My wife and I are going on a vacation. We have a hotel room with a Jacuzzi, I thought if I reserved the Jacuzzi room, it would spice things up a bit. We been married for coming on 3 years, and I just wanted to get some advice on some ideas to "really spice up" the relationship. Nothing really wrong with our marriage, we just seem to be doing the same ol same ol, and I thought I, being the guy, could try something that may really excite her. I tried looking things up on-line, but for some reason I only get directed to freakin porn sites! I want something a little more realistic, more relatable, more exciting than crap they show in the internet porn.

I will even check out links to sites you find I seem to not have been able to. Yes, I am that computer illiterate. I type "Role playing" and I get either a bunch of porn sites, or things she would never even come close to trying. Any ideas?

You want spice, stop thinking like a guy and show her a great time outside the hotel, and Jacuzzi, and get the best wine for later. Be the charming suave international gentle man and show her the sites she can only see on TV. Get a map of the places of interest and check the restaurants, good food AND music

Spare no expense. Make love to her mind and her imagination. Candles and wine work better than porn.

Tal's right. If my husband kept me captive for hours in a hotel room with a Jacuzzi, I might hide under the bed. Take me out sightseeing to places you know I would like to see, give me a nice dinner and not worry about the cost of everything, maybe take me to a new movie, and happily exhausted, I will be your slave forever, Jacuzzi or not

Ask me what I'd like to do - I went on a cruise. The best time was the two of us, on the veranda, sipping port.

Just get out there and show her the side of you she fell in love with ")

She still loves him - he's looking to spice things up.

Any thoughts?

Role playing, costumes, body paints, what does she like

I want something a little more realistic, more relatable, more exciting than crap they show in the internet porn.

If you're looking at porn for ideas, you're in big trouble, and will likely be locked out of the hotel room.

Talk to her, ask her what she likes. Above all, don't make this vacation just about you spicing things up. Have fun, do something romantic without the intention of getting her in the sack.

Tal hit the nail on the head, make love to her mind. That's how we gals work.