be single, have sex with whoever you want, and stop making each of your lives miserable. There's no love her, love doesn't do what you two have done. There's definitely no respect here, from either of you.


That was previous I never cheated on him.your confused. I love him I bring it up cause its in existence.

That was previous I never cheated on him.your confused. I love him I bring it up cause its in existence.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/how-long-can-affairs-kept-dark-646077.html

So who was the guy you had an affair with for two years that you posted about last year in March?

How many times have you been married? How long have you been married to the current husband?

I've read back through some of your other posts. Really, the only thing I can recommend is severe mental help, severe therapy. You need it.

Your profile says you're "single and ready to mingle". So are you married or not?

Who's the ex that you were "making eye contact with" in January?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/ex-kept-making-eye-contact-726119.html

In that thread, post #3, you said you were no longer married.

You can't seem to keep your story straight, and the posts you write show that you're not right in the head.

Therapy, I highly recommend it!

I believe I mentioned right from the start that Lisa cannot keep her stories straight. Too bad I don't have time to list the discrepancies.

She is criticizing "her husband" but she herself is single and ready to mingle.

Time to close this nonsense? Lisa has problems too complicated to address here plus a need for attention - good attention, bad attention, doesn't matter.

I believe I mentioned right from the start that Lisa cannot keep her stories straight. Too bad I don't have time to list the discrepancies.

She is criticizing "her husband" but she herself is single and ready to mingle.

Time to close this nonsense?

Time to close and time to ban. This woman is one discrepancy after another. I'd say troll, but I'm not sure she's smart enough to pull that off. Wait... she isn't! ;)