I feel like a mess. I've been in a relationship for a while now. A while meaning 2 years. Since the new year I have noticed I am miserable I have serious anxiety/depression because of this and am growing weary of my situation. She's a great girl she really is. However I do not see myself with her my entire life. Now people tell me its as easy as saying its over. But its harder then that. I'm relativity close with the family and am scared something would happen to me if I were to up and leave the relationship. I'm not happy and haven't felt happy since I can remember. I feel like I'm going crazy and my thoughts are a wreck. I've even considered the possibilities of moving away just to get out of it. I feel like I'm so in over my head that Its to late to get out.

I have been seeing a counselor but it only helps for the time being I need to get out of this relationship but I'm scared to leave. I don't know what it is.

Can someone please tell me how I can get out. I'd like to leave the relationship on good terms. As I said she's a great girl. Just not the right one for me, Also we have discussed that we will potentially not be together forever. And she always tells me if I'm unhappy just tell her. But why can't I just tell her I am unhappy. What do I do where do I go from here? Please help me!

Have you discussed this with the counselor?

Have you discussed this with the counselor?

Umm briefly. I was just hoping maybe someone could give me advice based on personal experience you know?

In all the breakups I've experienced, we were honest with each other and kept it cut and dried, with no apologizing or sobbing or hugging or discussion, and the world kept spinning. Are you worried about her and how she will handle a breakup (it sounds like she will be fine) or really more worried about yourself?

She asked you to be honest, so that's what you do. Try writing your thoughts down and rereading them over, and over until they are rehearsed. Must be your first time ending a relationship, huh?

For sure the longer you wait, the harder it is and the more deceptive you appear, afraid or NOT. Breakups are very hard.

It's honestly really difficult because you are probably very comfortable with this person and you fear the process of moving on because you fear you might regret it later. That's the only reason I could see why you'd still be holding on. If I were you, I'd really take some time to myself and just focus on other things in the mean time.
It sounds to me like she is very understanding and if you just open up to her about this I'm sure you'll feel a huge weight lifted off your shoulders.