I'm 8 months pregnant and feel so alone, unwanted, not cared for, ugly, and like I don't mean anything to him.

My baby daddy wanted me to have a abortion when I told him I was pregnant, I guess he finally got over it and realized I was serious about keeping the baby.

He has left me twice since I've been pregnant, he comes back after a few days. But after him leaving now I don't believe he'll stay. Every time he leaves its some how my fault even though I treat him so good. I'm always the one begging him to come back. He never says sorry.

He doesn't do anything for me. I wait on him and keep our room clean and made while he plays video games when he's here.

He doesn't talk much or at all about the baby or my pregnancy. He says I complain a lot and that the pain I have is over exaggerated. When we go to doctor visits he stays on the phone and doesn't pay attention to anything. Same way when we go to the hospital. He acts like he doesn't care or want to be there. He has told me before I make up a lot of the things I say wrong with me in my head and when there is a problem we don't need to tell the doctor or run to the hospital when the doctor tells us to. I wish I could say he acts exited about the ultrasounds but no, it's the same way.

He goes out and does whatever he wants and all I do is sit at home and wait for him to come back. I don't think he wants to take me out or have me tag along with anything. Because I say I want to go with him or I want to go somewhere together and nothing ever happens. He has never called me pretty, beautiful, sexy ex. Threw out our whole relationship. He makes fun of the way I look sometimes now that I'm pregnant. I think he is just kidding but sometimes it really doesn't seem that way. I've told him I want us to hang out more but it doesn't happen.

He is a hard person to talk to, he gets mad very easily and likes to act smartelic. He can't ever just see that I need him to cry out to and be there for me. He doesn't take my feelings into consideration when dealing with anything.

He makes time for his friends but not for me. Then he complains that all I do is sit around. I don't want to go out with anyone else but him so what else am I suppose to do then stay home?

He smokes and drinks and knows I don't like it but that doesn't stop him.
I honestly don't think he cares about me and the baby at all or that he wants us. I mean would you act this way if you did?

I really don't want to lose him, I love him and me and the baby need him. He makes me happy at times but I don't like that I spend 24/7 worrying about him and trying to keep him happy when he acts like he couldn't care less about me. I want us 3 as a family forever. He says he wants that also for right now but you can't make someone stay if they aren't happy.

I have so many doubts because I feel like I can't rely on him, he always lets me down or disappoints me. I never want the baby to feel this way.

I want him to be here for me, I want him to be supportive, act like he cares, treat me good, not talk down to me, make me feel pretty, comfort me, help me... I want him to just show me he still loves and wants me :(

What am I suppose to do? Help, please.

32 weeks and 3 days pregnant

Yea your right he shouldn't do so.I think you should sit with him when he's in a good mood or go with him on a long drive or walk,and tell everything you want to be changed in him,talk to him in a loving,polite and soft way,and calm down when he gets angry and keep omd saying what you want.I hope everythng will be all right.and dear you don't take too much tension these days.KEEP COOL.

Well, this is the thing. Clearly you aren't married, and aren't of the age or at the point in your lives when either of you were really ready to be parents. You are getting on board with parenting because it's the decision you made, your child is very real to you and you feel this will be best in the long run. I'm sure when you think of your child, you are thinking well into the future and you are wanting to build a family, probably figuring, "it's not how I planned it but I'll just start my family sooner - it will be fine".

Your boyfriend was not ready to marry you when you got pregnant and he's not done being a boy. He is not going to mature faster because you want him to. He's not going to do the right thing because you say he should. He's a boy, and he's acting like a boy. You are turning into not only the mother of your child, but you're starting to make him feel like you're his mother, too - setting rules for him like when he can go out and whether he should smoke or drink. He's doing the same thing he does to his mom probably - he's avoiding you.

You represent the end of his youth to him, and a responsibility that scares the crap out of him. He doesn't want a family yet. He wanted you, the teenage girlfriend who was light and fun. He doesn't want the mom who needs him to be a grown man, make money and take on adult responsibility. You could look like Cindy Crawford and he would still not be ready for the responsibility.

It is time to get very realistic. First, he's not going to be there for you, period. You are having a baby with a child, and children aren't much help as breadwinners or child care providers. Your help is going to come from your family, or from other support you are able to put together. You need to be realistic about whether you can do this without him. If he works, you can get an order for child support for him to help you with money but it won't be enough.

He acts like a jerk at your appointments, when you are uncomfortable, when you need his support because it all relates to this looming responsibility that he doesn't want and which is more than he can handle. Too bad for him - he got you pregnant and has to face the music. But the best I think you can hope for is a court order to force him to take some financial responsibility by getting a job and paying you child support. Over time, he may or may not become more involved and interested as he matures.

Perhaps his parents would help you - help with some child care, or pay for some diapers or whatever - if he won't step up to the plate.

I would suggest you get in touch with a social service agency such as Lutheran Social Services or Catholic Charities and see if they have programs to help young, single mothers. Assume he's not going to be any help at all and that you have to do this on your own. If he does help you, it will be a bonus.