My boyfriend is a DJ we have been in a relationship for 3 1/2 years. Our main issue for the constant fighting is because I no longer trust him. I found text messages to other women on his phone, these women seem to be interested so I have a feeling he's not being honest with me. He also never wants me to come to the clubs nor does he invite me. I have put so much into this relationship from planning trips to also paying for most of our outings. He is acting cold and blames it all on me telling me if I would act normal things would be fine but I have a feeling something is wrong he is rejecting me and doesn't look at me the same way anymore, I wish I had the courage to leave I hate him for hurting me and treating me like this!

You no longer trust him. I guess you know that you better leave him. Because this guy is selfish and insensitive. You should leave him sooner or later. Sooner the better.

you no longer trust him. I guess you know that you better leave him. because this guy is selfish and insensitive. you should leave him sooner or later. sooner the better.
Yea I know I should but sometimes I'd rather he tell me he doesn't love me anymore. Instead he confuses me by telling me that he does and that the fights stem from my insecurities and me asking him a million questions because I'm suspicious which I am. I don't know why he doesn't admit he's texting other women he brushes it off and he's clearly hiding something because he never takes me to his clubs when he spins its like I'm on the back burner and he only sees me on Sundays, I'm so depressed about this it's breaking my heart!

That's the problem, your are hurt because he broke your heart. And you can not let him do it anymore. So get out of this relationship. Think positive and leave this meaningless relationship. Future has better things for you and this guy don't deserve you.