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JANUJAN
Apr 1, 2013, 02:14 PM
I'm a thirteen year old boy, and my mother is depressed. She's told me that she wants a car, but we can barely afford anything. And my dad is basically an enemy to my mom, and vice versa. They don't support each other, and now her depression is trickling down to me. What can I do?

talaniman
Apr 2, 2013, 09:11 AM
What can you do? Understand that your parents are always angry at each other and don't give into the negative feelings of the adults. How long have they been divorced?

You are so young and I wonder if telling them both that their adult crap is making you miserable would help? What do you think? Got any aunts, or uncles?

smkanand
Apr 2, 2013, 10:20 AM
I thin your mom need counselling, you should talk to your elder about it. If you can do yoga with your mother, this will help her both of you to stress free and can help depression.

JudyKayTee
Apr 2, 2013, 10:56 AM
They can't afford "anything." Where is the money for yoga going to come from?

I agree - you need an older relative or trusted person to step in and tell them both that their endless battles are putting you in the middle and making you unhappy.

JANUJAN
Apr 2, 2013, 01:18 PM
My parents aren't divorced. It is against our religion to get divorced. And my mom and dad barely talk, if they do it's usually a fight. I've got to admit though that my dad is a bit selfish, and he's intimidating.

joypulv
Apr 2, 2013, 01:43 PM
You can tell her that you love her and ask her if there is any way you can help.
Errands for her on a bicycle? Hang out with her while she slaves over dinner all alone, and ask her to teach you things? Do the dishes, don't mess up the house?
Other than that, all you can do is plan your life for a mere 5 years from now, when you are an adult on your own. That means study hard and think of a living you can make that doesn't take college, unless you are super smart and can get a scholarship. Work on skills that you can start now. Do you have any special interests that can lead to a career?

Wondergirl
Apr 2, 2013, 01:48 PM
My parents aren't divorced. It is against our religion to get divorced. And my mom and dad barely talk, if they do it's usually a fight. I've got to admit though that my dad is a bit selfish, and he's intimidating.
If that is true, it is probably also against your religion to fight and argue and be selfish and intimidating.

Like Joy said, knock yourself out helping with cooking and chores. It will pay off in huge dividends when you are older.

JANUJAN
Apr 2, 2013, 02:00 PM
Thanks guys, definitely trying that out tonight and I'm going to see if she'll be positive about it.