Hello,

I'm a 20 year old female virgin. I've periodically tried to masturbate since my mid teens but have never been able to do so. Literally, I have NO sensitivity down there at all. It feels no different than touching my elbow. Friends say than can barely touch their directly because it is so sensitive - I can rub it all over and not feel a thing. I also don't think I've ever felt horny - I am attracted to guys, but have never really felt horny the way other people describe. I'm not sure if that's just immaturity or part of a bigger problem. Maybe a hormonal one? I'm starting to get quite worried that there is something wrong with me.

I've tried all different methods of masturbation, from stuff I've read online. Nothing feels good or different or anything. I don't take any regular medication. I'm 5'2 and 95 lbs and have always been extremely thin, but healthy. I am not very physically active right now, although I have been in the past. I have regular periods, although they are quite a bit more painful than most of my friends. I'm saying all this because I'm not sure if any of it is relevant or not.

Any help you could give me would be greatly appreciated. I'm really worried that this won't go away once I'm older and start to have sex for real. I don't want to miss out on this part of life.

A few ideas:

- You need fantasy, plain and simple. We all differ in the amount we need.
- You have a thicker and bigger hood over your clitoris than other women. Next time you have a checkup, don't be afraid to mention it and ask, and look at 'clitoral hood reduction' on wikipedia. There are pictures. I don't know if the monitors here will allow this indirect reference to the pictures or not.
- Your hormone levels are unusual, even though you have periods. You do say you are very thin and it could be related to that.
- You need something in your vagina, something you can push on with one hand while you rub your clitoris with the other.