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sportsfanatic19
May 17, 2013, 12:26 PM
Okay, so my girlfriend and I had been dating for about 5 months and we were really happy (or so I thought) when I found out that she had her ex believing that they were still dating. She would tell him she loved him and call him babe and baby and stuff. Anyway, when I found out, I asked her and she started crying and didn't want to talk to me so I broke up with her. Later that day she called me saying sorry and that she doesn't love him and she's going to stop talking to him, which she did for about 3 weeks, and we got back together.

After that, we tried to go back to normal and everything and it seemed like it was until she seemed to start pushing me away. She would hardly talk to me when I saw her, she wouldn't say "I love you" or call me babe or other names like that. I would ask her what was wrong and she would insist everything was fine.

Well this past Sunday I asked her if she had feelings for anyone else and she said "does it seem like I do? Ask me about someone specific and I’ll tell you" so I asked about her ex and she told me that they had been talking again these last few weeks and how when she was with me she thought of him and that last Sunday he left to New Mexico and asked her to go with him and she said no. So he got mad and started telling her how many times he cheated on her and she got sad. When she told me that I got mad and said you should've gone with him, and questioned whether she even loved me this whole time and I said that's why she was acting like a *****. I asked her if she ever loved me, if she still did, and if what we had was anything. She didn't answer so I took that as a no.

She broke up with me over text that day and hasn't talked to me much since but she did text me saying to not assume that because she didn't answer my questions about us that it all meant nothing to her. She also has been avoiding me and not responding to my texts. She says she doesn't want to be with anyone "right now", what does that mean? I love her and want to be with her but I'm not sure if I should even try. Can anyone give me any advice?

Also as of next week we would have been together for 8 months. We are both 18.

Oliver2011
May 17, 2013, 12:31 PM
Yes we can give you advice. In your next relationship strive for less drama. You two don't belong together because all you both do is make drama. Why would you want to be in a relationship that has so much drama. It is wonderful not having drama in the relationship. So learn from this and try to do better next time.

odinn7
May 17, 2013, 12:34 PM
Don't be an idiot. She was playing with him on the side and telling him the same things she was telling you.

Find someone else that doesn't play these games.

But I also have a secret... want to hear it? Ok... I know... yes, I know for a fact that if she calls you and says she wants to get back together... you will do it. Then, you will get along good for a few weeks and then problems will pop up all over again... then you will be back here asking where you went wrong and how to get her back.

Prove me wrong.

Homegirl 50
May 17, 2013, 02:04 PM
Why would you even consider being with her again? She is probably talking to him now. Get a clue, leave her alone.

sportsfanatic19
May 17, 2013, 07:41 PM
Because I love her? Also, she's not talking to him, like I said he moved to New Mexico...

talaniman
May 17, 2013, 08:15 PM
Dude, she was playing you and going behind your back the whole time and chances are she will do it again if you give her a chance by taking her back. This ain't love and it can't be fun.

Now you can love a much a you want, but why be taken advantage of because of it? Look for something better because you deserve it don't you?

Don't look back, she is a liar and cheater.

Alty
May 17, 2013, 08:49 PM
Because I love her? Also, she's not talking to him, like I said he moved to New Mexico...

They can still text, email, skype, call etc. Just because he moved doesn't mean she's no longer talking to him.

She doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. You were a rebound. Move on and find someone that wants to be in a relationship with you, and only you.