Hi, all.

I am a sixteen year old girl, and back in September, I began talking more this guy. Just a few months ago I started to really like him as we started talking more. We go to the same high school together, however, we also take the same community college classes too. At first I thought he had been a bit interested in me, because we talk till 3:30-4AM in the morning on Skype, and overall just really late in the night. My friends have caught him staring at me multiple times. There are occasions where he gets in my "personal" space and touches my arm and my back etc. He also treats me to lunch between classes a few times too. He's called me cute and etc too. We were going to go to our high schools Tolo together as well, but it got canceled. He's usually the very obnoxious and loud type of person, however, when he's around me he's very calm, thoughtful and quiet. I've grown to like him, because he shows me another side of him that he doesn't show around his friends.

I built up the huge courage to ask him how he felt about me over Face Time, (this was my first time outright admitting my feelings to a boy), when I finally told him, he told me he didn't know what to say, and I asked him why, and he told me he doesn't hear "I like you" very often and had so many things to say to me but was just in total shock. He told me he couldn't put it all together to say to me. It just lead to a long period where we just stared at each other through Face Time. I told him it's okay if he didn't feel the same way and he replied with, "That's not what I said." He just kept telling me that he absolutely didn't know what to say and he needed more time to gather his thoughts. I said okay and we scheduled another time to talk. I didn't know what to expect at all. The following Monday night, we Face Timed again (we were originally supposed to meet in person but our schedules got messed up), he told me he felt the same way as in "that I was funny and nice and a good person, but not the exact way I wanted." Even though I was so hurt, I told him it was okay multiple times, and he told me it wasn't okay. I asked him why and he told me that he doesn't know why he doesn't like me, but he should, because I made him feel comfortable, and like he could tell me anything (he is a private person, and hardly ever expresses his feelings).

He told me how he doesn't even feel this way when he's around his parents. He told me that I'm one of 4 people who he can rely on, and he told me that for some reason I make him very happy when he's with me, and that he can be his true self. He also told me that he doesn't know why, but he naturally acts different around me. In addition, he told me that he didn't think he could make me happy like my ex did. He began to almost cry because he believes that him rejecting me would make our friendship disappear, because I'm special and didn't want me to leave. He told me he hasn't slept since I confessed my feelings, and has even picked up his poetry because he couldn't find another way to express all that he was feeling (which he hasn't started again since freshman year).

I was completely torn, and I told him that I may need some time to myself about this, because I really like him a lot and at the time, I felt like I should get over him by taking time away. He asked me how much time, and I told him that we'll know when it's "normal" again, and I couldn't give a better answer than that. My heart broke, because I've never seen him so vulnerable and sad, but at the time I wanted to do what was best for me. I was also so confused because I've been friend zoned before but never like this. The way he spoke and the way he was spilling all these feelings toward me wasn't how I've been friend zoned before. It was just so overwhelming. Now that he's told me how he felt toward me, it makes me want to continue being his friend without time away, and it makes me like him even more.

Some of my friends feel like I should just move on from him but others feel like he could possibly begin to have feelings for me and I should "fight" for him. Given the situation, what would be the best choice? I have a friend who has liked his friend for almost a year, and his friend has hardly responded positively to his efforts and I don't want to be stuck chasing after a guy who clearly won't budge. However, my past boyfriend, we were very close and he liked best friend at the time, but eventually started liking me after we spent more time together. So I've seen both outcomes happen from chasing after someone you like.

However, moving on would seem more simple and less painful, but I really like this guy and I'm willing to fight for him. Which is the best choice? Thank you SO MUCH for your answers.

The first mind is often the best one. Fighting for love you don't have may not be a good idea.

Especially in time sounds like a great friendship... in time for not now... to many feelings and expectations to get over.

Hey, there.

You know, you might think you like him, but actually you don't. It's a puzzle thrown to you and you must know where all the pieces fall.

For the many times your friends told you that he likes you, you grew to your friends' expectations to like him. But in reality, you would have never thought of him more than a friend, if your friends did not middle.
I advise you to forget him. You know, staring does not mean anything. Sometimes, I lose my attention in class, and the first thing I stare at is my friends; normally, you would look at people you know. That is a very casual behavior, you are friends, of course, and you are going to be the first thing he looks at, it does not prove anything my friend.

Also, your confession confused him, just because he never thought of you more than a friend, and not because he likes you.