girlygirl268
May 7, 2013, 10:22 PM
I have been in a long distance relationship with him for 5 years now and we met online, most of our communication is over the internet. He has always seemed so nice. I have visited him on several occasions and sometimes he's really nice and loving but some of the stuff he does worries me and I'm not sure if this kind of thing will get any worse.
Stuff I'm worried about:
1. He had this towel that he swung around and he'd hit his mom's butt with it after she asked him not to. He'd then do the same thing to me after I told him not to do it as it hurt.
2. Sometimes when I needed to use the restroom he'd try to prevent me from using it.
3. Once when we were laying in his bed I told him that I was hard headed and he said lets see about that and he headbutted into my forehead and I told him to stop but he did it a second time.
4. There was a daddy long leg behind his bed once and I freaked out about it and he pushed me in front of it and I told him to stop but he just kept relentlessly doing it.
5. There was a roach out in his kitchen and I screamed and ran off to his living room and he came out and grabbed me and dragged me back into the kitchen and when I told him to stop he wouldn't listen and he took me back where it was and then ran off to his room and locked his door and started taunting me.
6. Once when I accidentally cut myself shaving and stained my pants a bit I went to tell him what happened and he looked infuriated and shouted at me to go and put them in the washer then and just lost his temper.
7. He tried to push me off the side of his bed one night and I kept telling him not to but he just kept doing it relentlessly.
8. Once when we were at a fast food place I was trying to figure out what I wanted and he got all impatient and gave me a little shove and said move and then ordered our food and then he called out to me asking me why I was being so standoffish until I finally went over to him, it was embarrassing.
9. He gave me birthday spankings once extremely hard and I told him to stop cause it hurt but he wouldn't.
10. He would pinch and pull my nipples extremely hard and when I asked him to stop he would be like "nope, its going to happen, brace yourself for it" and then he would just keep doing it and completely ignore me when I asked him not to and when I told him it was excruciating he would try to insist that I was enjoying it because my nipples got bigger after he did it. Once when I was laying on top of him and he was pinching them, I was struggling to get away and I hurt his finger by mistake and he glared up at me and looked like he wanted to punch me.
11. He pressured me into having anal sex with him before we did it the normal way first (he wanted to try that too but I didn't have protection and he knew I couldn't get pregnant) I really didn't want to try it but I finally gave in because he made me feel guilty for not wanting to try and I wanted to please him and make him happy, we did it with no condom or lube and it was extremely excruciating for me and it made me bleed but he still kept wanting to do it even though I wasn't enjoying myself and we did it several times. He didn't even get tested to see if he had any diseases first.
12. He pressured me into giving him blowjobs and then swallowing his semen afterwards even though he knew I found it gross.
He has his moments where he will make me feel really loved and special despite all this. Will he grow out of this stuff and change or is it likely to escalate? We are in our early 20's.
Stuff I'm worried about:
1. He had this towel that he swung around and he'd hit his mom's butt with it after she asked him not to. He'd then do the same thing to me after I told him not to do it as it hurt.
2. Sometimes when I needed to use the restroom he'd try to prevent me from using it.
3. Once when we were laying in his bed I told him that I was hard headed and he said lets see about that and he headbutted into my forehead and I told him to stop but he did it a second time.
4. There was a daddy long leg behind his bed once and I freaked out about it and he pushed me in front of it and I told him to stop but he just kept relentlessly doing it.
5. There was a roach out in his kitchen and I screamed and ran off to his living room and he came out and grabbed me and dragged me back into the kitchen and when I told him to stop he wouldn't listen and he took me back where it was and then ran off to his room and locked his door and started taunting me.
6. Once when I accidentally cut myself shaving and stained my pants a bit I went to tell him what happened and he looked infuriated and shouted at me to go and put them in the washer then and just lost his temper.
7. He tried to push me off the side of his bed one night and I kept telling him not to but he just kept doing it relentlessly.
8. Once when we were at a fast food place I was trying to figure out what I wanted and he got all impatient and gave me a little shove and said move and then ordered our food and then he called out to me asking me why I was being so standoffish until I finally went over to him, it was embarrassing.
9. He gave me birthday spankings once extremely hard and I told him to stop cause it hurt but he wouldn't.
10. He would pinch and pull my nipples extremely hard and when I asked him to stop he would be like "nope, its going to happen, brace yourself for it" and then he would just keep doing it and completely ignore me when I asked him not to and when I told him it was excruciating he would try to insist that I was enjoying it because my nipples got bigger after he did it. Once when I was laying on top of him and he was pinching them, I was struggling to get away and I hurt his finger by mistake and he glared up at me and looked like he wanted to punch me.
11. He pressured me into having anal sex with him before we did it the normal way first (he wanted to try that too but I didn't have protection and he knew I couldn't get pregnant) I really didn't want to try it but I finally gave in because he made me feel guilty for not wanting to try and I wanted to please him and make him happy, we did it with no condom or lube and it was extremely excruciating for me and it made me bleed but he still kept wanting to do it even though I wasn't enjoying myself and we did it several times. He didn't even get tested to see if he had any diseases first.
12. He pressured me into giving him blowjobs and then swallowing his semen afterwards even though he knew I found it gross.
He has his moments where he will make me feel really loved and special despite all this. Will he grow out of this stuff and change or is it likely to escalate? We are in our early 20's.