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Myhearthasgone
May 2, 2013, 02:00 PM
Well this story is quite long but I will try to say the important parts :)

There is this guy in my class and I used to catch him looking and I said to myself well he does look nice. Then after about a month his friend told me that he has been mentioning me since the first week he saw me but he is really shy to talk to me. I went over to say hi quite a few times when he was with his friends (as I know his friends) but it's either he smiles or ignores me. He acts really weird but it's kind of cute... by the way we are 21 both of us.

I started hanging out with another guy in the meantime but he wasn't my type and I realized that a guy like the one in my class would probably be a faithful person and a crush started to develop. He continued to act quite strange however, one time he came over and told me that he always want to talk to me but he is really shy and hates to do it with his friends pressuring him on the spot. I told him that it's OK and I wanted to too. However, after that it still got awkward... he doesn't talk to me in class and when his friends ask him why he tells them that he's weird or that he starts to panic around me.

Now when I go to talk to his friends, before I leave I give him a hug but he still doesn't say anything... I don't know what to do, I actually became to really like this guy but I have no idea how to get him to be more confident. Any suggestions will be appreciated :)

Homegirl 50
May 2, 2013, 02:08 PM
You guys are 21? If he is too shy to interact with you there is nothing you can do aside from throwing yourself at him, and that would not be smart. Stop paying attention to him, stop the hugging. If he really wants to talk to you, he'll either do it or he won't.

smkanand
May 3, 2013, 03:34 AM
If you will push yourself and he is not responding, this becomes embarrassing and awkward. So leave him alone. Guy is 21, he might be shy but he should give some response when a girl approaches him. I think you should stop getting close to him. If he likes you, he will talk to you.

talaniman
May 3, 2013, 08:09 AM
You should recognize that the cutie you like may not be ready for having the fun of a relationship even at 21. Proceed with caution at your own risk.

Emphasis on CAUTION.

JudyKayTee
May 3, 2013, 02:13 PM
You are both 21? Sounds sort of like Junior High.

I'd stop pressuring him. He knows who you are, where to find you. He probably also knows you have a "crush" on him and is hearing all about it from his friends.

I'd back way off.