View Full Version : How do I get over an ex that I was dating before I got saved? Please help me.
ndeshi2
Apr 9, 2013, 05:31 PM
I'm a girl of 19 years. I am born again and before I got saved I had a boyfriend that I thought I loved so much and he loved me too. When I gave my life to Christ, he refused to give his. It was tragic to break up with him. After our break up we became just friends, but I think I still have feelings for him. Please help me on how to handle this.
joypulv
Apr 9, 2013, 05:40 PM
I don't understand how you can say you THOUGHT you used to love him BUT you gave your life to Christ, as though the second part automatically follows the first.
You still love him. He still loves you.
How sad that you think he has to be like you.
Giving your life to Christ doesn't require you to drag others with you.
If you have a child who decides he wants to be a Buddhist, will you disown him?
Where does this rejection end? Family? Best friends too?
Let people be who they are, and you worry about yourself.
Alty
Apr 9, 2013, 06:14 PM
Oops! You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to joypulv again.
I couldn't agree more!
Just because you decided to give your life to Christ, doesn't mean he has to. You either love him for who he is, or you don't. He doesn't have to follow you in everything you do to be a good person, and a good boyfriend.
Why is it that religious people expect others to be like them, or they chuck them out of their lives? That's not love, and it's not very Christian behavior.
Homegirl 50
Apr 9, 2013, 06:17 PM
You broke up with him because he did not give his life to Christ, yet you still talk to him. Does that make sense? Think about it. You love him he loves you why can you not still be together? You still are together.
Wondergirl
Apr 9, 2013, 06:54 PM
Doesn't a child of God show by her good works and cheerful disposition that it is a wondrous thing to be a Christian, so that others will marvel and say, "I want that too"? You are blessed to be a blessing to this guy (and others) once you stop being judgmental.